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GUEST WANTS SHOWER CURTAIN INSTALLED.

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Tartantotty · 08/05/2024 08:15

I have a friend coming to stay with me for over a week in the Summer. She has sent a message asking that a shower curtain be installed in the en-suite bathroom she will use for the duration of her stay. She will pay.

Due to the shape of the bath etc it would be tricky to install a curtain and spoil the look of the place, I'm reluctant to do this, especially as she's getting free board and lodging in Edinburgh during festival time. AIBU reasonable in refusing? PS: She is a very large lady - no one else has complained about this, so guess it's due to her size.

OP posts:
Kesio · 12/05/2024 10:15

What the fuck is the matter with some people?

I would be very worried about having her to stay if she is entitled and rude enough to make a request like this.

Calliopespa · 12/05/2024 10:12

SpringBunnies · 12/05/2024 08:23

It doesn’t matter that the bath isn’t a shower though. The guest isn’t paying. I hate those hand held shower heads and I hate baths. But that doesn’t mean it’s proper to criticise a friend who give me free lodging.

I don’t think she’s being selfish : I think she is worried she will make a flooded mess of OP’s bathroom.

If you think about it, the bigger you are, the closer your body comes to the edge of the bath so the water will more naturally ricochet off onto the floor not back down into the bath. To take an extreme example, it’s the difference between bathing a chihuahua in a bath ( perfectly possible ) and a Great Dane or St. Bernard ( a bit splashy).

Clearly in the friend’s experience of showering she finds herself to be less at the chihuahua end of the spectrum.

She probably can’t sit in the bath as was suggested upthread.

A tiny part of me is wondering ( having seen threads on here about overweight people and read the tone of the responses) if people are being so harsh because they really want to say it’s her fault, she should lose the weight, but know that isn’t realistic in the timeframe…

SpringBunnies · 12/05/2024 08:23

It doesn’t matter that the bath isn’t a shower though. The guest isn’t paying. I hate those hand held shower heads and I hate baths. But that doesn’t mean it’s proper to criticise a friend who give me free lodging.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/05/2024 08:00

Ineke · 10/05/2024 01:38

I have a bath with a hand held shower attachment to the taps. No screen. Set in a niche with a sloping roof so impossible to stand. In other words, a sit in the bath and shower type thing. Not possible to put in a curtain. It’s a holiday cottage for the last five years, has been fully booked all year round, not one complaint. It’s an old house, and there is another stand up shower in a bedroom en-suite. I feel that she has a cheek asking this but maybe when she stayed before she found it too difficult not to get the floor very wet and she is anxious about this. You can leave a mop and bucket for her to dry the floor after showering, let her know that this is the only solution.

Ok, but here the shower without curtain or screen will actually be used as a bath and there is another shower available. Until her last update where Op said guest can use another shower, the guest was expected to shower in the shower/bath that has no covering at all.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/05/2024 07:54

Pootle23 · 09/05/2024 21:59

I would say no. Nobody needs a shower curtain. She would have to get a hotel.

Everyone needs a shower curtain if there is no shower screen. There needs to be something to contain the water.

Calliopespa · 11/05/2024 21:55

CelesteCunningham · 11/05/2024 19:28

Please please tell those of us who find this far more interesting than we should - what's the set up in the bathroom? Can't believe it's been three days and we still don't know. Grin

Yes!!! I’m all agog to know how your screenless, curtainless bathroom hasn’t been wrecked by air bnb guests yet…

Bjorkdidit · 11/05/2024 19:51

CelesteCunningham · 11/05/2024 19:28

Please please tell those of us who find this far more interesting than we should - what's the set up in the bathroom? Can't believe it's been three days and we still don't know. Grin

And why are you discounting a sprung loaded shower pole as an option that doesn't require any drilling and is very cheap.

CelesteCunningham · 11/05/2024 19:28

Tartantotty · 11/05/2024 18:18

Thanks all. I have told my friend that it's not possible to install a shower curtain a it would mean drilling into the tiles etc. I have offered her my en-suite shower.

Please please tell those of us who find this far more interesting than we should - what's the set up in the bathroom? Can't believe it's been three days and we still don't know. Grin

WimpoleHat · 11/05/2024 19:23

I have offered her my en-suite shower.

Very gracious response. Well done, OP.

Tartantotty · 11/05/2024 18:18

Thanks all. I have told my friend that it's not possible to install a shower curtain a it would mean drilling into the tiles etc. I have offered her my en-suite shower.

OP posts:
ZiriForGood · 11/05/2024 16:28

maxandru · 11/05/2024 13:35

This is so out of line ! 😂

I remember my FIL asked us to change the hinges on the bathroom door to the other side as he’s a big guy and it was a squash to get in 😂

He also suggested we get a new sofa for his next visit because ours didn’t have headrests.

