For asking her to delete the Facebook photos?

Send her this video, usually does the trick

I did have a ban on all photos of DD when she was born but this sister was upset about it as she said she loves sharing life updates online, so I said I didn’t mind the odd pic.

It would have been easier to stand your ground at this point. I think it's better just to unambiguously say that you don't want pictures of your children online. The tide is really turning and a lot more people are doing this now.

I don't think you were in the wrong at all. She's taken them down, which is the main thing. We've had similar issues in my family. People can be very defensive but she will have got the message.

Why is your sister so upset, would you normally fall out over something like this?

Why do you post pouty pictures of yourself? Those really don’t look better than just normal photos tbh am sure you are lovely and you are who you are your daughter and family see you like that so you need to try not to feel so self conscious, it’s hard though I know but you’ve upset your sister for reasons you’ve not been honest about. Was it worth it?

Op honestly, it was likely a lovely day to celebrate your lovely baby girl and I’m sure you looked lovely as did your dh. You are parents now, a family and it’s lovely having pictures to look back on, warts and all as this is real life, we aren’t all walking about looking like supermodels either.

A baptism isn't a private event. Even if you had it as a separate ceremony rather than part of the usual Sunday morning service then it's still open to anyone who wandered into the church.

YABU. They’re her photos. I can’t stand people who are so precious about pictures of themselves/their kids.

It’s just a photo. I wouldn’t have taken them down.

Your sister seems totally fucking nuts with her reaction tbh. Not everyone wants to be fodder for other people's displays on social media. Bizarre. Share what you want of yourself but don't do it to other people. Especially kids.

I don’t think it helped you decided to frame it as big safeguarding risk for your daughter (who you said could barely be seen in the pictures) when you’ve allowed her to post pictures of your daughter before? I would have just been honest, I look a state please delete that one DS 😉

I think you were most unkind to make her think it was that it is about protecting your child when really you just don’t want your ex seeing you looking a state. I’d be really upset if someone suggested to me I’d put a niece at risk- that’s a big card to play when really you just think the photos are a bit to honest

If her Facebook account isn't locked to friends only, then I would use that as your reason for asking her to take things down/not post photos of your child or you.

Point out that your ex and family can see them and you need your privacy from him. Make it clear that it's the photos being available publically that you're not comfortable with.

Not at all - my daughter isnt on social media and my DH doesnt use it. He would have seen red if something like this was posted - because he had been shared and her, and a private event. She should have asked, she didnt, you asked for them to be removed. No damage done.

I could understand her sharing her photos if you had put them on first, but it dont think you have from your posts.

Just ignore the comments! People have different views on social media. You're allowed to ask for photos to be taken down if you dont like them or want them on there, you dont need a reason xx

It sounds like you don’t like the photos of yourself being shared and are just using your DD as an excuse. You say you can’t really see your DD in them? I think you were wrong to frame it as her making a massive safeguarding faux pas when in reality it is vanity.

I wouldn’t think twice of posting pictures of a family event online. If one of my family members said “I look bloody awful in that picture could you take it down” I would without hesitation, but be honest about it.

I think christenings, like weddings, are public, and anyone is allowed to walk in or be there, so I don't really know that you can realistically ban photos. But fair enough, you asked her to remove them and she has.

Your sister needs to learn that she can share her own life online, not everyone else's.

So picture of herself at christening... fine. Maybe a photo with her and baby, or a group family shot.
Not the actual ceremony

Totally reasonable to ask her not to publicise a private family event. I’d really hate that

I think you've sent mixed messages to her. You haven't got a ban on photos of DD being shared, so she shared them.
Your issue is your ex and his family seeing them. Especially as you said they weren't very flattering photos.
That's probably why she's miffed with you.

If you and DH looked stunning would you have asked her to remove the photos?
My point is what is the reason.
If you post pictures of your DD online then it's not privacy issue is it. No SM platform is safe IG/FB irrespective of which ever privacy settings you choose.
Sounds like a control thing - all power to you - it's your DD - but own the reasons why.

....and that's what all this is about, isn't it? Perhaps work on not caring what your ex and his family think as you've moved on very successfully x

Your sister has a problem if she wants sto share her life online