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He said I don't appreciate him for this reason...

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Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 14:57

We have been seeing eachother on and off for a few years. We always end up back together at some point and I know I should probably end things altogether. Anyway when we were messaging he askd me to send him a photo. I didn't send it because I had not seen him for a while and I kinda thought he didn't deserve it at that point because I felt that he had not put much effort into us lately.

Anyway a few weeks later I messaged him and then sent a photo (not showing my face as you can never truly know what they could do with your photo). He didn't reply to my message so I then quickly deleted the photo before he had seen it as it just didn't feel right iykwim.

Since I deleted the photo ever other message is "resend the photo". I have not and he has been very off with me and saying that I don't"appreciate him".

Can I have your thoughts please. How would you respond? Deal with it?

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Pinkpinkplonk · 05/05/2024 17:21

Dump him

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 05/05/2024 17:19

This doesn't sound like much of a relationship tbh. Very transactional on both sides - weighing up who deserves what and who appreciates whom. Why on earth would you feel you needed to (reluctantly) send nude pictures to a man like this?

Mudflaps · 05/05/2024 17:14

Block him, you are little more that wank fodder for him.

Testina · 05/05/2024 16:56

You should make a commitment to yourself that you don’t cheapen yourself by sending photos to literal wankers. You say yourself you should break off with him completely. You’ve got a slither of self esteem because you deleted it. Get him out of the picture and give that slither space to grow.

I’m not against a bit of homemade porn - but FGS keep it for someone who actually likes and respects you.

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/05/2024 16:52

People managed for millennia without sending nudes to each other. And considering what men frequently do with these, I wouldn't.

Just dump the whiney nobber.

toomuchfaff · 05/05/2024 16:49

"no I don't appreciate you, you're a dick"

Blocked 🚫

MatildaTheCat · 05/05/2024 14:58

Block him.

Greywitch2 · 05/05/2024 14:58

I would block him.

He sounds appalling. What on earth is there to 'appreciate' in his behaviour?

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