I'm currently pregnant with my first child.
Throughout mine and DHs relationship , my MIL has often pushed boundaries. For instance, she gets upset when she hears that my husband and I have done things together without her and FIL, like taking a day trip just the two of us. She expects us to invite them to everything we do, and has shown up to places when we've gone out just to two of us.
She mentioned that she wants to see the baby every weekend for day trips. I would like this limited to once a month, so my own parents also have time with the baby and we get some time as a family, just the three of us.
She also assumes she'll be at the hospital for the baby's birth, but I'm not comfortable with that either. I’d prefer to have just my husband and medical staff.
I want to set these boundaries now, while I still have some time to communicate my expectations clearly.
DH thinks we can address these issues as they come up, but I believe that if we don't set boundaries now its just going to cause issues.
AIBU?