No shorts at my wedding

DH has worn shorts to a few weddings as have other guests - he looks great in them! They were lovely weddings. The one last year in Myrtle Beach in South Carolina was gorgeous

I remember feeling a little miffed that one of my friends turned up in striped jeans at my wedding. I thought "I've made an effort, why couldn't you?"

However, I was pleased to see him and got over myself pretty quickly.

Are people honestly so wet and self absorbed that they can't make the effort to not rock up in shorts to a formal venue for a wedding , for what ? A few hours ?
Incredibly pathetic and NO ! Having 'bothered ' to travel does not exempt showing a little respect to the occasion and the venue. It just shows a rather grim attitude to wanting to put your self first on all occasions. Sometimes you have to show a bit of class and behave appropriately for the duration of the ceremony and formal part of the reception.

Then go and change and for the informal party later.

Funny you should say this as I always think dresses can be a mistake -ironically often just when women are trying their hardest to look good.

I do think floaty maxi dresses are generally quite forgiving and always confer a feminine vibe if not a perfect silhouette.

I think that rumpling is part of the appeal.

Realistically, more women look bad than good in dresses. It's the truth – either too skinny, too lumpy/pudgy or too odd-shaped in different areas. But I think generally having another outfit option (whether dresses for women or a nice linen tailored shorts suit for men) is a nice idea.

This thread has certainly grown some legs hasn’t it.

Can people stop pretending that "tailored short suits" are anything other than completely horrible. Anyone that could get away with them would look good wearing a napkin

Any adult male that wears shorts for anything other than the beach or sports belongs on a watchlist.

Yes, I get that. Perhaps people who live in these climates all the time wear a linen mix because they don't look scruffy. I think shorts at a formal wedding would look awful though.

Goodness me. There are some ridiculously defensive replies on this thread. It is not unreasonable to hope that guests will make a sartorial effort for a wedding.

After all, the bride and groom will have done so. Are a pair of lightweight trousers that much warmer than a pair of shorts?

Linen trousers look a mess quickly particularly once you sit down. Won’t look great on her photos.

Yes you are. of course.

@Sharptonguedwoman -unpleasants a bit strong-i was simply making a point.sorry you missed it. smart IS areasonable request\expectation-i think veers toward unreasonable when dictate length of leg on show.big fuss bout nothing.im allowed to think whatever i choose.

Linen trousers will be fine. Why are you making such a silly fuss?

Why are you so unpleasant about a reasonable request that people wear smart clothes?

I have experienced that exact point. Several years ago I spent the summer in the Mediterranean and a heat wave brought temps up to 40c. When it finally cooled back down to 32c I had to wear jeans and a light sweater. I was freezing when I got home and temps ranged 20-25c😂

Years ago dh was invited to a headhunter's drinks evening in central London - dress code: lounge suit - which worked perfectly for the men - didn't give much guidance for the women (I remember posting on here looking for guidance) ...we ended up blowing it off so I didn't get to see how the women presented themselves.

I have the feeling the OP is a little bit Bridezilla, and it depends how tolerant her guests are with that...my sister was a bit Bridezilla - the run-up to her wedding was awful - I have no fond memories of that day, we were all too terrified that something would go wrong, she has a totally false impression of how much her guests enjoyed the day - she put me off weddings for life. We eloped as a consequence!😂

Some of you seem to think that people who live in warm countries live in shorts all the time? 🙄

Had a google and the ettiquette for requesting semi formal (ie not black tie but smarter than smart casual) is bottom right of the invititation

Dress: Lounge Suit

This is from our dear late queens invitations so I think we can assume it is correct.

ETA that instead of editing my previous post I have quoted it, sorry about that!!

If you just say 'no shorts', guys who opt for the polo/shorts/trainers combo will just swap out the shorts for chinos and still be out of place.

Better to offer more guidance on what is, rather than is not, wanted. As a guest I appreciate a dress code, there's so much variance these days and most people want to get it right.

I think that you are being a bit U because I have seen some really smart summer suits with shorts. Can be done.

However, as it is unlikely that anyone will own or be prepared to purchase on of these I would suggest using the venue "Due to the religious nature of the venue, please be respectful in terms of clothing choices particularly no shorts or very revealing outfits. Thank you"

How classy to post people's photos on the internet to sneer at them

I haven’t read the whole thread, so am prepared to be flamed but I have asked DH who would absolutely not have a problem with a no shorts request. He said he wouldn’t like to have to wear a jacket, particularly if it was hot, but so long as he could wear chinos with a cool open neck shirt he’d be fine.

I agree. And has that poster ever been to Savile Row? Or even Jermyn Street? A proper English collar looks much more tailored than an Italian one …

British men in tailored linen shorts. - most don't have this amount of style.

I always wonder why people think it’s okay to slag off the British like this when they’d be horrified if people generalised about other nationalities in the same way.