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Dressing up in sexy lingerie

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Justgoodforthegetting · 06/05/2024 09:32

Topic inspired by the thread from the OP about how she doesn’t understand relationships going to shit after babies.

There seemed to be quite a lot of comments about the sexy underwear and the OP dressing up in sexy lingerie for her husband.

To clarify, the way the OP put it did make it seem like a bit of a desperate act in order to keep her husband happy but what is the general consensus on dressing up for a man (or woman) in this way?

I love to dress up in sexy lingerie for someone but would never do it if I felt it was to placate someone or keep them happy in some way, but I do like to see the reaction it gets and it makes me feel sexy and empowered.
How about everyone else?

IABU-sexy lingerie is outdated sexist nonsense.

IANBU-love sexy lingerie and wear it whenever the chance presents itself.

OP posts:
Hedgehog44 · 06/05/2024 09:55

I love pretty underwear but I wear it for me, not for him. Not sure if pretty equates to sexy but it's a big step up from my usual granny pants and non matching bra anyway.

Purplecatshopaholic · 06/05/2024 09:54

JanewaysBun · 06/05/2024 09:50

I like to dress up, i get enjoyment from it, i like to wear relatively sexy underwear day to day as I like it.

I once bought what looked like a sort of leather catsuit online. When it arrived it was so massive i looked like a deep sea diver. It was the funniest thing lol

Lol, love this. There is probably a whole sexual fetish thing around deep sea divers - maybe worth exploring…😆

Hoolihan · 06/05/2024 09:53

I dabbled a little in the early days of my marriage but he didn't seem that bothered and after we had kids the sex tailed off altogether anyway.

I'm now divorced at 49 and in a new relationship, he LOVES sexy undies and so do I. It turns me on to turn him on.

JanewaysBun · 06/05/2024 09:50

I like to dress up, i get enjoyment from it, i like to wear relatively sexy underwear day to day as I like it.

I once bought what looked like a sort of leather catsuit online. When it arrived it was so massive i looked like a deep sea diver. It was the funniest thing lol

ShinyEspeon · 06/05/2024 09:47

I wear it because I like it. Not costumes, or arse floss string pants and bras with nipple holes, but decent stuff a bit different from every day. My DH loves it but wouldn't request it, and I don't do it for "special occasions" or specifically to make him happy.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 06/05/2024 09:40

I wear nice socks and refuse to take them off.

Didimum · 06/05/2024 09:40

I think people should stay out of other people’s sex lives. Why on earth should anyone have an opinion on it?

ThehillIwilldieupon · 06/05/2024 09:39

I'd wear it if he loaded and unloaded the dishwasher, hoovered the whole house and cleaned both bathrooms without being asked. I'll meet his needs when he meets mine.

mynameiscalypso · 06/05/2024 09:39

I've never understood the point of sexy underwear. It always looks like it will chafe while you have it on and, presumably, the whole point is that it comes off. So why bother?

But I'm probably not the target market as I'm a big pant person!

LeaveTheClocksAlone · 06/05/2024 09:38

I don't even have kids and I'm not quite 40 but I just couldn't be arsed, even if it was for someone I was married to. All a bit desperate.

PilgorTheGoat · 06/05/2024 09:37

I don’t really have the figure for sexy lingerie. We don’t dress up for sex though, the clothes aren’t really on long enough.