It was my DD’s christening last weekend and my sister took pictures throughout the ceremony and posted them to Facebook, I aw them a couple of days later as I don’t log in often.
We don’t ban pics of DD being posted to social media and don’t mind my sister posting the odd pic. We took some group family pics after the baptism which I plan to send to her and may not mind being shared. But I didn’t want pics of the actual baptism taken and shared, I wanted it to be private. Plus I don’t look good in candid photos and these ones are somewhat unflattering, DH hates how he looks in them too, you can’t see DD very well.
I didn’t think much of messaging her to ask if she would take the pics down, saying we’re not keen on them being on Facebook for all to see.
I’ve had loads of messages back telling me how unreasonable it is of me to ask, she’s really upset, it’s a free country she can post what she wants to her own facebook, it was a public place, I’m crazy for asking and it’s a bizarre request, and I’m vain for asking because I look bad in the picture, I always post posed ‘pouty’ pictures to try and look more attractive online and it’s pathetic. (Truthfully I barely share pics of myself to social media at all but never candid ones, usually nice ones smiling).
She did take it down but I wish I had never asked now, after all this. I thought it was normal to ask for take downs for whatever reason but she’s totally vilified and embarrassed me for it.
AIBU and was I wrong to have asked her to take them down?