Neighbour won't give me my parcel

wearing headphones ?

We had this issue with a neighbour. I tried 3 times, knew they were in every time as I could see them through the window. I contacted the retailer and told them and they had no choice but to re-send it out to me. I then got a sticker from Royal Mail to put on my front door that said any parcels should be taken to the delivery office when I wasn't in.

Problem sorted.

Don’t know why everyone’s having a pop at you - or assuming he works! I would contact the sender and say it hasn’t been received.

Put a note through the door saying thank you for taking in my parcel, my number is 0123 456789; would you mind dropping me a text when it’s convenient for me to pick it up?” And dial down the drama about how he “won’t give it to you” when he’s probably just busy or didn’t hear the door.

Did you get it?

I wear my headphones in ky home and listen to music loud. He might too.
Even at that....he might not even hear you

If you only missed by 5 minutes then I can see that maybe his door bell rang he stopped whatever he was doing to answer it for your parcel. If you ring 5 minutes later he's probably only just got back into whatever he was doing and not wanting to stop again. YABU Try again later or maybe he'll pop it over at a time that suits him

If you haven't got it within 24 hours, take it up with the seller - your parcel has not been delivered. ( unless you say to leave it with a neighbour)

Don’t be silly, “won’t give me my parcel” 🙄

Do you always leap to wild conclusions?

Sometimes I'm in my house and can't answer the door as I'm breastfeeding both twins at the same time or if the babies are crying at the same time, I can't hear anything. Maybe just post a slip through his letter box and say that you're in and for him to hand it over please. You say it's a loud house, so maybe he genuinely couldn't hear the knock. I missed my parcel delivery and I was in the house playing with my 3 kids. They were all being quiet but the ring doorbell had ran out of charge and so we couldn't hear him at all. I just noticed a text which said an attempt had been made to deliver. It was frustrating but there you go

He's probably a Mumsnetter o and one of the 95% who never answer their doors 🤷‍♀️🤣

He hasn't refused to give it you. He's busy. Put a note through the door.

Our neighbour works from home and so will sometimes takes parcels in for us. I always wait til the evening to knock to ask for them - I figure if he’s been interrupted once to take in the parcel he’s unlikely to want to be disturbed again by me until after work.

You’ve literally knocked twice. He could have been in or just out of the shower, undressed, listening to music on headphones, working, not wanting to be disturbed from his favourite tv show, on the phone, cooking something he couldn’t leave unattended, on the toilet etc

Neighbour is probably one of the mumsnetters who doesn’t answer their doors.

So your title is misleading as your neighbour hasn’t refused to give you the parcel which is what your title insinuates

They may have been on the phone, working, just out the shower. Don’t go in all guns blazing yet and if you are going to be this worked up about a parcel either be in for it or if there is a chance you won’t be there are plenty of other ways to get it that doesn’t involve your neighbours

This is why click and collect is a god send if there is a chance you might kiss it. Not one parcel of mine has made it to a neighbour in all the years I have lived here

Alternatively he took in their parcel, thinking he was being kind and helpful, is now in the middle of something but ends up with a loon hammering on his door and waving.

Give the chap a couple of hours to drop it round. This kind of behaviour is why I don’t take in parcels for neighbours anymore.

You dont get that option for every company or parcel, for example on Amazon only certain things can be delivered to the lockers or local shop

Jesus, I hate this, the thought that someone comes round and is knocking on my door when Im in the middle of something, hands up to whatever, or worse getting changed straight from work but perhaps someone has seen me arrive home (first thing I do is go to toilet and get changed, usually banging around because Im falling all over the place) or inconveniently I have to take a work call or sign into a teams meeting and cant come to the door and then Ive got an anxious angry neighbour panicking and mithering because no one is answering the door.

Just be patient, message them or leave a note saying thanks for taking my parcel in, Im home now, let me know when its convenient to pick it up and leave your number

What is wrong with people

@redpedal think for future deliveries, you might want to arrange pick up at a drop off shop

What is it? Is it valuable? I'd just keep knocking and then try and wave. It's unlikely he's got earphones in each time you've knocked!

You could try a note. I had an extremely passive aggressive neighbour once who would pretend not to be in to make me wait for parcels (on the rare occasion it happened) so once I stood knocking on her door continuously until she came to answer it. I think how calm and polite I was when she answered pissed her off more than having her door hammered on for ages.

He could be working, my bosses work from home (nanny) they don’t even here me and those child playing downstairs.

Call another time. We often do not answer the door at meal times or if on the phone. If we are cooking we tend to close the kitchen door and do not hear bell etc.

If you try a couple of times and there is not answer pop a note in the letter box asking could be leave the parcel out at 7pm and that you will collect it.

If it's something you bought online, it's up to the seller to sort out. As far as you're concerned, your item hasn't arrived. You have no contact with the delivery service.