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RITA ORA- an example of all that is wrong with the world

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peeweemermaid · 07/05/2024 12:04

I am being unreasonable, and not sure whether its jealousy or irritation that she has done so well with little discernible talent. However, she irritates me intensely for being presumably financially very successful for not wearing any clothes. MET Gala case in point. She is just such a narcissist. I know there are others out there, but she doesnt even have a crap reality show with her sisters

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LargeAmericano · 07/05/2024 22:41

SoupDragon · 07/05/2024 22:20

Also, Rota Ora's ethnic origin is not Albanian. It's Kosovan! 🙄

She was born in Kosovo, her parents are Albanian. So you're totally wrong.

She is an ethnic Albanian born in Kosovo to ethnic Albanian parents who fled the Serbian military occupation which later led to the ethnic cleansing of Albanians and the war in 1999.

LargeAmericano · 07/05/2024 22:35

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 07/05/2024 22:11

To me I don’t find Rita Ora attractive. Dressing the way she does does not help her.

I am not posting a photo of me here but I was considered very pretty when younger. That was a long time ago.

I did actually say after I wrote the butters comment about Rita that I did think she has some attractive features facially but put altogether, sorry I find her weird looking. Maybe I’m not used to Kosovan/Albanian looks.

and to @MaryMack sorry but to me 33 is not young anymore, I suppose it’s just on the right side of young and for Rita she’ll use that excuse that she’s young so she can dress like a cheap woman. Her dress sense has always seemed to me to attract attention though.

I watched a BBC documentary on her last year and it was quite interesting concentrated on her siblings and basically how most of what she’s done is to help them, her in their lives. To be fair to her, as she’s from a war torn country I can’t say I blame her behaviour really. She just really lacks class though and this dress just proves that.

Perhaps it’s you who’s ‘weird looking’ or even just plain old racist?

Rita is very talented and attractive to people not looking at her through bitch lenses. My DC are half Kosovan Albanian with the same almond shaped eyes (throwback to the Ottoman Empire) and have always been considered and commented on as very beautiful.

I love most of her music actually (nothing to do with DH being Kosovan!), Anywhere, Let You Love Me, For You, Coming Home, Body on Me, Lonely Together, Ritual, You For Me, Black Widow (one of my favs) - listen to the faster ones at the gym. She was very genuine on the talent shows and had made lots of money.

Envy is not an attractive look.

SoupDragon · 07/05/2024 22:20

SabreIsMyFave · 07/05/2024 18:24

You sounds so bitter and jealous of Rita Ora @peeweemermaid 😆

The more people tell you YABU, the more angry you're getting. Why post on AIBU. and then throw your toys out of your cot when people challenge you on it?

Also, Rota Ora's ethnic origin is not Albanian. It's Kosovan! 🙄

Also, Rota Ora's ethnic origin is not Albanian. It's Kosovan! 🙄

She was born in Kosovo, her parents are Albanian. So you're totally wrong.

3luckystars · 07/05/2024 22:15

Butter face means ‘she has a lovely body, but her face…..’

= butter face

WalkingThroughTreacle · 07/05/2024 22:15

Maybe we should share the blame around the industry and audience, rather than the female artists who have to leverage their sexuality to be successful, whether they like it or not.

Society is the problem. We are all part of society so we are all part of the problem. Unless you have steadfastly refused to watch a film or TV program or buy a magazine that includes gratuitously sexualised women then you are complicit, whether you care to admit it or not. But hey, you crack on and denigrate the likes of Rita Ora for simply playing the game by the rules that you tolerate at best and enthusiastically encourage at worst.

3luckystars · 07/05/2024 22:14

I love Pamela Anderson.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 07/05/2024 22:11

SabreIsMyFave · 07/05/2024 21:06

@Allfur

What's a butter face? Whatever, she's v pretty

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain is playing down what she means. She is being pretty vile about Rita Ora. Butterface or Butters means butt-ugly. Let's see a photograph of you @Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain !!! Hmm

To me I don’t find Rita Ora attractive. Dressing the way she does does not help her.

I am not posting a photo of me here but I was considered very pretty when younger. That was a long time ago.

I did actually say after I wrote the butters comment about Rita that I did think she has some attractive features facially but put altogether, sorry I find her weird looking. Maybe I’m not used to Kosovan/Albanian looks.

and to @MaryMack sorry but to me 33 is not young anymore, I suppose it’s just on the right side of young and for Rita she’ll use that excuse that she’s young so she can dress like a cheap woman. Her dress sense has always seemed to me to attract attention though.

I watched a BBC documentary on her last year and it was quite interesting concentrated on her siblings and basically how most of what she’s done is to help them, her in their lives. To be fair to her, as she’s from a war torn country I can’t say I blame her behaviour really. She just really lacks class though and this dress just proves that.

peeweemermaid · 07/05/2024 22:07

Thalia31 · 07/05/2024 22:03

You do sound jealous and perhaps bored

Oh definitely jealous as I rocked the 9 to 5, was clearly skiving, and I thought, wtf is she wearing and wtf is she there.

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Thalia31 · 07/05/2024 22:03

peeweemermaid · 07/05/2024 12:04

I am being unreasonable, and not sure whether its jealousy or irritation that she has done so well with little discernible talent. However, she irritates me intensely for being presumably financially very successful for not wearing any clothes. MET Gala case in point. She is just such a narcissist. I know there are others out there, but she doesnt even have a crap reality show with her sisters

You do sound jealous and perhaps bored

Matronic6 · 07/05/2024 22:03

I mean I think there is a lot worse in the world but I do get what you mean OP. She seems to have a certain level of fame, but doesn't seem to actually have very much she has has personally done. I know people will say she released an album and had several top 10 songs but so did the members of s club 7 and Joss Stone yet they have faded away into relative obscurity.
She must have an amazing PR team.

