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To think applying perfume pre-plane is antisocial?

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Confrontayshunme · 06/05/2024 13:11

My DM was always really sensitive to perfumes (lots of allergies), and she always said not to wear heavy perfume when you are in various places where people can't escape it (office meetings, carshares, planes, etc). It occurred to me, while a friend applied two squirts of every Britney Spears scent available in duty free, that coating yourself in perfume right before you are in a confined space is a bit antisocial. When I was pregnant I would have vomited profusely just walking through duty free, and I know some ND people who are sensitive.

Just wondering what other people think as I am a bit bored?

YABU - perfume before boarding is fine
YANBU - It is a bit anti-social.

OP posts:
Teaalwayshelps · 07/05/2024 11:17

VestibuleVirgin · 07/05/2024 10:57

For serious allergies, of course. We've all learnt to do without nuts on planes. But somthing that makes people feel a bit nauseous or gives headache, it's ridiculous

Have to say I disagree.

If you were the one with nausea or headache/migrane you probably would too.

Reactions to strong scent are not nearly as rare as you seem to think either.

InWalksBarberalla · 07/05/2024 11:12

Strong perfumes give me a migraine but so do plenty of things - don't expect them to be banned. I did get a migraine on a plane once and spent a good few hours vomiting into a bag next to a complete stranger (once I was no longer capable of making it to the toilets). So that's a risk you take dousing yourself in perfume before a flight.

TakeOnFlea · 07/05/2024 11:12

"Wouldn’t bother me and as a PP said it would beat BO, booze or fags."

Imagine spraying yourself with something that comes slightly above booze, BO and fags 😂

It stinks. Keep your shitty perfumes off my Ryanair

JennyBeanR · 07/05/2024 11:09

I think the bleed air from the engines should get rid of it shortly after takeoff?

I agree it's difficult as people can have bad reactions from perfumes. However, as long as duty free perfumes are available in testers, I'm not sure I would say the passengers partaking in it are being rude. Most people wouldn't think of it. It would need to be up to the airport/airline to issue reminders or set up policies around this if you expect passengers to not do it.

There are all sorts of things that makes air travel uncomfortable. The person next to you taking up half of your seat, BO, stale cigarettes, etc are all unpleasant. IMO airlines should move towards extending passenger space slightly (perhaps by restricting baggage allowance more) as most of these are issues with having to be so close to strangers.

TheCompactPussycat · 07/05/2024 11:06

A colleague of mine has come into the office this morning reeking of body spray of some description. I'm not going to demand they stop but it stinks despite me opening my window as wide as possible.

It is, quite frankly, the most unattractive stench. It really gives me the ick - strong scents always do. There is an association in my mind with heavy strong scents and heavy perspiration that I cannot shake so if I come across someone wearing strong-smelling scent my automatic reaction is that drenched in scent = drenched in sweat. If you need to wear a strong artificial scent then it must be because you have a pungent natural scent. Probably a bit unfair but that's the way it is.

KimberleyClark · 07/05/2024 10:59

Thepeopleversuswork · 06/05/2024 14:29

Wouldn’t bother me and as a PP said it would beat BO, booze or fags. But I can see if you have asthma or are allergic if could be antisocial. A plane would be a bit much.

I think being told not to wear it in an office is a bit OTT though. If you can’t wear it in a large space where can you wear it?

It depends on the perfume. Some fragrances are just really strong and aggressive. Perfume should not be noticeable to anyone more than 2 feet away from you. If you can be tracked around the building by your perfume it’s too much.

VestibuleVirgin · 07/05/2024 10:57

Teaalwayshelps · 07/05/2024 10:24

You sound like the entitled one to me!

Do you have the same attitude to the 'outliers' with disabilities?

Surely we, as a society, should help people out when we can.

For serious allergies, of course. We've all learnt to do without nuts on planes. But somthing that makes people feel a bit nauseous or gives headache, it's ridiculous

Welovecrumpets · 07/05/2024 10:53

I’m fine with a light perfume but honestly some people truly reek. Fine if you are only around them for a few minutes but my sons key worker at nursery is COATED in Flowerbomb. He comes home smelling of it 🤮

Teaalwayshelps · 07/05/2024 10:52

Or lack of body hair?

Teaalwayshelps · 07/05/2024 10:46

EmilyTjP · 07/05/2024 10:41

So women can’t wear make up, can’t shave any body hair and now they can’t wear perfume either.

Sorry, don't get this. What's the problem with make-up and body hair on planes?

Teaalwayshelps · 07/05/2024 10:43

CandiedPrincess · 07/05/2024 10:31

Well exactly @Teaalwayshelps We don't insist people don't cut their grass because some people have hayfever.

Hmm, but maybe we would if they were cutting it in a very small enclosed space that people can't often avoid?

Nobody is saying people shouldn't wear perfume in general.
Just to be a bit considerate of allergies in places like planes and other enclosed spaces.

I do think the airlines should rethink the duty free perfume sales. All down to money of course! People's health is often secondary to that it seems

EmilyTjP · 07/05/2024 10:41

So women can’t wear make up, can’t shave any body hair and now they can’t wear perfume either.

CandiedPrincess · 07/05/2024 10:31

Well exactly @Teaalwayshelps We don't insist people don't cut their grass because some people have hayfever.

frankentall · 07/05/2024 10:27

Startingagainandagain · 07/05/2024 09:02

What a strange thread...

