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How messy is your house right now? BE HONEST

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Trycod · 06/05/2024 16:05

I think mumsnetters are not always entirely honest when asked about the state of their homes - thinking of that thread where everyone posted immaculate kitchens when the op asked for realistic pictures.

We’ve cancelled our bank holiday plans due to weather. Kind of taken the easy route by taking the kids to a toy shop for legos to keep them occupied so DH and I could get into a box set with a curry. House is not messy but certainly not immaculate. Haven’t done much this weekend so definitely feeling guilty.

Genuinely curious - how messy is your house this very second. Instagram has made me feel a bit sick to my stomach. Following a lot of house accounts as DH and I would like to build in the 5 or so years.

My kitchen is tidy enough but everything not cleaned daily could do with a wipe - fridge, bin, cupboard doors, patio doors etc. Sink and surfaces clean for now.

One living room is a war zone. I don’t even try to have that tidy. But our living room/diner is totally clutter free (house rule as I need one clean space for play dates without having to rush around like a crazy person). Bathroom toilet and sinks are fine but limescale could be dealt with. Grouting is a bit yuck.

All bedrooms need a dust and a vac which I may do later. Usually I make kids tidy rooms over the weekend but I told them they didn’t have to bother (they were well behaved whilst dh was sick last week which was a God send).

Washing was bad but I paid one of the kids to get through 4 baskets this weekend which they have managed. Dh will fold later.

What about you?

OP posts:
Lemonandlimez · 06/05/2024 17:34

All the rooms are hoovered and everything is in its place. Living room, Bathrooms and kitchen are clean and also tidy. BUT, don't you dare open a single Cupboard in this entire House Grin

effoffwind · 06/05/2024 17:34

My house is immaculate

But ...

My children are grown and far away
Don't remember the last time I ever had a visitor
I grew up in an absolute health hazard shit tip and this affected me massively
It's very very quiet .. I'd trade a messy house any day to go back in time to rowdy children , noise , pals in and out

FriendlyNeighbourhoodAccountant · 06/05/2024 17:33

Babadook76 · 06/05/2024 16:38

She didn’t say unrealistic has to be untidy or dirty. She’s saying the replies to the thread where people were asked to show photos were unrealistic. Realistically some people will have tidy houses, some messy and some filthy. Even the people with normally tidy houses will have messy rooms sometimes. My kitchen is normally immaculate, but if I took a photo now there’ll be a pressure washer and power tools on the floor and my dc’s dirty plates on the side. When the pp in that thread said take a photo as it is RIGHT NOW and 52 of the 61 photos show a fucking immaculate kitchen, hobs and sinks sparkling, an artfully folded tea towel and not so much as a dirty mug in sight, you KNOW that more than a few people have cheated there

That's just confirmation bias. Maybe there were those 52 people with immaculate kitchens because those people like to keep a very clean house and there were 300 other people who didn't post their kitchens because they weren't immaculate.

Desecratedcoconut · 06/05/2024 17:32

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 06/05/2024 17:25

Very. Like it usually is. Because I have things I want to do that aren't housework.Get off Instagram and stop caring what other people do.

Life is just easier when you keep your environment clean and tidy though. It supports you to get more done when it's easy to make a meal because the kitchen isn't cluttered and it's easy to take a bath because you don't have to scrub the tub first and it's easy to find clean clothes because they don't linger forgotten in a pile somewhere in progress.

AllThePotatoesAreSinging · 06/05/2024 17:27

On a scale of 1-10 it’s a 93. the big kid is in nursery tomorrow so I should be able to get it down to the mid 50s before he comes home 😂

Errolwasahero · 06/05/2024 17:26

@TheCatterall i hope your situation improves soon, and your ds gets better 💐

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 06/05/2024 17:26

JennyForeigner · 06/05/2024 17:23

Absolutely horrific. Picked this weekend to try and potty train twins 😬

The piss is tidal.

Blimey. May the force be with you.

Moier · 06/05/2024 17:26

Very tidy but only me in my 3 bed house.
But things are hidden..l haven't emptied the dishwasher and clothes still in tumble dryer.
My cleaner came Friday.
I'm hoping window cleaner comes too.. I've bird muck on some windows.

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 06/05/2024 17:25

Very. Like it usually is. Because I have things I want to do that aren't housework.Get off Instagram and stop caring what other people do.

Errolwasahero · 06/05/2024 17:24

@QuickDraining ours is much the same as yours. We need to do stuff to sort it but have been ill/struggling with life so just about manage to have cleanish kitchen, lounge and bedroom, bathroom. That said, as my lovely sister once said to me when the children were little ‘you won’t be lying on your death bed thinking I wish I’d kept the house cleaner’! Life moves pretty fast…

JennyForeigner · 06/05/2024 17:23

Absolutely horrific. Picked this weekend to try and potty train twins 😬

The piss is tidal.

TheCatterall · 06/05/2024 17:23

I’d be embarrassed if I had unplanned visitors turn up.