SabreIsMyFave · 07/05/2024 22:01

Ghosttofu99 · 07/05/2024 21:31

Yes there is 🙄
With regards to singing you may well be correct but it you catch her cameo in Southpaw you might find that she is a surprisingly talented actress.

Come on! The OP and the posters agreeing with her don't want to hear THAT! 😆

They only want to hear nasty, shitty comments about Rita Ora!

SabreIsMyFave · 07/05/2024 22:01

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · Today 17:45

She’s hardly young though is she at 33?

LOL are you taking the piss?! 😆

I bet you are one of these posters who says 45 is a great age to have a baby. And when a poster says she feels her life is over at 55 and her best days are behind her, you say 'but you're so YOUNG OP!' 😆

'33 is hardly young?' Of course it's young. Don't talk such rot!

RobertaFirmino · 07/05/2024 21:59

Outrageous outfits at the Met Gala, whoever would have thought it...

Nanny0gg · 07/05/2024 21:56

SocksAndTheCity · 07/05/2024 19:47

Again, why is it that women who are wearing something you disapprove of or wouldn't choose for yourself must be doing so because they 'feel the need' to?

Is the idea that they might like the clothes and want to wear them that impossible to get your head round just because their preference differs from yours?

They may well like the clothes but I would think the main purpose is for attention, due to the business they're in?

I can't help it, I prefer elegant.

Blueraccoon · 07/05/2024 21:56

nowayjosephine · 07/05/2024 21:50

Well, the 'dress' she wore to the Met gala was not the most flattering and she can look fabulous. See JLo for va-va-voom glamour! Her husband seemed to be wearing a deconstructed vinyl sofa from the 1980's but you've got to laugh. It's the juxtaposition of him plethered up to the max and her wearing next to nothing which is sad. You'd think these celebs would have better stylists.

She has some talent and a look, I don't think she's quite the best/worst example of what you're saying. The Met Gala is all a silly media circus anyway.

I thought he was dressed as a leather turd

Ponoka7 · 07/05/2024 21:53

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 07/05/2024 17:45

She’s hardly young though is she at 33?

I guess she’s wearing these outfits before she has kids/gets divorced.

No she's wearing the outfits because she can. At 33 she can still not think about the clothes she's wearing.

nowayjosephine · 07/05/2024 21:50

Well, the 'dress' she wore to the Met gala was not the most flattering and she can look fabulous. See JLo for va-va-voom glamour! Her husband seemed to be wearing a deconstructed vinyl sofa from the 1980's but you've got to laugh. It's the juxtaposition of him plethered up to the max and her wearing next to nothing which is sad. You'd think these celebs would have better stylists.

She has some talent and a look, I don't think she's quite the best/worst example of what you're saying. The Met Gala is all a silly media circus anyway.

Canteloupetoday · 07/05/2024 21:48

I read that she used to have three ways with Beyonce and jay z, and this, I think, is probably why she has been so successful

FriendofDorothy · 07/05/2024 21:46

peeweemermaid · 07/05/2024 12:04

I am being unreasonable, and not sure whether its jealousy or irritation that she has done so well with little discernible talent. However, she irritates me intensely for being presumably financially very successful for not wearing any clothes. MET Gala case in point. She is just such a narcissist. I know there are others out there, but she doesnt even have a crap reality show with her sisters

I think you are missing the point about the MET Gala outfits.

Whenwillitgetwarm · 07/05/2024 21:45

I think Brooklyn Beckham looked worse. Why does he attended these things? He does nothing, he always looks lost and apologetic and like a 15 year old on work experience. His suit probably cost £££ but it looks like it’s from Primark or the market. It’s the way he carries himself and the jewellery.

Viviennemary · 07/05/2024 21:41

I have heard of her but haven't a clue what she actually does. Whether a singer an actress or just somebody who doesn't do much but earns loads. Nice work if you can get it I suppose.

SpeedbirdSquawker · 07/05/2024 21:35

She's stunningly beautiful.

JudgeJ · 07/05/2024 21:33

Mischance · 07/05/2024 13:06

Never heard of her ......

Thank God I'm not the only one! As one who takes zero notice of what's what in the music world I'm often at a loss to recognise names.

Whenwillitgetwarm · 07/05/2024 21:32

Allfur · 07/05/2024 17:56

What's a butter face? Whatever, she's v pretty

‘Nice body, but her face…’ = ‘butterface’ or just ‘butters’ for short.

NonPlayerCharacter · 07/05/2024 21:31

crumblingschools · 07/05/2024 21:26

But my question is are they just doing this because it is a patriarchal society. Would they be as noticed/or wear such clothes if it was only women noticing them, or women had the power in the industry.

Do they have power wearing these clothes or are they being exploited?

There are plenty of patriarchal societies where women will get beaten up for exposing their hair or faces. The issue is not whether women wear burkas or bikinis, the issue is that they can wear what they want and people should focus on the actual power structure they claim to care about rather than how some woman chooses to dress. Women's clothes aren't the problem. They aren't that powerful. If they were we could all wear power suits and end oppression at once.

The price of freedom is that some people will do stuff you don't like. Ora's bloody dress isn't the issue.

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