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Vegan wedding

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Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

OP posts:
KreedKafer · 05/05/2024 18:35

Halzie · 05/05/2024 14:27

I think we are living in crazy times where people would get their back up so much about a babybel at a wedding.

I think we’re living in crazy times when people are so picky and spoilt that they can’t cope for a few hours without a specific food.

People talking about bringing ‘snacks’ to weddings in their handbags like they’re going on an outing with a toddler really need to grow up.

I love meat, fish and dairy. But I can also go without them for one day of my life because I’m a fucking adult.

Halzie · 05/05/2024 18:35

Fanchester · 05/05/2024 15:29

I don't think it's the babybel in itself that's an issue- it's the idea of deliberately taking something that the hosts would be upset about. Just seems so spiteful and petty. Why not take a banana or some nuts- it's hardly difficult.

If I felt upset about a babybel I'd reevaluate my life. Been vegetarian for 25 years and couldn't imagine being upset about a piece of cheese.

SavingTheBestTillLast · 05/05/2024 18:34

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:31

Oh yeah a pear is soooo filling!

Banana is more filling I suppose, especially if you bring ten OP 😄
Im sure there’s loads of other vegan snacks

SwingTheMonkey · 05/05/2024 18:34

Kandalama · 05/05/2024 18:31

Well yes,
But why does the item OP takes to the wedding have to be non vegan.
Whats wrong with a vegan snack.

Why should they though? I’m sure they won’t be flaunting it in people’s faces?

It’s fine to take a non vegan snack if you’re discreet. The hosts are vegan and therefore serving a vegan meal. That doesn’t mean guests are required to be vegan themselves all day.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:34

@Kandalama they're shite and bland and I'm an adult and will eat what I like?

Vegans do not dictate to me and the wedding will not be spoilt by a babybel.

Kandalama · 05/05/2024 18:31

Alwaysalwayscold · 05/05/2024 18:29

No but they need to eat something. Especially at a wedding which is a very long day, potentially with alcohol.

Well yes,
But why does the item OP takes to the wedding have to be non vegan.
Whats wrong with a vegan snack.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:31

SavingTheBestTillLast · 05/05/2024 18:29

If you think there’s not enough on the menu to fill you up for that one day
and if it’s a vegan wedding
why not bring vegan snacks….fruit for example

Oh yeah a pear is soooo filling!

Ohdear1991 · 05/05/2024 18:31

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You seem like a stable individual.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 18:30

Ohdear1991 · 05/05/2024 18:27

I can honestly say is absolutely untrue, our Homo Erectus ancestors increased their brain volume cc substantially through the consumption of meat, all apex predators are carnivorous/omnivorous, our Homo Sapien and Neanderthal European ancestors survived the Ice Age eating nothing much besides meat until around 9000B.C when agriculture was created (and the glaciers) had subsided. Also, as someone with a Biomedical science degree, I can say the human species is omnivorous in the same way that dogs are. We are mostly actually carnivorous as we are unable to produce the essential amino acids that are found solely in animal products. Where as plant eating animals can produce these themselves. Our teeth, gastrointestinal tract, metabolic enzymes, ability to survive purely on meat and the fact that the only single food group you can survive on is animal products is undisputed evidence we are not plant eaters or even close to being that way inclined. Not to mention Vitamin B12 is only found in animal products and without this you will die, fact. Humans have managed to fortify non-animal products such as bread and cereals with Vit B12, but of course this isn't an argument for human physiology as it's man made and we can only base true physiology in an environmental scenario where we didn't have technology/before modern technology.

Apologise for the rant but I see this all the time and I have no idea where this rubbish is being fed to people from.

👏👏👏

Said it better than me.

SavingTheBestTillLast · 05/05/2024 18:29

If you think there’s not enough on the menu to fill you up for that one day
and if it’s a vegan wedding
why not bring vegan snacks….fruit for example

Alwaysalwayscold · 05/05/2024 18:29

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 18:11

They need to suck it up!

no one needs to eat meat every single meal

No but they need to eat something. Especially at a wedding which is a very long day, potentially with alcohol.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:27

@LuckySantangelo35 because you Otho k you're right and you're not?

Ohdear1991 · 05/05/2024 18:27

spookehtooth · 05/05/2024 15:14

These kinds of posts always confuse me! Every time I tried organizing meals at vegan restaurants it was bloody omnivores showing up 😂None of the fellow vegans in the social group could make them in the end, the very folk who I thought would like them most. Then I meet folk who insist they simply cannot go a meal, not even a day with no animals-based consumption.

