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Pictures in the downstairs loo

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Grocer · 06/05/2024 09:48

I'm trying to do up the house a bit (lots of blank white walls & a general lack of love).

I got a little collection of family things to put up in the loo - all in nice frames. Few old postcards. Couple of baby pics. One (small) wedding photo (no professional or flashy - just a nice casual photo taken by my mum).

Started to put them up (nice bank holiday job) and DH said he thinks obnoxious when people put pictures of their own lives in the loo - like we are showing off - and if i want to put up a wedding photo it should be in our room.

I guess my AIBU is two-fold really - do people agree about downstairs loos?

But bigger question is does my DH get a say in all this stuff when he doesn't do anything himself? He doesn't suggest or buy anything for our house or do any DIY at all - but he does have a habit of telling me my ideas are terrible, a lot.

After ranting for 10 minutes about how much 'i bloody hate the idea' - i then put the pictures back in the drawer and he said 'do it if you want. i'm allowed to give my opinion though'

But it's pretty hard to crack on with something when you know the person you live with 'absolutely hates it'.

I know he can give opinions - of ocurse he can- but jsut feels like everything i do i have someone telling me how shit it all is.

Also, i am interested in whether people agree that family pics or litte pictures/postcards in the loo is obnoxious?

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Attictroll · 06/05/2024 10:05

Photos of people I know in the loo odd...and this is going to sound crazy..." I don't want them watching me😂" locking eyes even with a photo of friends husband whilst doing a wee .yuk.

Postcards etc cool

Grocer · 06/05/2024 10:04

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 06/05/2024 10:03

I like pictures in loos, but there does have to be some kind of agreement in things in walls in the family home I think

I agree. And this is what he says 'it's my home too and i'm allowed an opinion'

Which of course he is. But he doesn't suggest ANYTHING ever. He isn't interested. So we have lots of blank walls and unloved rooms. And if i suggest anything he's always got a reason why he doesn't like it.

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TenThousandSpoons · 06/05/2024 10:03

Postcards and pictures for loo is good. People/wedding photo I wouldn’t put in loo.
But not obnoxious.

Husband sounds obnoxious though.

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 06/05/2024 10:03

I like pictures in loos, but there does have to be some kind of agreement in things in walls in the family home I think

Grocer · 06/05/2024 10:02

@Haydenn he thinks people who have photos in their homes are 'showing off'. Which I get if you have lots of fancy professional photos everywhere...but a casual small pic of your wedding seems pretty ok.

Ha ha @Whatabother i've never thought of that before.

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BlueWhale47 · 06/05/2024 10:02

I personally wouldn't like photos of people in the loo. Around the rest of the house sure but not the loo. Couldn't explain why just feels a bit odd

Shoxfordian · 06/05/2024 10:02

Yeah I agree, I wouldn't put photos of people in the loo watching me doing things I like to do in private but your husband sounds like a dick, especially if this is part of a pattern

Whatabother · 06/05/2024 09:59

I know this sounds stupid but I wouldn't be comfortable having photos of people in the loo, even if they are family. I would get a sense of the person watching me when i was doing something I don't want an audience for..
Nothing against postcards or pictures but wouldn't be happy with photos of people.

Haydenn · 06/05/2024 09:51

Your husband is being a dick. How on earth is it obnoxious to have pictures in the loo. Of course your wedding photo shouldn’t be tucked away in your bedroom where only you may see it. On the wedding picture I’d say that should probably be living room, pride of place- but otherwise crack on.