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Parents in law haven’t congratulated second pregnancy…

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Bloome22 · 05/05/2024 22:37

Told news over WhatsApp 2 weeks ago (MIL said something like “lovely news.” And FIL said nothing), saw them today and they didn’t say say / acknowledge anything… is this not weird? AIBU to feel disappointed they didn’t ask how I was doing or just say congratulations in person?

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MummytoAAandX · 06/05/2024 07:44

My in laws were the same. Very underwhelmed. We went to the effort of printing a scan pic and putting it in a card which said you're going to be grandparents again. When we pushed them on their lack of enthusiasm, they commented they were worried we weren't going to cope. (Both work full time in demanding jobs) which is ironic and they never offer to help or support in any way. They also take very little interest in their grandchildren now they're here. It makes my husband sad but I keep telling him there's not much we can do about it. They are who they are.

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Bloome22 · 05/05/2024 22:49

I totally know what you mean, but the last time we announced pregnancy news (over a video call due to living distance) none of that side of the family seemed that bothered so we just thought well we’ll send the scan photo to the family group this time. Again, we barely got any excitement, a total contrast to my side of the family! And it was their only grandchild (this will be their second and probably last). My husband was really disappointed too which was upsetting.

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DappledThings · 05/05/2024 22:47

What is there to say? They replied at the time. I would assume a comment from MIL covers both of them and wouldn't expect a repeat from FIL.

I'm sure they're happy about it, but what else is there to add at this stage realistically?

Nothing wrong with WhatsApp either. My parents are in their 70s and wouldn't be thrown or put out by news via that medium.

Lakelandmumofthree · 05/05/2024 22:44

Bloome22 · 05/05/2024 22:37

Told news over WhatsApp 2 weeks ago (MIL said something like “lovely news.” And FIL said nothing), saw them today and they didn’t say say / acknowledge anything… is this not weird? AIBU to feel disappointed they didn’t ask how I was doing or just say congratulations in person?

Im wondering if they might have been surprised you told them over WhatsApp? I think that generation especially would expect to be told in person. Also, if my parents reply on a group chat only one ever replies, like they're replying together if you know what I mean....

UnicornMamma · 05/05/2024 22:43

Could they be upset you told them in a WhatsApp message?

I know my mil would be really upset about that. That's something you do for friends but not the grandparents

Rebusmyfire · 05/05/2024 22:42

Did you mention it? They might not want to and forcsomecreason want to follow your lead on it.

How is your relationship with them normally?

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