Dressing up in sexy lingerie

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4191008/Man-caught-having-sex-DRAIN-COVER.html

And

https://metro.co.uk/2016/05/26/mans-sexual-encounter-with-a-drainpipe-caught-on-cctv-5906169/

Sexy eh!

He doesn’t bother to be fair with sexy underwear I will wear it occasionally and he does like it but it’s not a must for him he’s in n out in 2 mins anyway 😳😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

If my partner of 10 years walked in with sexy boxers on I would literally piss myself

I have ‘dressed up’ for sex in the past with partners who found it a turn on, but most have said naked is best.

DH isn’t bothered by lingerie, but I do dress up in slinky sexy dresses, heels etc and that does have an effect. I’ve always done that though, so it’s more for me than him.

I love wearing something a bit more “special” for bed. Sometimes that’s an outfit, sometimes just a pretty set of underwear. As said by PP, it’s how it makes me feel first - my partners reaction/appreciation just enhances that.

I’m also fairly confident that if there was something I’d like my partner to wear in or to bed, he’d oblige / give it a go. Isn’t that part of what being partners and lovers is about?

Those that have mentioned laughing at partners or being laughed at - how awful 😞 I can’t imagine ever wanting to be intimate with the person who laughed ever again. There’s a difference between a shared giggle over a “fail” (e.g. the wet suit previously mentioned) and someone laughing at you when you’ve clearly made an effort and/or out of your usual comfort zone.

It should be each to their own - do what you want and makes you comfortable. Judgement not required from either side of the table.

It needs to be more widely known that men are often the ones who don't want sex, I see it so much on here

I find the matching Freya and Panache knickers in Bravissimo and John Lewis (l buy 2 pairs of matching knix with every new bra) are comfortable, true to size and wash well.

Purely out of interest...do any of your (male) partners dress up sexily...in 'specially for sex' underwear?

Yes. Silk boxers. Usually if we were going out first. I would be just as happy if he were in his more every day stuff, but I liked him making an effort to feel special- I'm not sure if it was more for him or me. I wore dresses he liked, but they wouldn't be in my wardrobe if I didn't like them in the first place, and i wouldn't wear one i wasn't in the mood for that day.

I like pretty, more expensive underwear rather than 'sexy' for myself. I feel good knowing I'm wearing it and it gives me a boost. Husband is more happy with naked !!!!
Best reaction from him was when I wore the most ridiculous Christmas pudding outfit with boots ! I'm pretty sure it was the boots he loved rather than the pudding !!! 😂

But there isn’t always a double standard in every relationship.
I like lingerie because I feel like it accentuates the parts of my body I like and makes the parts I don’t like look better. My husband wouldn’t agree, he is attracted to me as I am. Lingerie makes me feel more confident and the more confident I feel, the better the time in the bedroom is for me! I think it is a combination of the lingerie and my confidence/demeanor that is a turn on for my husband.

It doesn’t feel like a double standard for me because I do it mostly for myself. My husband does enjoy it too though and when I’ve gone to the effort of “getting ready” or gone to an effort to look differently than I do on the school run my husband puts in extra effort in other ways. Without going into too much detail, what my husband wears or looks like doesn’t turn me on as much as things that he does. I will wear lingerie sometimes; he will spend time doing things that I like. It doesn’t feel transactional, or that he feels he has to and it’s not always when I’ve worn lingerie. But there is an element of “ you’ve put in some extra effort here so I will match that energy” but in different ways.

I agree with this ^
by the way I don’t wear sexy lingerie as I prefer soft cotton.

So many nice bras, have really crappy inconsequential matching knickers that they try and make you buy - bravissimo for one

What would you like a man to wear?

What would be the equivalent?

I dress up sometimes for DP- I like the reaction I get from him. Not that he 'needs' an extra reason, but he loves being surprised (his ex never used to do it so it's an unexpected bonus for him)

I, in turn, love seeing him topless and fixing a radiator, or when he's a bit grubby from fixing the car... He does have a particular pair of pants I like too 😂

I'm a big fan of lingerie, I wear it because I like how it looks, and of course the obvious benefits for Mr Hereyoume.

I will even wear some on a perfectly ordinary day, going to work or just hanging around the house. I'm not talking full on corset, S&S with heels. Just a little something to make me feel a little special.

Being bisexual and being on this planet for 40 plus years, I’ve seen quite a lot of men and women in their undies and less, l think it’s important for people to have nice underwear. It’s about respect for yourself and your partner(s). But mens’ underwear is a different ball game (pun intended). And any man wearing “sexy time underwear” is likely to make me burst out laughing.

Purely out of interest...do any of your (male) partners dress up sexily...in 'specially for sex' underwear?

In my 60 years on the planet...not one male partner has EVER made the slightest effort with their underwear for the purposes of 'sexy time' 🤷‍♀️

So no...if they don't find me attractive enough in my M&S cotton knickers, then they are not getting the goods inside them ☺️

Who do you think you are telling another, grown woman whether her feeling of empowerment is a lie or not?

You're no better than the men who tell us what we should or shouldn't feel like doing.

If I came home from work, in a sweaty, mess with my boring knickers on, with the stress of the day still lingering, my husband would still love having sex with me and I enjoy it too. But, if I have time to make MYSELF feel good, enjoy the things that make my body look good TO ME, feel sexy in myself then that sex is going to feel better TO ME because I FEEL desirable and I feel sexy and good.

Nothing to do with being a fucking doll. Are brides 'dolls', people who get dressed up for any other occasion? It's no different. It's dressing up to feel good and so fucking what if someone's husband enjoys it too? Doesn't make him a misogynistic prick, it just means he's for eyes and he likes what he sees.

XH1 was really into this and, for a long time, I felt like I enjoyed wearing lingerie. I wore pretty undies before I met him anyway, and just upped the "sexy" factor somewhat. But it became clear it was a fetish for him - he was more into the outfits than the woman wearing them.

I went back to M&S's more stylish offerings, he moved on to another living dummy and, after a time, I learnt how not to objectify myself through the imagined male gaze.

These days I mostly wear stretch bra tops and granny pants 😂

Another thing I learnt is that I am NOT interested in fetishes! Sex is about the entire human body for me, not isolated parts of it, and definitely not inanimate objects.

Of course sex is going to be mentioned on an internet forum. Criticising the details of someone’s sex life, especially when it wasn’t the topic of the post or problematic to the poster, is pretty grossly irrelevant. Let alone starting a whole new thread in order to call another woman ‘desperate’ for enjoying an element of her sex life. It’s pretty disgusting and weird for someone to fixate on it to the point of creating an internet post.

But, hey, if you like to sit around and examine what adults wear during sex and whether you like it or not, you do you. I guess …

If the guy I was seeing didn't appreciate me in my normal underwear, I'd just sack him off. He does, however (there's been times that we met straight after I finished work short notice for other reasons, so very much big knickers and comfy bra)

He does enjoy me wearing lingerie though, so I do it for him. I try to wear nice knickers and a bra at the very least 😂 it depends what we're doing that day.

Then dont mention your sex life on a forum?

I'm assuming she means that it's her knickers, but it's her husband's favourite pair, of her knickers.

What do u mean? Like you in his underwear