SiL and friend keep commenting on my age.

Honestly, I wouldn't rise to it. Just give them a pitying smile. It shows their own insecurities if they feel the need to put you down! I wouldn't call someone who says things like that a friend anyway. If you only see her in a group setting, just avoid conversation with her as much as possible. With SIL I'd also avoid seeing her unless absolutely necessary.

Just ask her "Why aren't you hanging around with people your own age? Is it because you don't want to be the 'oldest'" 😏

Yes so you keep telling me!!
I might be older but I have not lost my hearing. No need to keep repeating insults at me.

They are the ridiculous ones
in adulthood, 5 years is NOTHING
Im 34, dp is 28. What a SIN
these people sound jealous. Maybe jealous you’ve aged better?

I'd actually stop hanging out with people (especially 2) who hand out insults like that. You need to be around people who boost you so you feel positive after isn't that the whole point of hanging out?
Their comments about age i rekon is their insecurity maybe they feel so crap inside they have to throw out insults at you. Sorry you had that experience.

Oh, God you’re so old You: Oh God, you look so old.
Not sure I want to hang out with elderly people You: Not sure I want to hang out older looking people.

You are much older than me You: You look much older than me.
I’m much younger than you You: I look much younger than you.
Well, that’s because you are a lot older than me, I’m only 48, and you are 53 You: It’s because you look a lot older than me.

She’s also never run for a bus

🤣

I personally think this is a tough one.

A) Either they're incredibly stupid and don't realise, if they're lucky, they'll also have the same birthdays you have.

B) They're incredibly insecure, which sounds more likely. If they're not making the most of their health and one of them is already resorting to cosmetic surgery, then it's an insecurity problem.

However, if they deal with insecurity by attempting to belittle someone else, then they are typical petty bullies. The stupid school yard ones who can only (delusionally) feel better if they can make someone feel worse than them.

It's just a question of how to deal with it and how much energy to invest.

I have no energy to invest in such people. I just withdraw. I don't want to waste my time on such people.

You could be equally mean, and just say something "soothing" like "That's alright Karen, I know you're having a personal problem with aging."

But unless you have one simple statement to meet all their comments, you're going to be drawn into a never-ending battle of insults. And there are two of them and one of you.

I'd use the wisdom of age to find ways of spending more time with the people you value (you can host or organise events/get-togethers right?) and less time with people who are depressing or annoying to be around.

And you can be honest with the wider group and just say, you're finding it draining to be around SIL and friend. Mentioning your age negatively once, is just life. But continually raising it, is just draining. You're just giving them space.

Just so you know, I'm a lot older than all of you. Some women fear getting old. And getting old in some ways changes your identity. But it's all part of the one and only life experience we have.

What is the context of the first quotes? It sounds like something I and my friends would joke to each other if one of us wanted to end the night at 9pm or mentioned we'd bought a pair of Crocs or something.

The green eyed monster is driving them insane! Lots of good advice here! Continue to take the high road and don’t give the wicked witches a second thought.

I'd literally say it as it is, laugh and say 5years is nothing ur just as OLD as I am then say we'll anyway I look younger than you, wink and blow them a kiss and say awww I'm joking. Then change the subject

They sound like bitchy school girls and not very nice and insecure in themselves. They are just jealous as you are in good shape and do not look your age.
Just say well I am happy in my own skin and ageing well. That will shut them up. Think you need to keep your distance from them as not nice people at all.

‘I know - and you had all that work done and people still think you’re older than me.’

"Well, yes Janet, I am older than you and I have much better manners!"

I'd just say in a non-confrontational tone - why are you are always commenting on my age? It's weird?

And when she inevitably comes back with some smart reply just say - it's very strange behaviour. and give a look like you can't get your head around her behaviour.

Get new pals and inly see your SIL when strictly necessary.

Just keep saying I look great for my age or keep dropping someone has complimented how amazing and NATURAL you look or someone saying you're fit and HEALTHY. Obvs if you highlight the caps the better.
I get complimented like this a lot

From you're post, it sounds to me like they're jealous - that you are older in years but look way younger. So they need to keep reminding you of that, to keep things in perspective.

I wouldn't think of a witty comeback, I'd just call it out for what it is.

That's pathetic it's not like she's a spring chicken everyone is mature I would say something put her in her place tell her that her age isn't considered young either am in my early 40's too so not saying you are old but I don't consider my self young either say something .

I found a brilliant card years ago.

On the front:
STONE AGE
ICE AGE

Inside, under a wee mirror:
OLD AGE

😂

Best not to see them surely ?

I used to get this from a friend, ‘Ew, you’d look weird with straight hair’, ‘That’s more the sort of thing that my neice would wear’, ‘I bumped into your sister today - I couldn’t help notice how lined she was’, ‘You could do with losing the weight round your stomach’, etc, etc.

This insecure, unfulfilled, two-faced, shallow, mouthbreathing twat is an ex friend these days. I can recommend it, OP.

Well thank you kindly, Marjorie, but I prefer the word "mature" myself !!

Then laugh like you couldn't give a shit stuff.

Bullies always pitch their insecurities onto others. They see you’re comfortable in your own skin whereas they clearly aren’t. I get the constant mithering would get you down but don’t let it. Be the bigger and more fabulous person.

Oh no!
You just need to say one thing... Do you wish to look as healthy and fit like me? Are you jealous that I am older and look better and younger than you? Cause my age is not a problem for me, but looks like you have a problem with aging.
Hit them directly. They deserve it!