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Being woken up early because I'm snoring

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HoldingOutForSunAndWine · 07/05/2024 08:34

I have to be up at 630am every day, 7 days a week. It's because I care for animals (my job, not pets), so there really never is a lie in. My DH has to be up early 6 days a month. To be fair, this is because of a shift pattern where he works horrible hours, like nights shifts etc, but he still can lie in, if he chooses, for 24 days a month.

This morning, apparently I was snoring, so at 540am, he woke me up by doing a huge sigh and kind of banging his arm on the mattress. I couldn't get back to sleep. He however then fell back to sleep, and proceeded to snore (!) and is still in bed now. He will most likely get up at about 9am.

AIBU to be annoyed at this, or is it fair enough because I was snoring? I know it's not really relevant, but the fact that I never get a lie in, unless we are on holiday, makes me more resentful of being woken up at 540am.

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Catza · 07/05/2024 08:54

As a partner of a snorer, I vote YABU. You don't know how long your husband was awake listening to you snore before he decided to wake you up. He could have been up all night, I often am.
If you want to sleep longer, you may just have to go to bed earlier. And I would see your GP about that snoring.

NeedANewOne25 · 07/05/2024 08:53

Nowhere in the OP does she say she always snores!

Projectme · 07/05/2024 08:52

agree with @HereWeGoRoundAgain ; sorry YABU.

Also partner of a dreadful snorer here and the affect of poor sleep can never go underestimated I'm afraid. Sleep deprivation is absolute torture. I've used foam ear plugs for the last 25 years and after many conversations about his snoring where he said he'd do something about it and never did, I finally told him once and for all, if he doesn't do something it's the end of our marriage. Thankfully he found an appropriate 'mouth guard' thing that has reduced his snoring by about 95%; it cost a bloody fortune but on the other hand, it was cheaper than a divorce.

HereWeGoRoundAgain · 07/05/2024 08:45

YABU. Being the partner of a snorer can be exhausting and frankly debilitating. It kills your own sleep and remove any expectation or positive thoughts around sleep. It's so depressing and wearying, and drives you to some very dark thoughts. You both need a sit down conversation when you're calm about what you can both do to improve things.

You personally should make an appt with your gp - do you smoke? Can you lose some weight? Get a breathing aid? Give up alcohol? I have to say it - after twenty years the biggest thing that's stopped dh snoring is losing (and keeping off) three stone and vastly reducing his drinking.

For your partner, can he wear ear plugs? (Superdrug own brand foam ones have saved my marriage tbh!). Also consider sleeping separately for a while if possible, you both need some decent rest to be able to think clearly about possible solutions.

Don't hate your partner for being upset, sleep deprivation is an absolute killer. Try and work together to solve this.