No shorts at my wedding

Also meant to add - my grandfather always told us to "dress as a sign of respect for the people you'd be meeting" -and it's always stuck with me.. if you are attending a wedding - you respect the bride and groom and dress appropriately- the same for the work place you are in.. you dress accordingly..

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I've seen some batshit comments on MN, but this thread has some crackers! Men who live in hot countries cope with long trousers every day. They wouldn't dream of attending a wedding or other formal function in shorts.

You choose to get married in Spain! A hot country! Of course the men should be allowed to wear shorts!; ladies can wear a dress or skirt with bare legs!!

I had a friend who put - "no shorts" on her invite and one male guest still wore them.. agree that it's in really bad taste for a wedding .. it just looked scruffy ..

Dress code: Summer Elegance for the ladies and formal attire for the men. (long trousers please)

Well, they are, but the British and French people there certainly weren’t used to the weather and no one rocked up in shorts unless you count the under fives. As someone upthread said, OP isn’t requesting wool suits, just… no shorts. Jacket potatoes though 😂 I know exactly what you mean

I’d put ‘Dress code: formal attire’. If you put ‘no shorts’ you may get a few deciding to wear casual summer skirts/dresses instead.

Here come the Brit’s abroad brigade! Next time you are on holiday in Europe, head into town have a look around and see who else is wearing shorts, usually just the British tourists, it’s a massive give away.

Spanish weddings are very formal events, perhaps more so than weddings in the UK . The OP is probably just trying to avoid the shame and embarrassment of having British guests turn up in shorts, it would be shocking for the Spanish families and very disrespectful. The Brits have a bad enough reputation in Spain as it is, reading some of these posts I can see why. Have some respect people!

Thanks!

Well duh, they're used to the weather. I'm from a country hotter than South Africa, and yes we wear trousers, BUT if I were to invite a bunch of Brits I'd rather they looked smart and comfortable than a sweaty (plus smelly... Oh god the smell in Britain in summer...) mess.

If you invited people from hot countries over to the UK in winter/autumn/spring/even summer, expect very little style – many will look like jacket potatoes that exploded in the microwave due to the weird amount of layers.

I’m amazed at how many people think hot weather wedding = beach attire, unless it is literally on the beach. What do you all think locals wear to weddings in hot countries? I’ve been to weddings in South Africa, mid summer, middle of the day, 45° heat and absolutely no one wore shorts, let alone trainers. Suits and ties worn with respect for the occasion!

Let them wear shorts if it's hot!
Micromanaging your friends ain't cool

@MumOfHals I am totally with you OP. I was looking at some pictures of a wedding in Australia recently where some of the guys wore shorts & flip flops. Looked awful! I think it’s fine to specify smart attire/ no shorts

I come from a Mediterranean country and it’s an absolute no to wear shorts to a wedding no matter what the weather is.

formal event = formal attire, you dress to the nines.

OP I’m with you.

I honestly don't get it. We went to a wedding in Spain last summer and it was no shorts and formal dress. It was 38° and all the men were miserable. They honestly complained all day long and my DH said it ruined the day for him.

Wtf! First World problem...

Recently went to a wedding in Thailand many blokes in smart shorts, designer shirts and waistcoats, they looked the biz.

Yeah bad form. There's nothing wrong with your request OP but it sounds like you've got a little carried away bridezilla style. I hope it all goes to plan like the picture in your head for your own sake and your blokes.

You haven't said what time of year you're having your wedding. If it's at a hot time, let your guests change if they want after the ceremony. You may find you won't want to be strapped into a wedding dress for the duration either if it's hot.

That's all depending on the venue also, some places are pretty strict.

This is the biggest load of judgemental old shite I’ve ever read.

My children (all boys under the age of 12) always wear shorts to weddings

As it should be 👌

Same here. There are a lot of immature posters on here.

And me. But then it’s beyond me why anyone would think shorts were an appropriate form of dress at a wedding.

Why? Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

She isn't dictating, just politely requesting.

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I think a lot of posters are being a tad unkind to you OP. Presumably you are not asking your male guests to wear wool suits. So by asking for long trousers, any man with half a brain will consider linen, which can be quite cool. They need not be expensive. Maybe you can consider, as others have suggested, that there is no dress code in the evening. Personally I would think wearing shorts at the wedding ceremony, is disrespectful.