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Vegan wedding

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Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

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susiedaisy1912 · 05/05/2024 17:15

What's the menu op?

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 17:11

Words · 05/05/2024 16:19

I would either have an enormous breakfast, or, get some of those small ice packs used for lunch bags ( if it's hot) and take whatever you like in your bag that you can eat cold.

Second the idea of those small packs of oatcakes. Ideal.

Be prepared to like what is on offer though. Would love to see the menu.

@Words

why would you need to have an enormous breakfast?

the op has said that food will be provided at the wedding - did you miss that bit?

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 17:10

I think you’d look a bit greedy and strange to do this op

yes the food will be vegan but im sure there will be plenty of it.

do you not normally eat healthily? @Babysharkdoodoodood

needsomewarmsunshine · 05/05/2024 17:08

There are more vegan foods out there than peeps actually realise, it's not all tofu.
I'm vegan and tofu is gross imo.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 16:49

Dairy*

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 16:48

misscockerspaniel · 05/05/2024 16:29

Have you eaten a vegan Babybel? I was so looking forward to trying them. Never again, they are vile imo.

Plant based cheese slices from Cathedral City, on the other hand, are great.

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I've had to go dairy free because my daughter has allergy and been told that's the only nice fake cheese.

Can't wait till I can go back diary.

WhamBamThankU · 05/05/2024 16:43

Seems like you're just doing it to be a dick and make a point.

misscockerspaniel · 05/05/2024 16:29

viccat · 05/05/2024 14:16

Babybel does a vegan range now so you're OK.

Regardless, bringing snacks seems odd. Surely the meal can't be so tiny you would perish?

Have you eaten a vegan Babybel? I was so looking forward to trying them. Never again, they are vile imo.

Plant based cheese slices from Cathedral City, on the other hand, are great.

Words · 05/05/2024 16:19

I would either have an enormous breakfast, or, get some of those small ice packs used for lunch bags ( if it's hot) and take whatever you like in your bag that you can eat cold.

Second the idea of those small packs of oatcakes. Ideal.

Be prepared to like what is on offer though. Would love to see the menu.

gingercat02 · 05/05/2024 16:18

Have a huge meat and egg heavy cooked breakfast and don't disrespect your friends' beliefs

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 05/05/2024 16:15

Don't be so disrespectful. It's one night.

NewStartNowish · 05/05/2024 16:13

Anyone hosting anything is ‘inflicting’ some of their tastes on their guests. Vegans and vegetarians are just a bit more clear.

For some vegans, it would feel really unethical to supply animal products. I am really astonished that anyone would find that twattish.

As a meat-eater I would be fascinated by a vegan wedding and would embrace the opportunity. Not eating animal products for one meal is ok for the majority of people.

WearyAuldWumman · 05/05/2024 16:10

Runningbird43 · 05/05/2024 16:05

Surely that would apply to any wedding or food though, not just vegan?

you do get vegetables, mushrooms etc at non vegan weddings. Meat is just a small portion of it.

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True, though it's actually easier to find food that I can eat when there's meat. The one time I came a cropper was when I ate stovies that had too many onions for my stomach. Tried picking out the onions as best as I could. Didn't work.

I'm usually fine if I can eat meat, potatoes - and then pick through whatever vegetables are there. (Carrots are fine, thank goodness. Ditto tomatoes and capsicums.)

Luxell934 · 05/05/2024 16:07

Vegan/veggie food can be absolutely delicious! How about you try it before complaining? If it’s awful you can get a Big Mac on the way home or something.

Blueplantpots · 05/05/2024 16:05

Hagpie · 05/05/2024 16:03

It’s an invitation not a summons. OP agreed to the rules when she accepted the invite.

Yes OP you are being a bit of an arse my love. Lots of yummy incidentally vegan to put in your purse.

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I very much doubt the invite asked guests not to bring snacks 😂

NewStartNowish · 05/05/2024 16:05

You can take what you want.

I am not a vegetarian or a vegan, but it would be very easy for me to eat a vegan meal once in my life. Don’t be so inflexible!

Runningbird43 · 05/05/2024 16:05

WearyAuldWumman · 05/05/2024 15:16

It depends. I don't object to vegan food, but I've developed annoying food intolerances - possibly connected to a couple of really bad bouts of food poisoning when I was abroad.

I now have to follow a Fodmap diet or suffer the consequences. At lot of the vegetables that I used to love are no longer available to me and soya has become problematic. I'd have to have my cornflakes and oatmilk in the morning and maybe sneak a banana in with me.

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Surely that would apply to any wedding or food though, not just vegan?

you do get vegetables, mushrooms etc at non vegan weddings. Meat is just a small portion of it.

Hagpie · 05/05/2024 16:03

NoTouch · 05/05/2024 15:10

A snack that goes against the belief system of your host is just twattish.

Having a "belief system" that you inflict on others, making them uncomfortable, is twattish.

It’s an invitation not a summons. OP agreed to the rules when she accepted the invite.

Yes OP you are being a bit of an arse my love. Lots of yummy incidentally vegan to put in your purse.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 05/05/2024 16:02

AntisocialPotNoodle · 05/05/2024 15:57

Is this the wedding cake? How can a menu look tiny 😐

What a lovely little cake. I'll have six. <Misses point of thread.>

welshycake · 05/05/2024 16:02

Fanchester · 05/05/2024 15:29

I don't think it's the babybel in itself that's an issue- it's the idea of deliberately taking something that the hosts would be upset about. Just seems so spiteful and petty. Why not take a banana or some nuts- it's hardly difficult.

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Yeah it's like look I've bought Cheese to the wedding I'm such a rebel

Blueplantpots · 05/05/2024 16:01

Be careful of the wax OP. I took a few babybel in my handbag and the wax ended up over my make up bag. Pop them in a bag in case the wax rubs off on anything, also the little packs of 5/4 oatcakes go well with them! I’d take a snack if the menu is small and poor, you’ll probably not be the only guest with a snack in their bag.

EndoEnd · 05/05/2024 16:00

I'd say if a babybel is enough to fill you up you should be fine with a small menu 🙄

welshycake · 05/05/2024 16:00

NoTouch · 05/05/2024 15:24

Well, the OP for one who knows they are going to be hungry and trying to work out how to smuggle in food. I would be the same.

Just because you don't have an issue with it, or know a few folk who wouldn't have an issue with it, doesn't make it fact for everyone else.

I actually find it extremely selfish and poor hosting to inflict your beliefs on other people.

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Two babybells aren't going to stop then going hungry. They are tiny

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 05/05/2024 15:59

Pin0cchio · 05/05/2024 15:49

I thought the current thinking was that humans back in prehistory were scavengers eating anything they could find, and a lot of that could be plants, supplemented by birds' eggs, honey, insects, dead animals, and very occasionally fish or raw meat after a successful hunt.

Have you read this on a pro vegan website? 🤔

No, I am an omnivore myself. Obviously meat has played an important part in human diet all over the world all through time, but hunting is difficult and dangerous, so freshly killed meat won't have been an everyday food. I didn't think it was particularly controversial to say that humans must always have also eaten roots, leaves, stems, seeds, fruits, nuts, grains and animal foods that aren't huge hunks of raw mammoth, or (once we mastered fire) huge hunks of roast mammoth.

MissFancyDay · 05/05/2024 15:59

Do people really worry this much about one meal. It's just so privileged.

My dear old Mum used to go on about "starving people in Africa" when I didn't eat up my dinner in the 60s, and we just ignored her. But really, It's just one meal.