You really can't try to dictate what everyone else can and can't do to that degree..

Wearing perfume is a perfectly normal/common thing to do and one of the inconvenience you need to accept when using public transport.

A bit is OK, but over recent years it seems to be normal to apply loads so people absolutely fucking reek.

frankentall · 07/05/2024 10:25

YANBU I hate the current trend for applying fucking gallons of stench.

Teaalwayshelps · 07/05/2024 10:24

VestibuleVirgin · 07/05/2024 09:09

@INeedToClingToSomething Sorry, the world should not have to revolve around the odd one or two outlliers in a group
So asking people not to apply perfume whether for a 40 minute flight or a 24 hour flight is just selfish. If people are that allergic, they shouldn't put themselves into situations where they may be exposed to an allergen. Asking the rest of the world to stop doing something for them is the height of entitlement.

You sound like the entitled one to me!

Do you have the same attitude to the 'outliers' with disabilities?

Surely we, as a society, should help people out when we can.

Teaalwayshelps · 07/05/2024 10:16

CandiedPrincess · 06/05/2024 19:42

I have never once in my 45 years been bothered by anybody else's perfume.

That is just luck though. You are lucky enough not to be affected by it.

I have never once in my life been bothered by grass pollen. That doesn't mean there aren't plenty of people made miserable by it...

LawlorsNaa · 07/05/2024 09:36

I actually developed a nasal polyp and needed surgery to remove it because a work colleague wore the strongest perfumes everyday. I did tell her and to be fair she stopping wearing perfume but the damage was already done.

VestibuleVirgin · 07/05/2024 09:09

@INeedToClingToSomething Sorry, the world should not have to revolve around the odd one or two outlliers in a group
So asking people not to apply perfume whether for a 40 minute flight or a 24 hour flight is just selfish. If people are that allergic, they shouldn't put themselves into situations where they may be exposed to an allergen. Asking the rest of the world to stop doing something for them is the height of entitlement.

WoollyRosebud · 07/05/2024 09:03

Appleblum · 07/05/2024 08:42

I wouldn't call it anti social but I wouldn't want to be seated next to someone who did that. I inwardly roll my eyes whenever I see someone dousing themselves in duty free perfume. They're only doing it because it's free!

Not necessarily. It is normal to try a perfume before buying. So for example, I might try out a squirt of J’adore on my flight out somewhere because I want to see how it settles on my skin and lasts. I might, if I like it buy a bottle on the way home.

I agree with the PP about other aromas such as coffee. The smell of celery makes me physically sick let alone the taste. Celery is one of the known allergens. Should it therefore be banned as an ingredient from airline meals?

Startingagainandagain · 07/05/2024 09:02

What a strange thread...

You really can't try to dictate what everyone else can and can't do to that degree..

Wearing perfume is a perfectly normal/common thing to do and one of the inconvenience you need to accept when using public transport.

ItWorriesMeThisKindofThing · 07/05/2024 08:53

TheDogIsInCharge · 06/05/2024 20:56

I love perfume. Absolutely adore it and have a drawer in my kitchen that is devoted to perfume. I wear different ones in different seasons and deciding on what perfume I wear each day is one of my favourite things. Since my third Covid infection I get awful allergic reactions to things like skincare or accessories and need an inhaler - but never for perfume.

i can confirm Gok smells amazing, as does Olly Murs, Christian Vit, Tyler West…

My interest in perfume means I usually really enjoy smelling it around me. Perfume triggers olfactory memories of time and place. It is so evocative: a whiff of old spice reminds me of my grandad, the original Paco Rabanne of my sixth form years and snogging teen boys at parties, Phantom reminds me of my much missed teen son at uni. I can trace my life through perfume, from the early days of borrowing my mum’s Opium, to Chanel no19 in my late teens, Escape in my twenties, Aveda purefumes in my thirties to a serious niche perfume addiction now.

If you love perfume then Luca Turin/Tania Sanchez books are things of joy. I cannot imagine a life without it.

The only flight I have ever gagged was one where loads of men had taken their shoes off. That was fucking grim and way worse than getting a whiff of Angel (mind you, my friend wears this and it smells wonderful on her).

This sort of comment makes me genuinely sad I can’t enjoy perfume like you do!

ItWorriesMeThisKindofThing · 07/05/2024 08:49

WoollyRosebud · 06/05/2024 14:36

To me it's all part of the experience of flying to go and have a squirt of a lovely expensive perfume in duty free before boarding the plane. I would rather that aroma than garlic breath, BO, sick, unwashed human, airline toilets that have not been emptied between each flight. I do sympathise with people with allergies but maybe they should consider flying business class where they won't be so close to someone else.

Perfume doesn’t cancel out those smells, just makes them worse for me and a lot of others. But I accept perfumes are
out there and popular and not going away. I’d be really grateful if people at least confined the actual spraying to
their homes!

Appleblum · 07/05/2024 08:42

I wouldn't call it anti social but I wouldn't want to be seated next to someone who did that. I inwardly roll my eyes whenever I see someone dousing themselves in duty free perfume. They're only doing it because it's free!

Chausson · 07/05/2024 08:38

I have allergies to perfume. As much as people say they would rather smell it than BO I will take BO as though unpleasant I do not have an allergic reaction.

I use charcoal inserts in my nostrils and wear a face mask if I’m on a plane. My allergies were always there but a warning to anyone with allergies post menopause they can get substantially worse. Also allergies can develop during menopause.