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GUEST WANTS SHOWER CURTAIN INSTALLED.

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Tartantotty · 08/05/2024 08:15

I have a friend coming to stay with me for over a week in the Summer. She has sent a message asking that a shower curtain be installed in the en-suite bathroom she will use for the duration of her stay. She will pay.

Due to the shape of the bath etc it would be tricky to install a curtain and spoil the look of the place, I'm reluctant to do this, especially as she's getting free board and lodging in Edinburgh during festival time. AIBU reasonable in refusing? PS: She is a very large lady - no one else has complained about this, so guess it's due to her size.

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Gwenhwyfar · 19/05/2024 11:07

Calliopespa · 15/05/2024 20:35

We are inferring … But if you think about it the whole post would make no sense if there was a screen in lieu of a curtain.

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And to be honest, if she tried to say there is a screen and only said that now, I wouldn't believe her. If there is one, she would have said so earlier.

Calliopespa · 15/05/2024 20:35

PianPianPiano · 15/05/2024 20:17

To be fair, the OP has posted three times (including the OP) and hasn't answered anyone's questions at all, so I'm not sure that's definitive proof of anything!

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We are inferring … But if you think about it the whole post would make no sense if there was a screen in lieu of a curtain.

PianPianPiano · 15/05/2024 20:17

Gwenhwyfar · 15/05/2024 19:29

As other posters have pointed out, despite being asked over and over, OP has given no indication that there is a screen/wall/anything, only that she has now accepted that her guest will use the other shower.

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To be fair, the OP has posted three times (including the OP) and hasn't answered anyone's questions at all, so I'm not sure that's definitive proof of anything!

CelesteCunningham · 15/05/2024 20:05

Calliopespa · 15/05/2024 19:56

Which I think confirms there isn’t a screen etc

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Me too! Imagine charging for that on Airbnb. Shock

Calliopespa · 15/05/2024 19:56

Gwenhwyfar · 15/05/2024 19:29

As other posters have pointed out, despite being asked over and over, OP has given no indication that there is a screen/wall/anything, only that she has now accepted that her guest will use the other shower.

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Which I think confirms there isn’t a screen etc

StoneofDestiny · 15/05/2024 19:41

Tell her to buy a rain poncho and squirt the water up into it.

Gwenhwyfar · 15/05/2024 19:29

PercyJackson · 14/05/2024 11:39

Can you let me know which of OPs posts say that? I can't see anything in her three posts that specifically say that there is not a screen or a wall. I can only see lots of other posters making that assumption!

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As other posters have pointed out, despite being asked over and over, OP has given no indication that there is a screen/wall/anything, only that she has now accepted that her guest will use the other shower.

Calliopespa · 15/05/2024 18:31

ZiriForGood · 15/05/2024 17:43

Do you mean so entitled and rude to think in advance about not damaging friend's property and offering to pay for a solution which (unless the bathroom is very unusual) can be just temporarily poped up and removed when not necessary?

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Exactly what I think. Can’t believe the votes on this thread.

ZiriForGood · 15/05/2024 17:43

Kesio · 12/05/2024 10:15

What the fuck is the matter with some people?

I would be very worried about having her to stay if she is entitled and rude enough to make a request like this.

Do you mean so entitled and rude to think in advance about not damaging friend's property and offering to pay for a solution which (unless the bathroom is very unusual) can be just temporarily poped up and removed when not necessary?

ZiriForGood · 15/05/2024 17:38

Goodtogossip · 15/05/2024 14:33

Explain to her that adding a rail will be tricky & that if she feels she needs a curtain to bring one with her & she can hang it over the screen. Mention that she will have sole use of the ensuit shower so privacy won't be an issue for her.
It's unreasonable of her to expect you to adjust your home to suit her needs when she's not paying towards her stay.

We still don't know whether there is any screen at all. The bets are there isn't.

Goodtogossip · 15/05/2024 14:33

Explain to her that adding a rail will be tricky & that if she feels she needs a curtain to bring one with her & she can hang it over the screen. Mention that she will have sole use of the ensuit shower so privacy won't be an issue for her.
It's unreasonable of her to expect you to adjust your home to suit her needs when she's not paying towards her stay.

Calliopespa · 14/05/2024 16:13

PercyJackson · 14/05/2024 11:39

Can you let me know which of OPs posts say that? I can't see anything in her three posts that specifically say that there is not a screen or a wall. I can only see lots of other posters making that assumption!

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I don’t think OP has clarified but people have surmised there isn’t because a) op would likely have answered which if it was easy to do so and b) there wouldn’t be an issue in thd first place. Op would have simply said to the friend don’t worry there’s a screen/ built in wall etc.

Im guessing it’s one of those roll top type bath-in-room baths plonked in the bedroom. I’ve had them in fancy hotels and they look alright in the website photos but in reality they are completely impractical and water does get everywhere. I once managed to fire the hand-held hose across the bed and all over DH’s suit.