I just thought both requests were hilarious !

Is it? The guest offered to pay for it and unless specific room shape prevents it, we are talking about ordering a telescopic pole and curtain and putting them up temporarily, no drilling, no long term change.

maxandru · 11/05/2024 13:35

This is so out of line ! 😂

I remember my FIL asked us to change the hinges on the bathroom door to the other side as he’s a big guy and it was a squash to get in 😂

He also suggested we get a new sofa for his next visit because ours didn’t have headrests.

I just thought both requests were hilarious !

Nuttyputty · 11/05/2024 10:43

I dont understand, whata there now? A glass door or just nothing? What do you mean by spoiling the look? Surely its her ensuite to look at for the week, could you not just take it down after shes gone?

Bjorkdidit · 11/05/2024 06:38

Chuzzle · 10/05/2024 21:57

Ask her to bring a curtain with her, and a telescopic curtain rail. Remind her to tuck the curtain in the bath when she has a shower.

I think most adults know how to use a shower curtain without instructions.

mathanxiety · 11/05/2024 03:40

Tartantotty · 08/05/2024 08:31

Thanks all. I will write her and tell her that this is not possible. She is lucky to get free accommodation at I time when I usually earn a bit of extra money on Air bnb. I guess she wants the curtain because the bath is small and guess she doesn't want to splash water all over the place.

Will there be water all over the floor then?

Whose problem will this be?

WalrusOfLove · 11/05/2024 02:40

I actually remember my flatmate years ago having an extremely large friend to stay. She managed to make the bath overflow when she got in and it was coming through the ceiling downstairs. 🤭

WalrusOfLove · 11/05/2024 02:38

I'm thinking that water runs off of her and lands outside the bath. A shower curtain tucked in at bottom would direct the water back into the tub.

Whatifitallgoesright · 11/05/2024 02:00

Where is the diagram? How can i see what coverage is already there? Such a lack of necessary information in a post and so many people having to ask obvious questions. Its really tedious but also stop with the questions people.

Garlicked · 11/05/2024 01:53

AmiShitsaline · 08/05/2024 09:00

something like this with a curtain attached

That's a good idea - I'd never thought of it! I dislike shower curtains but would need a ridiculously expensive custom-fitted screen. If you sort of drape a curtain into the bath from the top of a screen like this, it seems like it'd be less likely to move around and get in the way.

At £25, I might just give it a try 🙂

AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 11/05/2024 01:17

theonlygirl · 10/05/2024 15:52

Possibly the most fustrating thread ever. An OP with inadequate information followed by an update that was just as bad. This kind of thing should be banned.

If the friend explained why she thinks she needs the shower curtain, the OP would be able to either alleviate her concerns or have more understanding for her request. Maybe the explanation got left out the OP.

After 7 pages, I'd like a diagram / photo of the shower set up please. I'm invested now.

I feel similarly.

I am simply full of questions. What stops the water going over the side now? Exactly how oddly-shaped is this bath? Why are people paying to stay in OP's property now if there isn't a shower curtain around the bath?
Has the OP saved up money to repair the bathroom if the floorboards go rotten because of years of water cascading over the edge of the bath?!

uncomfortablydumb53 · 11/05/2024 00:51

I think she's a CF
You're sacrificing a lot of money for her visit. Air b&b must be in high demand during festival duration.
She wants you to remodel your home.. Nope.. and I'm a hospitable friend

Calliopespa · 10/05/2024 22:08

Chuzzle · 10/05/2024 21:57

Ask her to bring a curtain with her, and a telescopic curtain rail. Remind her to tuck the curtain in the bath when she has a shower.

I’m now going to know exactly what is going on when I see large people on public transport with a suitcase and a telescopic rail.

Chuzzle · 10/05/2024 21:57

Ask her to bring a curtain with her, and a telescopic curtain rail. Remind her to tuck the curtain in the bath when she has a shower.

Calliopespa · 10/05/2024 21:47

Sandwichgen · 10/05/2024 21:29

if there is no screen there at present, and it is a handheld shower to be used sitting down in the bath… she may not be able to sit down in the bath, or to kneel. So she has to stand or semi-stand. So she needs something to keep the splashing contained

Oh I reckon that’s it: she can’t sit down in the bath.

I feel desperately sorry for her and think she was brave to ask. I wouldn’t be judging her.

Sandwichgen · 10/05/2024 21:29

if there is no screen there at present, and it is a handheld shower to be used sitting down in the bath… she may not be able to sit down in the bath, or to kneel. So she has to stand or semi-stand. So she needs something to keep the splashing contained