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Who should pay for these tickets?

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Ppejfhfhrhhfhf · 05/05/2024 14:53

I was going to an event with Sarah and Philippa. I bought the tickets and they were meant to transfer the money.

Sarah then said her DH had arranged to see friends and so she could no longer come. Annoying, but okay. I asked Philippa if it would be okay if we offered the ticket to another mutual friend, Cheryl. Philippa said yes, but that she had seriously overspent so could no longer afford to come and so did I want to find someone else take her ticket too.

I was annoyed, and said I couldn’t think of anyone to take it but if she didn’t want to come just send the money and don’t come. She said she’d send it when she was paid. Meanwhile, Cheryl and I went for drinks with Jessica, mentioned there was a spare ticket, and Jessica said she’d like to come.

So Cheryl, Jessica and I went to the event. I have been paid for the tickets by no one.

Who should pay?

YABU - Cheryl and Jessica
YANBU - Sarah and Philippa

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Ppejfhfhrhhfhf · 05/05/2024 15:00

PenguinLord · 05/05/2024 14:57

Why have you not told Chery and Jessica to pay? Why have they not offered?

Because I don’t think they should have to. Sarah and Philippa agreed to pay for the tickets and didn’t. Once they dropped out the tickets were spare, not on re-sale. If I had to drop out I’d still pay for my ticket but be happy for someone else to use it for free rather than lying unused.

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welshycake · 05/05/2024 15:00

Set up a group chat with your bank details in and ask if they could pay you back for the tickets

PenguinLord · 05/05/2024 14:59

Ppejfhfhrhhfhf · 05/05/2024 14:58

The tickets should have already been paid for by Sarah and Philippa and if Cheryl and Jessica hadn’t taken them they’d have been unused and I’d have been out of pocket having paid for something I didn’t go to.

If I dropped out of an event I’d be happy for the person I was going with to take someone in my place without being reimbursed.

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But you found someone to replace the said friends, so the convo should be like

  • hey, would you like to join me, tickets was £££, happy to let it go for ££.
All your friends such seeing no one offered to pay. You need better friends.
AGodawfulsmallaffair · 05/05/2024 14:58

Shoxfordian · 05/05/2024 14:55

Sarah and Phillipa owe you the money, they should be asking Cheryl & Jessica for it but they should still repay you

Absolutely - what arse wipe friends!

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Ppejfhfhrhhfhf · 05/05/2024 14:58

Trickabrick · 05/05/2024 14:54

Cheryl and Jessica, they went in place of the other two. Not sure why you wouldn’t have agreed that in advance though rather than be out of pocket.

The tickets should have already been paid for by Sarah and Philippa and if Cheryl and Jessica hadn’t taken them they’d have been unused and I’d have been out of pocket having paid for something I didn’t go to.

If I dropped out of an event I’d be happy for the person I was going with to take someone in my place without being reimbursed.

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PenguinLord · 05/05/2024 14:57

Also this is why I NEVER pay for anyones ticket, I book stuff and say- this is the date, or this it the dater and my sit, pay for yours and come along if you would like.

TokyoSushi · 05/05/2024 14:57

The people who went...

PenguinLord · 05/05/2024 14:57

Why have you not told Chery and Jessica to pay? Why have they not offered?

TheIceQween · 05/05/2024 14:56

Chez & Jess

Shoxfordian · 05/05/2024 14:55

Sarah and Phillipa owe you the money, they should be asking Cheryl & Jessica for it but they should still repay you

sweetiepie1979 · 05/05/2024 14:55

Did Jessica offer to pay? Did she think it was a free ticket?

longdistanceclaraclara · 05/05/2024 14:55

Cheryl and Jessica

Trickabrick · 05/05/2024 14:54

Cheryl and Jessica, they went in place of the other two. Not sure why you wouldn’t have agreed that in advance though rather than be out of pocket.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 05/05/2024 14:54

The people who went should pay.