Calliopespa · 14/05/2024 16:08

RausageSoul · 14/05/2024 14:38

Exactly, but so many have gleefully leaped onto the fact she's a larger person and simply must be an inconsiderate oaf.

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I don’t think she sounds inconsiderate at all. In fact I think the opposite. I think it’s quite considerate of the friend; she’s clearly worried about splashing OP’s floor or causing water damage.

RausageSoul · 14/05/2024 14:38

theonlygirl · 10/05/2024 15:52

Possibly the most fustrating thread ever. An OP with inadequate information followed by an update that was just as bad. This kind of thing should be banned.

If the friend explained why she thinks she needs the shower curtain, the OP would be able to either alleviate her concerns or have more understanding for her request. Maybe the explanation got left out the OP.

After 7 pages, I'd like a diagram / photo of the shower set up please. I'm invested now.

Exactly, but so many have gleefully leaped onto the fact she's a larger person and simply must be an inconsiderate oaf.

PercyJackson · 14/05/2024 11:39

Gwenhwyfar · 13/05/2024 18:05

Have you read the thread? It seems the OP does not have a screen or a wall.

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Can you let me know which of OPs posts say that? I can't see anything in her three posts that specifically say that there is not a screen or a wall. I can only see lots of other posters making that assumption!

Viviennemary · 13/05/2024 18:08

If she is getting free accommodation and you don't meet her needs she needs to go elsewhere and stay. Ridiculous. Don't do it. She is a bit of a cf.

Gwenhwyfar · 13/05/2024 18:05

Pootle23 · 13/05/2024 07:14

Yes. I’m sure that the hosting people just let water run everywhere! Not, of course they will have something, be it a screen, a wall or whatever, however, as a guest in a private home you have no right to demand a curtain. I doubt the shower in question is in the lounge, or front window!

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Have you read the thread? It seems the OP does not have a screen or a wall.

Kateeeeuyyy · 13/05/2024 17:51

uncomfortablydumb53 · 11/05/2024 00:51

I think she's a CF
You're sacrificing a lot of money for her visit. Air b&b must be in high demand during festival duration.
She wants you to remodel your home.. Nope.. and I'm a hospitable friend

Next time I have a friend over to stay, I’ll be sure to think of them staying as me ‘sacrificing a lot of money’ , after all, money is far more important than friendships …

Kateeeeuyyy · 13/05/2024 17:49

SpringBunnies · 12/05/2024 08:23

It doesn’t matter that the bath isn’t a shower though. The guest isn’t paying. I hate those hand held shower heads and I hate baths. But that doesn’t mean it’s proper to criticise a friend who give me free lodging.

i think it’s worth remembering that none of us know how the friend asked.

imagine that the bath has a shower over and no screen or anything to stop splashes.

then imagine the friend emailed to say ‘I’m worried about the bathroom and don’t want to splash everywhere. Do you mind if I bring a spring loaded pole and shower curtain while I’m there so I don’t get everything wet?

instead , everyone piled on and fat shamed someone who isn’t present to defend themself.

OP’s absence of explanation of the bath situation says it all.

and letting it out in air bnb without having a complaint means nothing- most people are too afraid to leave any comments in case they lose their rating. Plenty of people would be bothered by no shower screen or curtain in an en-suite, regardless of size, you’d get water everywhere.

Pootle23 · 13/05/2024 07:14

Gwenhwyfar · 12/05/2024 07:54

Everyone needs a shower curtain if there is no shower screen. There needs to be something to contain the water.

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Yes. I’m sure that the hosting people just let water run everywhere! Not, of course they will have something, be it a screen, a wall or whatever, however, as a guest in a private home you have no right to demand a curtain. I doubt the shower in question is in the lounge, or front window!

Calliopespa · 12/05/2024 10:23

PinkyFlamingo · 12/05/2024 10:21

You must have something up already, is it a screen? You haven't answered this

She doesn’t I don’t think.

Calliopespa · 12/05/2024 10:21

Calliopespa · 12/05/2024 10:18

I think it’s just a fat shaming thread too.

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And I think the friend has been thoughtful to ask. There are probably other issues related to her own comfort she hasn’t asked, but this is clearly a concern about property damage - and let’s be honest it’s not actually unheard of to have a shower curtain or screen. My tall DH needs it ( really needs it!!) and he isn’t overweight.

It’s not as though she can just not shower.

PinkyFlamingo · 12/05/2024 10:21

You must have something up already, is it a screen? You haven't answered this

Calliopespa · 12/05/2024 10:18

AppleKatie · 12/05/2024 10:16

This is the weirdest fat shaming thread I’ve ever read 🤦‍♀️

I think it’s just a fat shaming thread too.

AppleKatie · 12/05/2024 10:16

This is the weirdest fat shaming thread I’ve ever read 🤦‍♀️

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