2dc/sc/slpst/ chain 1 - why my sister thinks my husband is a sex trafficker.

I would absolutely cut someone out of my life if they accused my husband of sex trafficking children.

You understand accusing someone of being a paedophile is much worse than accusing someone of being an alcoholic?

You understand one will destroy a reputation entirely for life even if there’s no truth whatsoever in the matter. It could leave to actual children being put under safeguarding, all computers to be removed, and livelihood destroyed over a conspiracy theory.

Im sorry you had to deal with the consequences of your mother’s lifestyle, but it is not remotely comparable. You actually were in a terrible situation. The OP’s husband is innocent.

@BIWI my burning question is how did you change the OPs life, exactly?!

She obviously has some MH issues and I’d be concerned that this man Ken has preyed on her vulnerability.

I would tell her to go to the police if she has concerns about child sex trafficking, even if it involves your DH.

1.Because any hint of child rape should be investigated, even if it’s completely wrong.
2.Because it might flag her up on police records and potentially this Ken man too.

Does she know the difference between a bunker & a bunk-up ?

It definitely sounds like there's MH issues at play so this won't fully help you but I've found this book really helpful.

Escaping the Rabbit Hole: How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories Using Facts, Logic, and Respect https://amzn.eu/d/eSqh6vs

It'll help you have conversations with her a bit. I've found it good for talking to my conspiracy theorist mum.

@Ohhmydays, If I might suggest from ignorance, that sounds very different.
Your old neighbour was suffering more than anyone else. She does deserve support and sympathy.
The OP's sister and husband get to feel very self-important, but drop it when it does not work for them. I have a sister working in ICU during covid and I was working in the vaccine industry, that people are allowed to accuse of murder and have no consequences is a failure of society.

Do you really think she is a danger to the golf club? If you do I’d report it to the police and try and get some kind of welfare check, that’s possibly the best way to go about it if you think she is a danger to others. I am sure you do love her, but people like this can be draining. Going NC probably isn’t the best long term plan, but if you need a break I don’t think you should feel bad for taking a step back. I love my sister a lot even tho she can be a bit challenging (not on the same level as your sister) but if she did something like this I would definitely need a bit of time away. Don’t get guilted and think going NC means you don’t love her or are an uncaring bitch. Only you know what is right for your situation and your sister definitely sounds like she’s a lot. If she really has been radicalised it’s probably worth looking into getting her help from a professional because it sounds like it’s progressed past something you can talk her out of.

I dread to think what she thought that slpst meant.

Why was she snooping at things anyway?

If you want to keep your sister in your life to some degree, then listen to the podcast "a very british cult". It's incredibly informative about maintaining contact with loved ones who've become involved in a cult. Essentially, keep everything very neutral, don't bother trying to convince her she's wrong, avoid difficult conversations.

But of course you would be very much within your rights to decide that you can't maintain a relationship with her at this point.

Well.i wouldn't have a clue but then neither would I pinch note books from my sisters house and assume random letters many her partner was involved in some child sex trafficking chain.

I w as the same, totally confused until I finished the explanation. Totally bizarre.

I’m sorry that your relationship is on the rocks. It sounds to me like she has smoked way too much marujuana and is sadly now paranoid. This can be dangerous. i think you need to distance yourself.

This! I wouldn’t know a crochet pattern from Adam but I don’t think there is any situation where my first thought would be “got to be a golf club sex trafficking problem” 🙈

This is a blatant stitch-up.

I wouldn't know a crochet pattern for sure unless it got up and a did a dance in front of me whist singing "look at me I'm a crochet pattern, I'm a crochet pattern follow me and this is what I make" Even then I probably wouldn't be convinced

I'd be far more likely to jump to the conclusion that the OP or her husband is a secret agent and they're about to leave the notebook at a dead drop.

Child traffiking wouldn't cross my mind.

There is guidance out there about dealing with radicalised family and friends OP. I've heard it being discussed on the radio, but am not an expert, so like other PPs, I would suggest looking it up. AFAIK it is about retaining some contact but I can't remember what the approach on degree of challenge is.

Good luck.

🤦🏽‍♀️ no advice. She sounds as nuts as a woman who moved to our smallish town a few years back. Coincidentally she was American(Texas). She was convinced the government were after her, stealing her post, she didn’t have phone or internet as they were tracking her. She would take notes of every car number plate that went past, they were all secret codes for drug dealers etc. the police wouldn’t do anything as apparently they were in on it. She even had her windows covered with tin foil. I really felt sorry for her tbh

And I'm sure Ken's conspiracy friends in the US are identifying the same code in all sorts of places (golf courses?) and tracking down the other perpetrators as we speak. It will probably be out there on some of the loony sites any time soon.

I suggested this due to a similar incident in my own life.
We ended up having to call the police.
It was the right thing to do and got my person the help they needed.

I also appreciate it was 15 years ago and I do not live in GB

I wouldn't have her in your home again as she's stealing from you and I wouldn't expose your DH to her accusations either. He might find it funny now but what if she starts telling your neighbours that he's involved in child abuse? Who are people likely to believe, it's one of those "no smoke without fire" accusations.

Any meetings going forward in neutral spaces like a coffee shop and I would be passing on my concerns to her GP, if you cannot contact her's report to your own. I would want this noted somewhere official that she's struggling incase she ramps up her accusations.I would be acting to protect myself.