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To be upset that ex named his daughter like mine?

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Spanishbydora · 07/05/2024 17:06

I really would love some opinion. Ex and I have 2 daughters, and are both from Latin America. We picked names that reflected our culture. The two girls are 14 and 11.

I have since remarried, for the past 7 years. I had a third baby girl. Her father is from East Africa, and she was named after her grandmother. She is now 4.

My ex had a baby girl a year ago with his girlfriend ( who is Spanish) , and they named her just like my daughter and MiL. It annoys me so much, I am having a hard time.

My 2 eldest refer to their siblings as "Little X and big X". I haven't said anything, but it really annoys me.

My husband is more relaxed , he finds it hilarious that a little white girl has that name. He hasn't shown any anger.

Albu, right?

OP posts:
Enko · 07/05/2024 17:19

Limberinta · 07/05/2024 17:14

He has called 2 of his daughters the exact same name?

He has called his 3rd daughter with another woman than op. The same name that ops 3rd daughter (with another man) has. Together op and x has 2 daughters they each have a 3rd daughter with a new partner. This means their 2 oldest daughters have 2 little sisters calles the same.

Op I wouldn't worry too much about it not like you will see a lot of her and your dds will get used to it.

ZipZapZoom · 07/05/2024 17:16

Limberinta · 07/05/2024 17:14

He has called 2 of his daughters the exact same name?

That's what I was trying to work out but wasn't sure if I was misunderstanding. It sounds like that exactly what's he's done which is just fucking weird.

vivainsomnia · 07/05/2024 17:14

Also, not sure about the 'white' girl with an African name highlight. Do names have skin colours?

Limberinta · 07/05/2024 17:14

He has called 2 of his daughters the exact same name?

vivainsomnia · 07/05/2024 17:13

Depends how common the hame is. Ultimately, is it him who suggested it and she happened to love it more than any others, or is it a coincidence that it is a name she had short-listed herself?

shouldprobablyturnalighton · 07/05/2024 17:11

I'd be miffed too tbh, but would ultimately have to accept there's nothing I can do and get over it. So would try and get there quickly because it's not fun being bitter.

GardenGnomeDefender · 07/05/2024 17:11

Two siblings or half siblings with the exact same name is unfair on the children. You want to at least have a unique name amongst your siblings.

In some countries they put known siblings on the birth certificate of younger siblings and this would be flagged up when they tried to register the birth and rejected by the registrar.

betterangels · 07/05/2024 17:10

It's a name. If he did it to get a reaction from you, you're playing right in to his hands. Don't give him that power.

Foggymcfogson · 07/05/2024 17:10

Well who looks like they have no imagination?. Clue... It isn't you.

YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 07/05/2024 17:09

Your husband is right, it's mildly amusing. Getting upset and annoyed about it won't change a thing and will only make you feel like shit in the end.

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Spanishbydora · 07/05/2024 17:09

sonjadog · 07/05/2024 17:08

By "just like", do you mean exactly the same name?

Yes. The exact same name.

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sonjadog · 07/05/2024 17:08

By "just like", do you mean exactly the same name?

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