I seem to have an unfinished decorating project in every room and area. I have damp and issues with some walls/windows and radiators. So I have clutter and piles everywhere to work around as I moved things to start decorating or diy. But never seem to complete or be able to afford to
finish things.

things got worse 6 years ago when my oldest son had a psychotic breakdown and he’s never recovered. I had to bring him home from Oxford and have spent 6 years in turmoil with him in and out of our home/hospital etc. I have his bed/mattress:fridge/ cooker/clothes and all sorts in the loft/hall/garage and under the stairs as he’s sectioned for 2 years now. He won’t let me sell it and I can’t take it into hospital.

I work from home and run 2 businesses. I stupidly took in a lodger (old business acquaintance ) thinking it would help me get my shit together/get a routine to help beat my depression. That’s not working out. I’ve lost the home office as it was in the spare bedroom so I now have more shit stacked in the lounge/dining room.

things are clean. Washing is done often. Kitchen is clean. But there’s tools/clutter/vinted/charity/spare furniture everywhere.

I hate the state of my home it feeds my depression and the cycle continues.

this last two weeks I started a habit building tracker. I’ve spent just 10 or 15 mins on the garden and same for the house each day and I can see a change. I’m working on slowly slowly… little and often. I have adhd and struggle with the all or nothing side. So little by little is working quite well for me as I’m not finding it overfacing. I have two business buddies that run decluttering businesses so following their podcasts and being in their groups helps for accountability.

Davros · 06/05/2024 17:21

Merryoldgoat · 06/05/2024 16:43

It looks like there’s been some kind of incident.

This made me larf

RabbitsRock · 06/05/2024 17:18

Kitchen floor needs a mop too

DilemmaDelilah · 06/05/2024 17:14

Whole house could do with a hoover. Sitting room just needs a few things put away. Kitchen has a little bit of washing up to do - only a few bits. My bedroom needs a tidy, as does the office. There are a few shoes that could be tidied up in the hall. That's about it really.

WoodBurningStov · 06/05/2024 17:10

It's 'ok'
Beds were changed in the weekend
My robot hoover did the downstairs hoovering and mopping this morning, so floors are ok
I dusted downstairs yesterday
Upstairs is ok, hoovered and dusted last week
Cleaned the sink and toilet on the weekend
So I guess my house is 'ok', tidy ish and clean ish.

RabbitsRock · 06/05/2024 17:10

Oh yes & kitchen table = dumping ground & it’s nearly all my stuff! I also have piles in the lounge of magazines etc.

RabbitsRock · 06/05/2024 17:09

Needs a deep clean & a massive clearout to the tip/charity shop/selling pages! The main thing that would make it so much better is ripping up the horrible carpet & laying laminate flooring all through (already have it in the lounge, hall & DD’s bedroom) The kitchen is very cluttered & there’s a mountain of bags for life in one corner. Haven’t cleaned the fridge for ages or the inside of the cupboards & the oven could do with a good going over. Lounge & bedrooms in particular need a thorough dust. Hall, stairs & landing are cluttered although better than they were & we can barely get in DH’s office! The bathroom was done up last year & is the cleanest room in the house. Our bedroom is quite cluttered & I really need to sort the big pile of clothes on my stool, many still in their packaging. There is a little mould in some rooms which DH keeps saying he will scrub off. Mirrors & inside windows haven’t been cleaned in a long time. Windowsills really bad apart from the kitchen one which DD’s GF randomly cleaned recently! Oh dear that sounds awful but it’s ok living here. Just gets to us sometimes then we have a mini blitz.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 06/05/2024 17:03

Clean and tidy. DD has been out, so DH and I have been non stop.
It won’t stay that way once DD returns!

Scoobydoobywho · 06/05/2024 17:01

We had people round for lunch yesterday, so at the moment we're doing well tidy wise.
Though give it a few more days and the dining table will become a communal dumping ground.

fieldsofbutterflies · 06/05/2024 16:58

Very tidy apart from the spare room which has kind of turned into a dumping ground. We don't have DC though - just two adults, three cats and a dog.

LlynTegid · 06/05/2024 16:58

A lot less messy than it was at 9am this morning. I've got people staying later in the week.

pawprintseverywhere · 06/05/2024 16:58

After working all Bank Holiday Fri- Mon I have just got home and blitzed it ha so it's looking alright.

tennesseewhiskey1 · 06/05/2024 16:57

It’s like a tornado came through - and never left. Sigh ☹️. I have two kids and one very old dog - 18 years so she’s struggling with mess etc.

MalibuBarbieDreamHouse · 06/05/2024 16:55

My house is clean. I’m pregnant with two kids under 5, but only work here and there for the family business, so there’s no real excuse for me not to be on top of it. I have a rough rota of what jobs are everyday jobs, what I do once a week etc, nothing takes up my day and I do it during school hours.

Lucky to have a playroom, so currently got my feet up watching my girls play, there’s play food scattered but they clean up before bed.

DH is very helpful and does his fair share, he grew up in a messy house, so craves cleanliness.

Sadly had to put my old cat down last week, heartbroken but definitely noticed that I haven’t needed to vacuum as much.