To be upset that ex named his daughter like mine?

No, but I have a friend who is Nigerian called Afopefoluwa (and I can't even put the accents on the letters)

It would be very peculiar to name a white English girl this if you had no African family heritage. It sounds like the OP isn't suggesting a name like 'Amina' that could be vaguely acceptable. She has made it clear that this is a name that is very much linked with her new partner's family and country. It's definitely weird behaviour on the part of her ex.

I couldn't be bothered to get upset about it. I might laugh, like my partner, and say 'Goodness, that's a coincidence! What part of East Africa is your new girlfriend from again?' if I had to speak to ex about the children.

Yes it’s weird but you clearly have great taste. Iniko is a gorgeous name (first time I’ve heard it).

Bizarre.

It must be weird for your shared kids to have two half siblings with the same name.

Yes that's weird. I feel sorry for the poor child who has a petty father.

They’re not. They have two completely distinct sets of parents. To be honest I’d find it funny. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery and all that.

If I'm understanding OP's post I don't think are siblings at all

Does his new wife know that their daughter has the same name as his ex wife’s daughter?

It seems bizarre to me.
”darling, what shall we call our new baby daughter?”

”how about XXX(unusual name from a completely unrelated country/culture)?”

“what made you think of that name?”

”it’s what my ex wife has called her daughter”

”ah OK, that sounds prefect”

crazy!!!

That is so weird. It's also really unfair to all of his children in my opinion: your 2 shared DDs who now have to deal with half-sisters with the same name, and then his 3rd DD who will obviously find out the story when she's older.

My guess is that your Ex mentioned the name and either he or his new partner liked it.

I think your DH has the right attitude though since there's nothing you can do about it. I think it's likely she'll go by a nickname when she's older anyway if the name isn't a good cultural fit.

Sounds like an arse to me. I'd be fuming. Also, if I was the mother of his new child, I certainly wouldn't accept that.

That’s really weird!

Yes, it’s odd. If you have anymore children, make sure you give him a pretend name for them and see what he does then.

Well I looked it up. Dalila and Amina are Swahili it would seem. I wouldn't find it shocking to name white girls these.

Or maybe a couple from Uganda should never call their girl Ciara?

Sounds like he had his nose put out of joint when you parted. It's his way of trying to exercise a bit of power. If you embrace it though, you take the power away. Doesn't make it right though.

I wonder whether his new partner actually had any say in the matter?

It's utterly bizarre. Even if the name was a super common name like "Emma" it would still be utterly bizarre. Imagine how that poor child will feel as they grow up and realise that they are "Emma #2" because their dad was still obsessed with getting one over on his ex. However as there is nothing you can do about it you'll just need to laugh at him.

I'd take it as a compliment. A weird one, but nothing says flattery like imitation!
You can't do anything about it. He's clearly a horrible person so just rise above the notion of it being an annoyance. Don't give him the headspace.

YANBU it’s weird and sounds like he’s obsessed with you. Why would he want his daughters to have 2 sisters with the same name? I can’t believe his partner agreed to it.

There’s plenty of names that would be weird to give to a white kid with no African heritage.

If it was just a parent who heard the name and liked it fine. But this is wierd. Who gives their kid a totally unusual name that is the exact same name as their other kids sibling? That’s very strange behaviour.

OP yes it’s clearly meant to get at you. Rise above it. He looks ridiculous, and will do for the rest of his life.

1). It’s really odd he’s done it and as a previous poster said how the hell did he get his new wife to agree to it. It suggests he’s still very much focused on you.

2). It’s painful how many people can’t get the gist of the original post.

You are right to think it is weird, but your DH has the right attitude to it. Just laugh and be thankful you are no longer with him.

I feel sorry for his partner actually. He is still so focussed upon you.

Sounds like he's still obsessed with you OP. He's doing it to get under your skin. Pretend you don't care one way or the other. Fake this until it becomes true. Others will see he can't look past you.

There is no rational way to justify him coming to the same name. It doesn't matter how common/uncommon/culturally specific or otherwise. His daughters already have a sister with this name, and had had that sister for 3 years before he chose to name his 3rd daughter. He is a fool.

That is weird as fuck and I am amazed his current partner agreed to it.

I wouldn't be laughing because I'd be too concerned how he must be treating his new partner for her to accept such a completely ridiculous thing.

Go with your husband and laugh!