Page 9 | No shorts at my wedding

Teasloth · 09/05/2024 18:05

If I'd paid to go to someone's wedding to then be told what to wear, I'd be declining

sumayyah · 09/05/2024 18:02

MumOfHals · 08/05/2024 11:54

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

My sister married in a church in Spain
People were asked to observe Church rules of shoulders and knees covered
Several women went against the rule but the men all managed to source linen trousers to wear

Some folks then changed for the reception which was not a formal location and put on shorts at this point, others felt comfortable enough in linen to stay as they were

You could ask for body parts to be covered with it being a formal location if your not comfortable saying no shorts but it leaves it open to interpretation

OtsyBotsy90 · 09/05/2024 18:01

People on here can be absolutely awful sometimes.

It’s not rude at all. Don’t use caps though! Have a lovely wedding!

DoughBallss · 09/05/2024 17:40

The reason we opted to get married in this country was because I wouldn’t cope with a dress in the heat so I do think it’s reasonable to expect people to wear trousers - not everyone is good in heat (me = sweaty mess and I’d take nobbly knees over sweaty foreheads any day of the week)

But if it is something you’re set on then just be straight up, no shorts at the ceremony please

Mumblebeeee · 09/05/2024 17:37

MumOfHals · 08/05/2024 16:36

THANK YOU

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I don’t think overheating because you’re forced to wear trousers in a hot country makes you a chav 🙈

is there a temperature threshold ie shorts allowed if it hits 40c?

RampantIvy · 09/05/2024 17:15

Anyone else Google the meaning of the word cani?

missmollygreen · 09/05/2024 17:00

As long as it is just for the main ceremony and pictures.
After that shorts should be allowed

BrightonFrock · 09/05/2024 16:58

Just did 😝

OneTC · 09/05/2024 16:51

You can't break out the puke emoji and simultaneously advocate that adult males wear a short suit, sorry.

BrightonFrock · 09/05/2024 16:46

OneTC · 09/05/2024 14:09

Smart shorts, have a word

I’m afraid I switch off when anyone says “Have a word”.

Although it’s not quite as bad as when OP said her fiancé wears chino shorts “On the regular” 🤮

colabottle5 · 09/05/2024 16:18

deffo not BU, i would hate if someone turned up to my wedding dressed like that. Maybe you can put formal attire only/black tie event on the invite?

crumbpet · 09/05/2024 15:12

disaggregate · 09/05/2024 15:06

I've been at weddings in Spain and Greece where one or two male guests have worn tailored short suits and they have looked as smart and formal as others in lounge suits. Good quality linen can look smart if the tailoring's right.

Some places even advertise short suits as wedding attire - eg in seersucker - not saying I like it, but as in the pic, from here: https://tinyurl.com/57a57cau

That looks horrible

crumbpet · 09/05/2024 15:11

MumOfHals · 08/05/2024 11:54

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. no shorts or trainers please.

Though are you insisting the ladies cover their knees too?

LaBrujaPiruja · 09/05/2024 15:11

disaggregate · 09/05/2024 15:06

I've been at weddings in Spain and Greece where one or two male guests have worn tailored short suits and they have looked as smart and formal as others in lounge suits. Good quality linen can look smart if the tailoring's right.

Some places even advertise short suits as wedding attire - eg in seersucker - not saying I like it, but as in the pic, from here: https://tinyurl.com/57a57cau

Personally I think this is a horrible look. Suit jackets do not marry well with shorts.

LaBrujaPiruja · 09/05/2024 15:10

Most men in Spain (and all Spanish men I know) own a “lana fría” formal suit (cool wool, <= 120 threads I think, the fabric is cool despite being wool) for summer so even a linen suit is not considered formal enough for a wedding. Zara and Massino Dutti offer them relatively cheap, with the mid-price option being something like Emidio Tucci at El Corte Inglés and if you want to pay more you can choose something more upmarket or a tailor. Some guys also wear light cotton twill suits during the summer.

The guy in a burgundy suit upthread looks like what is called in Spain a “cani”, so not a good example of what a random Spaniard would be wearing at a wedding.

IMHO women overdress for attending a wedding in Spain, there’s no need of ball gowns or long party dresses but this has been the norm for the last 20 years or so. Thank god men cannot overdress in this sense and are kind of “restricted” to a suit.

disaggregate · 09/05/2024 15:06

I've been at weddings in Spain and Greece where one or two male guests have worn tailored short suits and they have looked as smart and formal as others in lounge suits. Good quality linen can look smart if the tailoring's right.

Some places even advertise short suits as wedding attire - eg in seersucker - not saying I like it, but as in the pic, from here: https://tinyurl.com/57a57cau

Coconutter24 · 09/05/2024 14:37

Misthios · 08/05/2024 17:19

Is it a real wedding, or is it a fakey ceremony with the "boring paperwork" done in the UK beforehand?

I fail to see how this question has any relevance to the bride’s preference of no shorts

Kalevala · 09/05/2024 14:11

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/05/2024 13:32

Women's fashion and dress standards have been different from men's for millennia. It's not sexist.

People have been sexist for millennia. Unless it is a clothing difference because of different body parts, shapes, or functions then it's just sexism. Tailored shorts on men or women are the same.

*stupid autocorrect doesn't approve of the word sexist

OneTC · 09/05/2024 14:09

Smart shorts, have a word

OneTC · 09/05/2024 14:09

BrightonFrock · 09/05/2024 13:49

Can people stop pretending that "tailored short suits" are anything other than completely horrible.

Can you stop pretending that anyone who disagrees with you must be lying?

No 😛

And to be completely honest I accept that there are some blokes that would happily dress like 13 year olds and there are other people sufficiently lacking in taste that would applaud it

SouthLondonMum22 · 09/05/2024 13:56

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/05/2024 13:32

Women's fashion and dress standards have been different from men's for millennia. It's not sexist.

Of course it’s sexist.

BrightonFrock · 09/05/2024 13:49

Can people stop pretending that "tailored short suits" are anything other than completely horrible.

Can you stop pretending that anyone who disagrees with you must be lying?

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/05/2024 13:32

Women's fashion and dress standards have been different from men's for millennia. It's not sexist.

Kalevala · 09/05/2024 13:12

SharpLily · 09/05/2024 12:58

Some people just don't like shorts on men, that's fair enough, but I'd be interested to know if they have the same objections to a smart shorts suit on a woman, the kind Kate MIddleton has worn for example? It's good enough for a royal engagement but not for a wedding?

It all sounds quite sexist to me. Women's legs being acceptable but not men's. Should be the same rule for both.

SharpLily · 09/05/2024 12:58

Some people just don't like shorts on men, that's fair enough, but I'd be interested to know if they have the same objections to a smart shorts suit on a woman, the kind Kate MIddleton has worn for example? It's good enough for a royal engagement but not for a wedding?