To think this much contact is NOT nice and is OTT?

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SENparent96 · 07/05/2024 16:55

I still have regular phone contact with my ex-in-laws as I still have a young child and quite frankly, her father is useless.

I don’t mind this contact, them occasionally messaging to see how DD is doing or a FaceTime with other children in the family etc, however the issue is my ex-MIL.

She messages me every single day, without fail, and it’s all quotes for the day etc. I don’t regularly reply to these but she still continues doing it. I‘ve
mentioned it to ex-H but he just says she’s allowed to check in on me and DD - but it’s NOT checking in, just sending photos with quotes on them at 6am every morning, it’s draining me a little I can’t even lie.

AIBU to think this level of contact isn’t nice or sweet in anyway and it’s way too much?!

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froggirl · 07/05/2024 17:17

You can ask her to stop, or you can live with it/ mute her.

No point worrying over whether or not her behaviour is reasonable (which is very subjective anyway). It's too much for you, which is all that really matters.

Toptotoe · 07/05/2024 17:06

Just put her on mute and read them all at the same time. I think it’s nice that she is still interested in maintaining a relationship.

gojumpjump · 07/05/2024 17:01

Just mute her

AgnesX · 07/05/2024 16:58

Just continue to do what you're doing and ignore as much as you can.

On the plus side its good to have a positive relationship with your child's grandma.

Flickersy · 07/05/2024 16:57

Can't you just ignore any messages from her until she sends one which doesn't come through at 6am?

I feel in the grand scheme of things this is a fairly mild issue.

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