Crying and shaking

But people react differently to different things?

I posted above that I cried and shook when my best friend died and when I lost my baby.

I was also raised in care and I'm a childhood sexual abuse survivor. I didn't cry or shake once while being molested. Not once as a 4 yo or older. I froze. I was numb. I continued to be numb for years.

That doesn't mean anything really beyond that was my trauma response.

I also cry at long distance commercials, and animal videos. I'm a sensitive sap to most things.

I don't compare my emotional responses to others. We all have our stuff.

No…but then I’m never ‘incandescent with rage on your behalf OP!’ Neither am I, ‘crying reading your posts OP’ and I never worry if OP never updates on her visit to A&E eg. I really shouldn’t be on here….

Once, when I had to go with my mum to identify my father's body. He'd died extremely unexpectedly, young, in traumatic circumstances (for us, he was likely unaware), at about the worst possible time, emotionally speaking.

It's the only time in my adult life that I've lost it. It was like I was watching myself falling apart unable to intervene, like a passenger in my own body.

So yes, but only under very extreme circumstances. Not for any other deaths, being in pain, or anything else. So far.

My arms and legs shake after very extreme situations, it’s just an adrenaline/shock thing. For example, I remember shaking quite badly when j was in Manchester when IRA bomb went off. I’m not much of a cryer but I’m pretty sure tears and adrenaline aren’t mutually exclusive so it doesn’t seem particularly surprising to me that some people would do both.

Doesn’t really matter, does it? No need to take everything literally.

I met up with a friend for tea, and I made her laugh so much, she snorted tea up onto her glasses... which made us both laugh even more.
I fucking love a good laughing session... the type where you can't even breath anymore and then forget what was even funny in the first place.
But saying that, I can't recall ever laughing that way from something I have seen online. In person stuff, yes.

I think that happens when your body goes into shock. I remember crying and shaking an hour after I broke my arm, and was sitting in a&e during lockdown, the pain was awful.

I've had somethings terrible happen to me , haven't cried and shook .Some pretty unusual life experiences .
The only thing that has never happened to make me cry and shake would be for something utterly terrible for to happen to my sons .
That is the only thing that could have such a devastating reaction from me .

I've NEVER cried and shaked. Can't lie I do think people are probably being slightly dramatic when they say it

I snorted soup over the wall in work once, I laughed at the wrong moment!

Maybe you've had so much trauma your responses are numbed trauma does different things to different people.

I have EUPD, and crying and shaking for me happens a lot, and for seemingly minor things too.

This^
Not everyone will have the same response as you OP. We don’t all find the same things funny or scary either.

I suffer from anxiety and often have a adrenaline reaction that leaves me shaking, panic attack I guess - it's fucking exhausting and I hate it.

I think may have cried while shaking a couple of times in my life, far more likely to be one or the other for me.

My DM and my sister both shake and cry simultaneously when they are upset. Its not for dramatic effect- its an uncontrollable response. It’s not very nice to watch either - whenever I’ve seen either of them in that state, I’ve found it really uncomfortable to see, and has worried me for them.

Although I understand what you mean re: Mumsnet hyperbole, I think YABU in general.

Isn't it the case that everyone is different and people react differently to events in their lives. Surely that's not too hard to understand? Always seems to be a lot of I've reacted in a superior way to others on these threads, is it really necessary?

The only time I've been crying and shaking at the same time I was in clinical shock. I remember saying to the dr that I couldn't stop shaking, but I wasn't cold apparently its quite common in proper clinical shock (about the only bit I remember from the 1st day in hospital).

I was in an accident.

I was admitted to hospital.

At one point I was in a room in a and e for about an hour while they found a bed and tried to work out if they could operate that nights

I was very cold and shaking continuously. I was also crying because I'd just started a new job and I was worried about losing it.

That was about an hour.

I was in both medical (lost quite a lot of blood) and psychological shock.

I've only cried and shaked twice in my life, both after horrifically traumatising situations. I think its a stress response.

I don't cry/shake at anything on mumsnet but some posts do make me laugh (but not snort tea) i have genuinely woken my baby once by laughing but didn't obvs didn't post that.

My best friend died at 31 unexpectedly. It was awful and yes the shock made me cry and shake.

Also when I lost my baby I cried and shook. My body went ice cold from the shock. I remember my teeth were chattering.

I shake very easily - yesterday I was shaking while describing a scene in a TV thriller to someone. I don't know why. I always have.

I have a few times, I'm quite a keep it together get on with it type person but when I've had some very hard moments I have got like this. it's more like a panic attack when I can't catch my breath or control my cry.

If you're in shock you definitely can