To not want DHs toys all over the fkn living room?

Why not compromise and agree on a certain amount of shelf space for him to display the things that bring him joy? He definitely needs to clean up the empty boxes though, that's not on.

He sounds like a complete whelp; does he kiss them all goodnight before bed; kick him to the kerb & get yourself a real man girl not some knob hockey who collects dolls for a hobby

More of a compromise than pre agreeing with him before moving that he would get an entire room for storing and displaying his toys, plus already acccepting his 30+ plants all over the windowsills?

I'm not sure OP could be more compromising, tbh...

LOL this is how I feel about my 3 year olds ever growing car and super hero collection, however I am happy to accommodate him. OP you picked him maybe you can choose the cabinets/ shelves in your style and colours as a compromise. Store and organise some in stylish boxes. More space, more room for things

He lives there too……he has just as much say as you. Why not behave like an adult and compromise.

I'm not in a good mood today and reading this post of another lazy selfish man doing his own thing without thought of it's impact on anyone but himself is peeing me right off.
Tell him to get his stuff out the living room and sort out his toy room or u going on strike and start playing hardball with him.
It's ridiculous for a man to leave his toys in the grown up living room when he has a space upstairs. It's absolutely NOT the same as a vase of flowers or normal stuff. Rant over.

My husband collects figures, dvds, blu rays and has filled a whole dining room. I have put a nice room divider screen across as it’s a lounge diner. He knows he’s not allowed to cross the line into the lounge. He’s running out of space but is still constantly buying more. We don’t have access to a loft space or any other room. I’ve told him when we move and have to downsize next year he’s going to have to rent a storage unit for it all. Drives me mad that he can’t see that he’s run out of space.

Couldn’t cope with a man child. Huge ick.

For me the defining factor is, just how small is this upstairs room?

If there's literally only space to display the stuff and nowhere to sit and enjoy it. I can see why he's been reluctant. I'm a "collector" and I like sitting with my things around me. If it would end up being nothing more than a "cupboard" for his stuff then he's not going to get the enjoyment from it.

However, if it's large enough to display things and have some kind of sofa or even just a comfortable chair so he can spend time in there relaxing, then I am more on the OP's side. So for me, that's a crucial bit of information.

That being said, it is unreasonable of him to want all of his collection displayed in public areas of the house. I think a few items rotated (as many pp's have suggested) would be the way to go.

I am thankful I live alone and can have whatever crap I like, anywhere I like 😁

I agree with him. You can have what you want on shelves. So can he. But I do think he needs to make them presentable. So neat on a nice shelf and not cluttering counter space, table space or floor space.

I would gather them all up and move them upstairs, I wouldn’t like childish toys all over my lounge either! Considering he’s now got a room for all this shit YANBU

He's a collector. He's not playing with them. It's well known that collectibles are worth loads more in their original boxes. My DH has a themed collection and everything is in original boxes, nothing has been used (including stuff like mugs etc relating to the theme).
However, OP I'm with you. The collection should be kept together in his room and displayed properly, not all over the house.

YANBU.

And please, let's not pretend that a "collection" that is overflowing from an entire ROOM is the same as a few artfully placed photos and flowers!

I've had similar here, with me and 3 sons plus husband who are all Marvel mad. I've allowed the second lounge to be a gaming room and that's where everything will go - aside from a select few items that are gaming related but they are mine

I feel like a lot of posters are hyper focused on the specific items, as they also have some similar interests and similar things (though presumably not a spare room, a loft and a storage container full). If you replaced Lego and Marvel stuff with phallic sculptures and photos of Tony Blair, I bet all the plastic tat apologists would soon change their minds about how much of DH stuff they would want in the living room.

It's perfectly reasonable for him to want some of his collectables on display in the communal area rather than all being stored away in the spare room.

Have an equal number of shelves each in the living room, where they can be put neatly, and anything that doesn't fit onto "his" shelves needs to be stored in the spare room and he can rotate as needed.

I'd rather remove the candles and photos and have a boring living room than compromise and have both 😂

He bought her the flowers......?

Did you look at what they were?

I'm really particular about our home and couldn't stand DH's hobby-related crap everywhere.
I happily let him take the second largest bedroom in the house so that he could store EVERYTHING in one place.
YANBU OP.

There is absolutely no way I could live with those in the sitting room.

If no compromise could be reached, I would genuinely end the marriage. They would make me so tense, so deep is my hatred for shit like that.

OP YADNBU

I can't believe the amount of posts saying the communal candles and photo of your kids are the same as a load of garish plastic tat!! You've come up with a plan for this house - he has a room. It's absolutely perfectly normal to not want that crap in your living room. I'd go mad. My kids are still an age where they have a lot of toys but Lego is displayed in their bedrooms and toys in the living room are stored in boxes on shelves. It's everybody's living room, not theirs, so their stuff does not get to dominate.

I agree with this. You have to be firmer and consistent. Move it all. Stop anything else from appearing.

This would drive me insane.

Although I’d suggest if he’s not bothered sorting out his existing collection hoard, and instead acquired 30 more figures in a year… this isn’t a collection. It’s a compulsion/hoarding.

If you move them, how would he react?

I’m with you OP , you want a living room you can relax in and host visitors etc not another display case for one partners collection. He’s got a space up to put them , so have a sensible conversation and help him put up shelves and unpack boxes in his space. Fold up all the empty boxes and store in loft or garage. I have a lot of sewing stuff in a spare room and my OH has his books and guitars in a study, fair enough. Those figures are horrible btw.

I have a rule for my 5yo who has a massive bedroom with toys that he can only bring one toy to play in the living area and if he doesn't take it back to his room before bed, it will go in the bin. Maybe slowly threaten him and then get rid of one by one?