DH got drunk with my daughter(his stepdaughter) and her friend

Were you there op????
If another adult eas presentnit is a very dfferentb( although still not ok) stuation

Not giving their age because you're embarrassed that you allowed them to drink alcohol

You need to take some of the blame for this too

A grown man thought it appropriate to get two children drunk - that is the bad thing. How can you not see that that's not okay?

How much of a dad is he to your child? Is he a new man or proper step dad.

It sounds like your instinct is that it was inappropriate and you shld be trusting your instinct

I thought you were going to say 17 or 18 years. Why on earth would you give alcohol to someone else's child under 16 years, there is no need. At best your husband is stupid to get himself in this situation at worst he was deliberately getting himself into a position where boundaries are blurred.

Why did 2 under 16's need to drink?

Were they drunk?

The topics don't bother me as they are topical and kids should learn critical thinking - but they don't need alcohol.

Also did he go into your DDs room and do it or were they sat in your communal lounge with him?

Nothing screams worryingly inappropriate to me from info given other than the alcohol.

For heaven’s sake. Can people just calm down? Nothing bad even happened.

Your DH's behaviour was incredibly inappropriate. There's nothing "okay" about a grown man getting drunk with two sixteen year old girls.

red flags, red flags, red flags, on the both of you.

Can hardly believe you would provide alcohol for under 16s
Totally irresponsible

You allowed underage children to drink. You allowed an adult ,man to also get drunk with them, and discuss inappropriate topics. Massive safe guarding issues with you both.

Yes I know these type of dads

its creepy

or it’s pathetic wanting to be the cool parent

sorry I think more likely my first response

I don’t think this sounds nefarious to be honest but I was quite used to the occasional drunk adult at times. We usually just made fun of them and that was it. I’m not sure why everyone assumes the worst of intentions these days.

How do you know what they spoke about?

You allowed two under 16 year ilds to drink-this is on you
Why on earth did you think that was okay?
Where were you when your DH was drinking with them?

Very good question

That sounds like several evenings I had as a teenager, with my own parents and with friends' parents. We usually enjoyed it... the parent getting drunk is quite funny. As for the topics... they are current and newsworthy topics, so I don't see the problem in teenagers talking about them with an adult.

How long has he been in the picture? Long time father figure or mum's new fella?

Was he the sole adult in charge of the sleepover?

On the one hand, he's allowed a drink in his own home and discussing current affairs with some well informed teens.

On the other, a bit sleazy and inappropriate. Is he trying to be the "cool" one?

YABU for supplying kids under 16 with alcohol and not supervising them…

But no, my parents were drunk with my friends many times before I left home at 18, but probably not in a one of them two of us situation, more in a party environment.

you allowed two under 16s to drink?

You're refusing to say how old they actually are... So they could be 14..

You allowed children to get.drunknin your home but you're worried that your DH discussed things with them, things that they probably.already.know about because of the internet.

Where were you?

Where and in what context did this take place? Over dinner?

Yes I think it's really odd that a non parent sat with 2 teenage girls and got drunk. Controversial but I think if he was the actual DF then it would have been ok. I assume you weren't there, so how did you find out about the topic of conversation? Maybe your DH was trying to impart his wisdom - like many an inebriated person does, lol. Are you worried what your DD's friend is going to say to her parents?

Agree with this. an adult male drinking alcohol with underage girls is never going to look well - for good reason. Can't say I think much of you allowing alcohol at a sleepover for under 16s either.

Oh and btw there is 0 circumstances where he needs to be discussing paedophilia with your step daughter & her friend at a sleepover while getting drunk with them.

Id bet anything he got a kick out of that. He probably fancies them both. All of my female friends with step dads as a child were creepy sleezes and would flirt with us kids 🤮🤢

Well I would take my daughter and move away from this man. He is discussing adult subjects with underage girls while they are drinking at his encouragement. He sounds a real sleazy bastard.