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To think it’s a damn shame men no longer ask colleagues out

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MartyJshawnM · 07/05/2024 16:24

In my salad days it was pretty common for colleagues to start relationships, which often ended in marriage.

Now because of men fearing sexual harassment/ wokism / wfh, this rarely happens, and I think that is a damn shame. Where else are you meant to meet someone? The workplace is the most normal place.

i think there should be safeguards to stop a senior employer asking out a junior employee as there is a clear power difference at play.

I know of 6 couples who met through work and are happily married for 20+ year

EDIT: ignore the men asking colleagues out; it should read colleagues asking each other out

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shearwater2 · 07/05/2024 16:38

Rubbish. Of course people still get together at/through work.

It's not woke not to want to be sexually harassed. There are clear differences to anyone with half a brain.

WhenWillTheSunShineIWonder · 07/05/2024 16:38

I too remember starting work in the mid 80s and most relationships started at work! Colleagues went out with each other and many couples married (most divorced too but will ignore that!). I think it’s a shame that those heady days are over.

Spacecowboys · 07/05/2024 16:37

I can’t think of anything worse than dating someone from work. My relationship life and my work life need to be completely separate. Don’t shit where you eat.

Booksoverbros · 07/05/2024 16:36

People still ask each other out.

The way you phrased your post reads very "the good old days"...

But those days were not good.
Hence decades of abuses of power and the need for the MeToo movement.

Even when there is no power imbalance due to job role, there IS a gender power imbalance.

Regardless, I know many workplace relationships and friends who met partners in various industries.

frankentall · 07/05/2024 16:32

Why do men have to do the asking? So they aren't obliged to do domestic tasks?

Hillrunning · 07/05/2024 16:31

What are salad days? The men I know who chose not to do that aren't helb back by fear. For some it is respect, due to the power imbalance for others it is for their own sake of not wanting to potentially have to see an ex at work. Fear! Ridiculous idea.

Also, every single job I've had, people still ask each other out. This weekend I'm going g to a house warming of two colleges who recently got together.