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He said I don't appreciate him for this reason...

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Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 14:57

We have been seeing eachother on and off for a few years. We always end up back together at some point and I know I should probably end things altogether. Anyway when we were messaging he askd me to send him a photo. I didn't send it because I had not seen him for a while and I kinda thought he didn't deserve it at that point because I felt that he had not put much effort into us lately.

Anyway a few weeks later I messaged him and then sent a photo (not showing my face as you can never truly know what they could do with your photo). He didn't reply to my message so I then quickly deleted the photo before he had seen it as it just didn't feel right iykwim.

Since I deleted the photo ever other message is "resend the photo". I have not and he has been very off with me and saying that I don't"appreciate him".

Can I have your thoughts please. How would you respond? Deal with it?

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Daydreams80 · 06/05/2024 00:02

@Dacadactyl

" I have a feeling this is Eggbert and Beatrice back again "

Who/what is that? I must be missing something here.

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peakygold · 05/05/2024 23:04

Tell him you want a nude photo of him first. And then block him when he sends it. That will mess his head up for a bit.

Dunkinn · 05/05/2024 22:11

What is there to appreciate, exactly?

Babadook76 · 05/05/2024 21:56

Dacadactyl · 05/05/2024 21:44

I have a feeling this is Eggbert and Beatrice back again.

The photo will have been of a curtain or something.

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Yes, I’m not sure why this hasn’t been deleted along with the other moronic threads

Dacadactyl · 05/05/2024 21:44

Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 20:48

I repeat - I have not sent him nudes. And want fodder? Shouldn't a man want to wank over someone they are attracted to? 🤔

I have a feeling this is Eggbert and Beatrice back again.

The photo will have been of a curtain or something.

RobBeckettsGiantTeeth · 05/05/2024 21:19

Shouldn't a man want to wank over someone they are attracted to?

You're right. Nothing wrong with being wank fodder.

But being "only" wank fodder is gross, and that's what you are to him. Just something to wank over. Is that what you want for yourself?

Babadook76 · 05/05/2024 21:04

Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 20:48

I repeat - I have not sent him nudes. And want fodder? Shouldn't a man want to wank over someone they are attracted to? 🤔

So what are you on about? What did you send a photo of then?

wutheringkites · 05/05/2024 21:04

Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 20:48

I repeat - I have not sent him nudes. And want fodder? Shouldn't a man want to wank over someone they are attracted to? 🤔

You need to work on your self esteem

TheSnowyOwl · 05/05/2024 21:02

Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 20:48

I repeat - I have not sent him nudes. And want fodder? Shouldn't a man want to wank over someone they are attracted to? 🤔

In the nicest possible way, if he was attracted to you then you wouldn’t be in this dilemma.

StillYourFavouriteRegret · 05/05/2024 21:01

Do you? Being treated like shit by an absolute bellend is funny to you?

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Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 20:50

@StillYourFavouriteRegret I find it quite amusing actually 😅

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Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 20:48

I repeat - I have not sent him nudes. And want fodder? Shouldn't a man want to wank over someone they are attracted to? 🤔

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StillYourFavouriteRegret · 05/05/2024 20:48

Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 19:47

I have not sent him the photo. I think he is trying to manipulate me into sending it. He is being off and saying I don't appreciate blah blah.

I think it's time to stop pondering the situation and the entire relationship to be honest.

tennesseewhiskey1 · 05/05/2024 20:37

Why have you accepted that you’re just wank fodder?

Dacadactyl · 05/05/2024 20:35

Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 19:47

I have not sent him the photo. I think he is trying to manipulate me into sending it. He is being off and saying I don't appreciate blah blah.

Just drop him like a hot potato and block him.

He's total trash.

Bananadramallamas · 05/05/2024 20:33

Does he have any redeeming features?

LoudSnoringDog · 05/05/2024 20:31

Stop sending nudes

RobBeckettsGiantTeeth · 05/05/2024 20:28

Jesus. Find some self respect and dump him. You're just wank fodder to him.

TheSnowyOwl · 05/05/2024 20:26

Just stop replying and block him.

DelphiniumBlue · 05/05/2024 20:26

Is this what passes for romance these days? I'm old but wtaf??
Please block him forever, he sounds revolting.

Sapphire387 · 05/05/2024 20:21

Who is this guy? Your boyfriend or just some random?! I mean, either way it's unacceptable. But why would you even appreciate someone who you're not actually in a proper relationship with? What does on/off mean in reality?

dragonscannotswim · 05/05/2024 20:19

Urgh, why would you ever think about sending a nude to a man you don't trust?? Think about that.

But just dump him and block him, the whiney twat.

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Daydreams80 · 05/05/2024 19:47

I have not sent him the photo. I think he is trying to manipulate me into sending it. He is being off and saying I don't appreciate blah blah.

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StillYourFavouriteRegret · 05/05/2024 17:40

So you can only have access and the ability to communicate with him, if first you send him a pic for him to wank over?

What in the ever loving fuck.

In the nicest way. Yes you need to lose him and find your self-respect.

Emmadaily · 05/05/2024 17:38

He sounds awful OP
I wouldn't want any more to do him
Get rid then block.

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