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45 is too old to have a baby and you’ll never have a brother or sister

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Tiredofwatchingliloandstitchnow · 07/05/2024 15:08

Dd, 6, said to me a friend at school had asked how old I was and Dd said 45, the girl then said that was too old to have a baby so my Dd would never have a brother or sister.
Apparently they were talking about having a brother or sister when this girl asked this. Dd then said I had a brother and sister (her auntie & uncle obviously) and please could I have a baby brother for her.
We had almost ten years of infertility and losses before having her via ivf, this comment hurt so much, it was hard to hold back tears in front of her. We do in fact have a frozen embryo from my late 30’s so 45 possibly *Isnt too late.
Aibu to feel annoyed about what this girl said to her and to feel sad I likely won’t be able to give my Dd a baby brother?
Anyone else have an only and have they ever asked for siblings? If so, what do you say?

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FrancescaBridgerton · 07/05/2024 15:26

I don't know what 6 year old girl knows that 45 is too old to have a baby, that's quite strange. I have a 6 year old who doesn't know anything about the ideal age for children!

I understand why you're upset but you really need to just ignore it because the friend who said this to your daughter didn't mean it harmfully. There are plenty of happy only children in this world and I am sure many of them also asked for a younger sibling when they were little but are now older and don't mind as much. Obviously you can try with the frozen embryo if YOU really want a 2nd kid but it wasn't worth it just because of this child's comment.

Clementinepippa · 07/05/2024 15:24

Do you want to try with your frozen embryo? It’s not too late if you want to as it goes by the age you were when the embryo was created and frozen not your age now
I can see why you feel sad but children say these things with no malicious intent Flowers

AngelicInnocent · 07/05/2024 15:22

No point being annoyed at a small child. It wasn't meant to be hurtful from the sounds of it, just small children being quite open in their thoughts.

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