Dressing up in sexy lingerie

I like nice underwear, lingerie and so does my partner. But his favourite thing to see me in is one of his shirts, just the shirt. So much more comfortable. 😁

*I always wear decent lingerie. Did when I was single and do in a relationship. It's because I want to nothing to do with partner.

I also wear nice clothes and make an effort to look well, again for me and no one else.

I also can't see how frumpy grey underwear can be much of a turn on for anyone. It wouldn't be for me.*

Do you expect it of your partner? Is he wearing the sort of sexy, accentuates your genitals pants that are available for men?

Its the double standard I can't stand. Women must "make an effort" with lace and silk & impractical bits of chiffon in order to feel sexy and desirable, while men walk about thinking a picture of their naked cock, zero adornment, is all a woman needs to see

I've never understood the point of sexy underwear. It always looks like it will chafe while you have it on and, presumably, the whole point is that it comes off. So why bother?

This, i can't stand that its always uncomfortable and it feels like such a demeaning and outdated concept that women should have to dress to titillate a man, but men can just wear comfy jersey boxers.

Surely people have got bigger imaginations to think that's what it's about?

For the women, yes. Men, no.

I do both! I like nice, expensive lingerie that looks good on. I feel good in it, I feel sexy and desirable and I like knowing I have it on under my clothes. I don't do cheap and I don't do uncomfortable. It's got absolutely nothing to do with being a 'sex ornament'. Surely people have got bigger imaginations to think that's what it's about?

I don't think lingerie is the ultimate sign of a successful relationship which was the issue on the other thread. But there's nothing wrong with it as a bit of fun.

I also can't see how frumpy grey underwear can be much of a turn on for anyone.

There’s a middle ground between ‘frumpy grey underwear’ and Agent Provocateur 😂

I always wear decent lingerie. Did when I was single and do in a relationship. It's because I want to nothing to do with partner.

I also wear nice clothes and make an effort to look well, again for me and no one else.

I also can't see how frumpy grey underwear can be much of a turn on for anyone. It wouldn't be for me.

Look good, feel good mentality.

I love my husband reaction when he finds me in his favourite pair of knickers. It's very exciting.

If I felt like I HAD to do it though, I wouldn't.

I didn’t read the other thread but I absolutely love dressing up.

I would say it’s just as much for me to feel sexy and good about myself, then it is a partner.

I agree with you that I would never do it to keep a partner but dressing up can be so much fun.

Men have less options but I love it when a man dresses up too.

I wear it because I like it and I like the reaction to it. I often wear very nice lingerie under mundane workclothes because it gives a nice boost.

However, I daresay if I had a young baby I'd feel about as inclined to want to wear it as I do when I'm full of pmt bloat or I've been up with the shits all night.

I use underwear for me not for my husband. Most times I’m asleep naked tho 😂

I love dressing up for my husband. The reaction I get from him makes me feel powerful. We're in our fifties, sex is still wonderful, Why not spice it up.

I don’t bother with sexy lingerie anymore, but I do wear clothes that accentuate my figure day-to-day.

I am in skin-tight activewear 80% of the time, and ex-boyfriends have always commented that they find it a turn on.

The problem with most lingerie is it’s really uncomfortable and impractical. I like to be comfortable and sexy. 🤗

I like it, it makes me feel sexy and I think I have the kind of body that looks better in underwear than naked. DP doesn’t seem to agree and is all about the nakedness

I don’t like the feeling of lace and nylon touching my skin.

Silk though...

I like lingerie (well, some.) I also like nudity. Some men do, some men don't. I focus on me more than them.

I was about to start a thread about this then I saw this was posted.

I would be partial to wearing lingerie. Having said that, my first boyfriend (I was young, think late teens) and he was early 30s. He suggested it and would have bought me clothes and lingerie and other sexual items from Ann Summers.

The first time I wore lingerie for my now husband his jaw nearly fell through the floor as it was something he personally never experienced an ex doing. He loved it but it wasn’t expected.

I think my first relationship skewed my expectation that this is just the done thing in a relationship.

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Good god no. I hate bras and can't bear lacy or inadequately sized knickers. I would feel very silly dressing up. I understand that some women enjoy wearing it for their partners but personally the thought of accessorising myself to appear more sexually appealing makes me cringe. I'm not a sex ornament. What effort does the man go to?

I like comfortable underwear and also very big covering up everything. All my knickers are Marylin Monroe style.
I don’t like the feeling of lace and nylon touching my skin.

If my partner asked me to wear sexy lingerie I would:
1- ask for him to pay for it
2- wear it just for the act

Isn’t there an episode of the league of gentlemen where they get a kick from inflating wetsuits?

We don’t do special pants, instead my husband doesn’t tuck his pyjama bottoms into his socks to give me the message, very, very sexy.

I have some nice lingerie and it's nice for a confidence boost, however I rarely dress up in the bedroom. Now and again I will and my DH enjoys it, but we have quite regular sex and so most of the time we're just naked. We don't go to any real effort to get dressed up and prefer to focus on touching each other. Personally I've found most men are appreciative of that sort of stuff for when you send them photos but in person they usually prefer you naked.

I've had partners who have absolutely loved this stuff and some who really couldn't care less. So that affects whether I do it or not, because while I'm not doing it "for them", I AM doing it "for us" - I enjoy myself either way, but there's no point or pleasure in serving up something that someone doesn't have an appetite for.

@Purplecatshopaholic haha yes!