I hate sharing food!

I hate sharing as I am fussy about food and have a tomato allergy. I don’t trust others to put their fingers or cutlery in a sharing bowl that hasn’t got tomato in and contaminate everything. My food is my food.

I love sharing! All you have to do is mentally divide up the plate and take that much-most things you can count anyway.

We heard first time mate.

This thread is from 2024.

I have never liked it, but I get it from the restaurants perspective. Less time plating up on a busy service.

Sunday dinner is also highly vulnerable to my biggest gripe…. People not wanting X, can I have extra Y instead? This makes it easier and more cost effective for the restaurant

with tapas. Not really relevant as that’s the point of the cuisine. Don’t like it, don’t go

Seems very odd to me that someone would only want one thing off the menu and to eat the whole plateful themselves.

How odd to think this is odd, its literally how restaurants work unless you opt for,Tapas or sharing platrers
What would you like-fish and chips
Ill have lasagne

Ive never been in a situation where someone has tried to take half my food off my plate
They would get told off!
Such dreadful manners

Not sure the op cares any more given this thread is two years old

I am happy to share with friends or family, we order enough no one goes hungry and we don’t find it complex to eye a dish and work out a rough portion, no one is greedy and takes too much and no one is overly polite and takes a tiny amount, and as said, we order enough so we know we won’t be hungry,

I don’t like it so much with colleagues, everyone is a little hesitant and takes small amounts, but ultimately it’s fine. No biggie.

I get this.. never thought of it like this

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@ImCamembertTheBigCheese Wow thanks. I'm autistic. I literally have to have my husband count the chicken and vegetables (for example) and weigh our plates to make sure that food is even but sure... it's not that difficult.

In a group scenario that would be impossible and no one else is going to make sure that everyone has an even amount of chicken vs veg etc. They'll just take what they think is fair, whether or not it's truly an even amount.

FAR easier to order my own food and not share.

You look at the food and use a spoon, knife or fork to take the correct portion. It's not difficult.

@Bjorkdidit that’s a very rose tinted view IMO! What actually happens is no one really gets what they want as everyone is so focussed on being polite and not taking the last bit/being greedy OR one oblivious/selfish person eats the lions share and leaves crumbs for the rest! I’ll only share with certain people in certain circumstances, sharing with strangers or in a work context is a massive no for me. I do have a quite serious food intolerance which comes in handy for sharing situations 😉

I'm with you, OP, I don't like sharing food. Tapas is my worst nightmare

If you hate it you hate it op but surely it’s only a problem when there isn’t enough?

I hate it too!

There's nothing worse than shall we meet up at mine and Chinese? Ooh yes please! Great, we'll order lots of bits and bobs and share.

No. I want beef with green peppers in black bean sauce and egg fried rice.

No you can't have any because I don't like your chicken satay. I don't like bbq sauce on spare ribs. So get your thieving hands off my beef just because it looks nice. It is nice!

I don't go out often 🤣

A buffet is not the same as ‘sharing plates’. At a buffet you are served or serve yourself onto your plate, then you eat from your own plate. Perfectly acceptable, in France the starter or hors d’œuvre is often on a serve yourself table with set of plates or bowls, you fill your plate and then eat from it.

Central bowl or plate, ‘all tuck in ‘ more problematic from many points of view. ( and before anyone starts on the ‘o they do it in other cultures’ in most of them there is a fairly strict protocol on who serves themselves first.)

I don’t have the type of food I want. I will eat anything, but I am a fairly fussy eater in terms of what I actually enjoy. I normally am very careful what I eat to watch my weight. Eating out is a real treat for me and I want to eat food I enjoy, not force down something someone else has chosen which I’m not particularly keen on.

I am ok with sharing but hate when mil says that she isn't that hungry but will take/nip from other peoples dishes. I never give her anything. She can order her own dish if she wants to eat.

Thank you i am only here for the Friends and Gavin and Stacey quotes.

One thing I never share is dessert.

You see how that's more fraught and difficult than, 'get plate of food, eat what you want'. It might be worth it for people who desperately want lots of different tastes. But it's not worth it to me.

And I'd rather get my plates, eat what I want and then say, "I'm not finishing the broccoli, does anyone want the rest?" than share plates.

I'm perfectly happy to go to restaurants or hotels where there's a heated self servery, with ladles, serving spoons etc. with which to help oneself, and where I know I can take as much or little as I choose to, as it's regularly refilled. But a platter or bowl in the middle of the diners' table, where there's a risk of people dipping their own slurped on spoons or forks in? Count me out.

@Bjorkdidit As an autistic person, it absolutely does need to be even. I need to know exactly how much I'm allowed to eat.

I get how that would work for (most) NT people though!