To be upset that ex named his daughter like mine?

But there's a bio link with the first two daughters. They now have 2 little sisters with the same name!

Im not clear if im following correctly but if you are saying you and ex both are both latin american and have 2 latin american named kids, you have since had a baby with an african man and the baby has an african name, you ex had another kid with a spanish lady and they have given the child an African name that is also the same name as your child then yes your ex is absolutely nuts.

I would say Aaliyah is somewhat common in the UK in that iv heard of it. If both parents were white id still think it was an odd choice but Buuxo/Guedid, iv never heard of in my life. Id be very surprised if a friend gave their child one of these names.

Well they are not Bio siblings are they.

OP and her new DH
Ex DH and his new GF

No bio link.

The people saying that the OP is racist are really missing the point. The point is that they (both the ex, her new DH and the OP herself) have always named their children with a name that reflects their own culture. Then out of the blue her ex names his daughter not only a name that has 0 relevance to his or his wife's culture but is from his ex's new husbnad's culture, but is the exact same name as his ex's new daughter.

I'm sorry but if my husband divorced me and remarried a Japanese woman, and I chose to call my new non-japanese daughter the exact same japanese name they had chosen...... then yes, that would obviously be pretty funny. Having a causasian Haruki and a Japanese Haruki in the same family, with the same sisters, is very funny.

Unhinged even if the name were Ava or Sophie. I wonder why on earth the wife went along with it??

I think it’s ridiculous he chose it but I also think you sound racist OP.

Well it's definitely odd, I'm not sure I'd be angry, I'd just think it's wierd! Presumably his new partner knows you have a daughter with the same name? I would try and not let it bother you, he's nothing to do with you now and you're only hurting yourself by being angry. You should feel sorry for him, it's a bit pathetic really!

It's very odd he's done this. I know 2 sisters, very close, who have sons with the same name, I find that odd too.

His lack of imagination is embarrassing. Also, giving a Spanish/British child an African name is going to sign her up for a life time of explanations.
"No no never been there"
"No, um, my dad just liked it"
"Um yeh my half sisters' sister on their mum's side is called the same name ...."

Nuts

This is seriously weird and selfish.

You have 2 kids with him
You have a littler one with someone else, a half sibling for your 2 kids.
Then he has a baby, also the half sibling of your 2 kids and calls the baby the same as their existing half sibling. Has he given even an ounce of consideration to the eldest 2??

Yes, I am bringing discrimination into it, because it might not be your reality, but it is of a lot people with distinctive name from a perceived place
But that's a totally different discussion. And if anything, the more common the name becomes, the less likely to become a reason for idiots to discriminate.

No I don't find it odd that a white girl could have a typical Swahili name just as I wouldn't find it odd for a Black girl to have a very old and standard Irish name.

Many pick names because they find them pretty or nice sounding regardless of the origin.

Again, it's not your feelings I question, I too would have been very bemused and annoyed. It's the unnecessary comment your husband made about the girl's race.

Oh come on. Some names are very much of a culture. Calling a white girl Ki Soon Yu would be fucking weird.

No

Your ex is an idiot, but you probably knew that?
Of course he is not angry, he finds it hilarious and the fact that it pisses you off is a bonus.

That said, you have nothing to gain being angry about it and the name isn't going to change, so all you can do really is make peace with it somehow.

She must have heard the 2 DD speak about their new sister.

I don’t think the new wife has much of a say.

These Swahili names are really pretty. The odd bit is that he chose the same one.

Who do you think would be more likely to be discriminated based on names : Ciara or Hashaan?
Oh so now you are bringing discrimination into it! What next?

I do find the action of your ex very odd, but I find the reference to the fact it's a white baby of bad taste and unnecessary.

Oh and according to Google, Amina is a Swahili name too, not just Arabic.

It’s really really weird. I feel bad for his new partner. I wonder what she makes of it? That he’s clearly still preoccupied by you.

I feel bad for the child as well, “little x”. They’ll find out soon enough from their siblings. I wonder what they will think of their name? Super odd.

You’re not unreasonable to be upset. It’s weird. I imagine he potentially hadn’t ever heard the name until you called your youngest daughter it?

Even if he heard it (or his new wife did) and thought “that’s the most beautiful name I’ve ever heard!”, which they might well have done, you still just wouldn’t do it.