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Hiker50 · 2024-05-06T13:44:04+00:00

My husband has got the grouting done. Earlier he finished rubbing down the paintwork. Does anyone else’s husband seek them out to tell you what they’ve done? He did something in the garden yesterday I didn’t listen to what he said and I’ve just had to lie and say yes I do think it looks better. If I don’t tell him everything I’m doing around the house and garden does that mean I haven’t done anything? Like a tree falling in the middle of a forest. I do love him. He’s so funny.

IsaidByeByeMissAmericanPie · 06/05/2024 17:49

I knew what this thread would be about from the title. This is my husband!
Do you have any medals hanging around? The kids have a couple of medals we offer him anytime he acts like this and we can (thankfully) all have a laugh about it.

FangsForTheMemory · 06/05/2024 17:46

Could he come round and do mine?

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Hiker50 · 06/05/2024 16:44

@qwertyasdfgzxcv I will send him round. He very rarely sits down. The kids always assume he’s up a ladder when they want to know where he is.

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Hiker50 · 06/05/2024 16:43

@Isopodia Obsessed with this. I would want to hear every detail.

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Blessedbethefruitz · 06/05/2024 16:16

Oh god, I've always worked from home full time but at the start of the pandemic dp was wfh full time too. I got 30 minute updates of what he had done, all day, for many many months... No one is that interested in spreadsheets!

qwertyasdfgzxcv · 06/05/2024 16:14

Maybe I'm in the minority but I would have no issue with this. Probably because mine doesn't do much and if he does, I have to ask him to!

Funnywonder · 06/05/2024 16:12

Isopodia · 06/05/2024 15:52

I was all ready to come on and agree about the attention seeking men, until.... I remembered the small fence I built between my back door and the storage sheds that are up a few steps. I told EVERYONE about it. I took photos and forced people to look at them. I even showed my counsellor. I'm no better than a man. In my defence, it was a tricky spot as the fence had to go up about 5 steps. In fact, behold, my amazing fence!

That's an excellent fence to be fair👏

imnotthatkindofmum · 06/05/2024 16:05

NigelHarmansNewWife · 06/05/2024 15:49

DP has a terrible habit of treating me as though I am the plumber's/sparky's/chippie's mate when he does DIY around the place. He asks me to help him when I'm in the middle of other jobs. I'm self-sufficient so this really pisses me off. In fairness he's getting better at not doing this.

This is what my Dh does. I usually just tell him
I'm busy. I hate being interrupted especially if I'm just sitting because if I am just sitting it's usually because I'm exhausted from doing 101 other jobs first!

Cheeseismyfavourite · 06/05/2024 16:01

Haha we have the weakly “it’s bin day tomorrow” announcement on a Wednesday night. I mentally roll my eyes as it pretty much the only thing he’s solely responsible for. If I did a roll call for my list it’d soon wear thin

Mummyratbag · 06/05/2024 16:00

In this house if he either of us do that the other says "well done, medal ceremony at 12" it makes the point

Summerhillsquare · 06/05/2024 16:00

Serious question: how can you bring yourselves to have sex with these giant babies? Do you get a running commentary on that too?!

Maray1967 · 06/05/2024 15:59

Great thread. I’m not sure about the mother thing because MIL doesn’t praise him to the hilt for mundane tasks. But I think there’s something to the learned behaviour - boys shouting for attention and getting it. I’m now hoping that I’ve not brought mine up like this but I haven’t noticed DS1 (23) doing it so far.

Maray1967 · 06/05/2024 15:57

Great thread. I’m not d

mynameiscalypso · 06/05/2024 15:56

I like to do this in a slightly passive aggressive way when I do something that DH has been promising to do for weeks.

UtterlyButterly2048 · 06/05/2024 15:55

Yep. I’ve had a blow by blow account today of the one load of washing he’s done AND the fact that he put it in the tumble drier and it DRIED 🤦‍♀️ He has yet to take it out and you know, actually fold it and put it away and the fact that is 18 degrees outside, so plenty warm enough to be hung out, has escaped his notice.

Theunamedcat · 06/05/2024 15:53

So glad I'm training my sons not to do this and other things like stating the bleeding obvious

Isopodia · 06/05/2024 15:52

I was all ready to come on and agree about the attention seeking men, until.... I remembered the small fence I built between my back door and the storage sheds that are up a few steps. I told EVERYONE about it. I took photos and forced people to look at them. I even showed my counsellor. I'm no better than a man. In my defence, it was a tricky spot as the fence had to go up about 5 steps. In fact, behold, my amazing fence!

Newname71 · 06/05/2024 15:52

The other thing that winds me up…
He’ll say “I’ve put a wash on for you”Or “I’ve done the dishes for you”
no you’ve done those things because you live here too and this is 2024 and it’s as much your responsibility as mine! Fuckwit!

Tospyornottospy · 06/05/2024 15:51

When DH has cooked dinner he will discuss at length the way he cooked the meat (usually different from the instructions because he knows better) and I will get a proper mansplanation about how to cook meat and meat in general.

I humour him though because tbf his meat tastes good and it’s a bit like petting the excited puppy.

great thread 😀

TheProvincialLady · 06/05/2024 15:50

NigelHarmansNewWife · 06/05/2024 15:44

Foreplay?

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If it is, it ain’t working 😀

NigelHarmansNewWife · 06/05/2024 15:50

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 06/05/2024 15:49

DH is fixing the back door lock. He's just explained what's wrong with it, what he's going to do to fix it, and what bits he needs. Fair play the bit I listened to sounds complicated, but this morning he explained how the energy usage reader works. The same way it worked when we got it last year, it seems.
And I know that when he fixes the flipping lock I'll have to go and be impressed while he demonstrates how it works. And what he did. And why it was trickier than he'd expected because (insert random reason here)
Solidarity, sisters. We've got this.

Get the 3 in 1 ready for him. He'll be asking where it is any minute.

NigelHarmansNewWife · 06/05/2024 15:49

DP has a terrible habit of treating me as though I am the plumber's/sparky's/chippie's mate when he does DIY around the place. He asks me to help him when I'm in the middle of other jobs. I'm self-sufficient so this really pisses me off. In fairness he's getting better at not doing this.

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 06/05/2024 15:49

DH is fixing the back door lock. He's just explained what's wrong with it, what he's going to do to fix it, and what bits he needs. Fair play the bit I listened to sounds complicated, but this morning he explained how the energy usage reader works. The same way it worked when we got it last year, it seems.
And I know that when he fixes the flipping lock I'll have to go and be impressed while he demonstrates how it works. And what he did. And why it was trickier than he'd expected because (insert random reason here)
Solidarity, sisters. We've got this.

Maray1967 · 06/05/2024 15:47

persisted · 06/05/2024 15:12

A few years ago DH and I had an argument about a similar thing, and I said " what do you want a bloody gold star or something? " and he said yes, actually he did.

So I went and got a piece of paper and a packet of gold stars and put a star chart on the fridge so that if he wanted to behave like a child he could.

It was up for months and became a running joke.

Love it - wish I’d done this! It could have gone next to one for the Dc making their beds…

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Hiker50 · 06/05/2024 15:47

He just tells me so much. The grout commentary went on for a while. He also got a new brush and has told me what he plans to do with it.
Sometimes I have to stop what I’m doing to go and look at what he’s done.
He doesn’t really stop - which is amazing - but the commentary can be relentless.
Im going to take him on a tour of everything I’ve done later.
Then show him a PowerPoint of it all.

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