To not want DS(3) to play with the garden hose?

I'm reading this reminiscing about when my Ds was playing fireman Sam in the garden and fed the hose through the cat flap to put out a pretend fire in the kitchen 😱

I’m neither for or against playing with the hose but if he is playing with it make sure it’s turned on by an adult and the water runs for a minute or two before playing with it. Children have had horrific scalding burns from water that’s say inside the hose and lay in the sun!

It's the inconsistencies that means he can't follow the rules though, as they are constantly changing by the sound of it. No wonder he gets frustrated and has a tantrum. If you're consistent with them then he'll be able to play with the hose and you stay dry, as well as heed a warning if he looks in danger of getting too silly.

Don't let him go rogue then. Punish him. Remove him from vicinity of hose.

Just give him some rules for playing with hose. If he breaks them, or keeps you, the adult, prisoner in your own house because he's naughty, take the hose away.
It isn't rocket science, nor one or other option.

Can your DC not just go naked? So much easier for everyone involved.

Where we live, the houses are so close together that if I let my DC play with the hose (which they'd love), they'd soak Mr Annoying Loudly WFH In The Garden and his laptop 😂. Which would be very funny but I don't fancy the bill for replacing it.

You don't need to wash his clothes. It's clean water. Just dry and use again. He does need supervising though.

Let him stay wet for a while, if he gets cold and uncomfortable it might put him off a bit. If you immediately dry him off put in dry clothes and then he goes out and does it again no way.

It’s actually pretty dangerous to let children play with tools generally- they need to know the difference between toys and tools, to keep them safe.

In this case, come summer he could be badly scalded or scald someone else if her turns the hosepipe on someone before it’s been checked.

@ILoveYouItsRuiningMyLife

Mine are obsessed with water balloons.
it’s a pain in the arse but sometimes you need to just get on with such pain in the arse things.

Not sure how you've totally missed the point of OP post

So let your husband supervise him and stay indoors with door locked

When DH is here he sends him out with it.
So DH isn't even playing with him?........ he's just trying to give DS something to do to get him out of the way .... ?

You do sound like a miserable kill joy tbh, weird that you're bothered about the waste of water but not the waste in electric using a tumble dryer on a hot day!

If it keeps your Ds happy and occupied that sounds like a winning situation, I'd let him crack on.

Reasons are that

firstly, massive waste of water

• agreed! Children can play with water so much less wastefully

Second. We’re all stuck inside while DS runs amok with hose
And your DH is happy with everyone being stuck inside?? I'm with you! Do DH and DS know they can't make everyone else just wait while DS has his fun. ........... regardless of anyone else

Third, can’t open the door as he sprays the water inside (made a horrendous mess this morning and soaked everyone’s shoes)
Absolutely a NO! Does DS know he hasn't got the right to just inconvenience everyone else just so he can have fun and be happy

Fourth, gets drenched himself meaning more washing clothing changes etc.
So, let your DH deal with it if he says DS' behavour is ok

Why are you expecting to deal with the consequences alone ??

DS is 3. He's always going try and do everything he wants to do ...... whenever he wants to do it .... without thinking of anyone else.

You don't want him to. You're parenting responsibly.

So, just let DH parent the way he wants to ....... but don't allow him to expect you to pick up the slack and sort out the resulting mess

Let DH deal with the consequences of what he's decided is ok, while you go and carry on with your life / catch up on tv / have a glass of wine / go out with friends / just chill

Your trouble is you’ve come onto AIBU and you’re too precious , I was ‘ffs’ At the ridiculousness of not wanting to say no to a 3 year old, not to you personally. But of course , take everything personally and take offence where there was none!

You’re quite clearly overly het up about the situation. It’s really not a hard one. You are a parent. So you can just say no. But you’re all overly emotional and over the top about it. Just calm down. Seriously. None of what you describe is a big deal and you’ve gone all ‘victim’ for no reason whatsoever. Chill out.

Then I can see that soggy wet clothes and a tumble drier may not mix, do you have to spin them first to get the worst of the wet out?

Maybe you could make an exception for these clothes and line dry them once the hose play is finished?

I get where you are coming from, it annoyed me, but DS and DH did have a lot of fun together playing either with the hose or those super soaker water guns, so I put up with it. They both took off their wet clothes outside and wrapped themselves in towels before they came in. DH pegged up both of their wet clothes before he came in.

My nearly three year old plays with the hose all the time. The rules are we turn it off if he sprays us, the dog, or the door. He gets soaked but I don't mind that. If a two year old can have good control then your three year old certainly can. And then everyone is happy.

You have a DH problem.

If he's sending 3 yo DS out alone numerous times a day to play with the hose in what you've said is freezing cold water in slippy and dangerous conditions, then refusing to change him into dry clothes and chuck the clothes in with a load of laundry, he's a pretty shit Dad and partner

Hard no on using the garden hose for DS4. It’s hugely wasteful just spraying everywhere. He has loads of outdoor water toys I am happy for him to play with, but I fill them up, that’s a none negotiable.