Its totally irrational. Our history, and therefore our biology is much more tightly bound up with plants. Its only relatively recently that our diet isn't one with minimal meat and dairy. Lack of fridges for one, and also lack of drugs to allow animals to be farmed in such large numbers, tightly packed into smaller spaces than they need to live healthily. Maybe if we were evolved from cats or some other obligate carnivores ... but we're not!

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I can honestly say is absolutely untrue, our Homo Erectus ancestors increased their brain volume cc substantially through the consumption of meat, all apex predators are carnivorous/omnivorous, our Homo Sapien and Neanderthal European ancestors survived the Ice Age eating nothing much besides meat until around 9000B.C when agriculture was created (and the glaciers) had subsided. Also, as someone with a Biomedical science degree, I can say the human species is omnivorous in the same way that dogs are. We are mostly actually carnivorous as we are unable to produce the essential amino acids that are found solely in animal products. Where as plant eating animals can produce these themselves. Our teeth, gastrointestinal tract, metabolic enzymes, ability to survive purely on meat and the fact that the only single food group you can survive on is animal products is undisputed evidence we are not plant eaters or even close to being that way inclined. Not to mention Vitamin B12 is only found in animal products and without this you will die, fact. Humans have managed to fortify non-animal products such as bread and cereals with Vit B12, but of course this isn't an argument for human physiology as it's man made and we can only base true physiology in an environmental scenario where we didn't have technology/before modern technology.

Apologise for the rant but I see this all the time and I have no idea where this rubbish is being fed to people from.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:26

@Fears and that's exactly why people find vegans so irritating and sanctimonious!

Well done for being so stereotypical, it's so refreshing.

CommentNow · 05/05/2024 18:26

Nobody cares.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 18:25

Hugosmaid · 05/05/2024 18:20

OP you’d most likely be able to get pork scratching from the bar at the reception 😁

Pork scratchings are the boyo 😁

Fears · 05/05/2024 18:24

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 18:19

@bloodyplumbing

thats a bit different isn’t it

can you think why?

Its too much to expect them to actually think. 😂 They just sound pathetic. How embarrassing.

SwingTheMonkey · 05/05/2024 18:24

If I had a big breakfast I could easily go until the wedding breakfast without eating anything but I’m well aware that others can’t. Different metabolisms and all that. If someone feels the need for a snack in between, there’s nothing wrong with that.

Hugosmaid · 05/05/2024 18:20

OP you’d most likely be able to get pork scratching from the bar at the reception 😁

DilemmaDelilah · 05/05/2024 18:20

I wouldn't smuggle anything in - but I would make sure I had something before I go in, and something to have afterwards. It's not to do with the food being vegan, as much as me being a fussy eater and worried that there won't be anything I like to eat. It's much the same with most catered events, but I am more likely to find something I like if it's not vegan.

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 18:19

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:14

@LuckySantangelo35 no one needs to suck up a meal they don't like.

Would you suck a meal that contained meat?

@bloodyplumbing

thats a bit different isn’t it

can you think why?

Londonrach1 · 05/05/2024 18:19

Depends what's on the menu...saying that have not understood why the scones are so bad at national trust I've seen learnt they vegan so no butter. Understand veggie and tbh can be very nice but vegan is very hard. I eat a varied diet of all the food groups and happy to eat veggie but vegan...never had a good cake or anything...even a jacket potato..no butter and no cheese....proper tasty cheese ... I'm with you op but not a babybel you need better cheese than that and some proper butter.

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:15

DrCoconut · 05/05/2024 18:07

A lot of people assume a meal has to contain meat to be filling. It's very strange, I haven't starved in almost 30 years not eating it.

Neither have I starved eating meat for 30 years.

Hugosmaid · 05/05/2024 18:14

Depends how long you’re there for OP. One meal isn’t a lot of your expected to spend the entire day and night there. The vegan meal is most likely going to be very nice.

However at the age of 45 no one’s belief system is going to stop ‘me’ from putting what ever food I want in my mouth. It’s the bizarrest new culture we are in where we must follow every everyone’s whim incase we upset their ‘belief system’

if I’m at a vegan wedding then I’d eat the vegan meal - they are usually very nice - but no one is going to police what I eat for the rest of them night.

The problem is vegans can be extremists so I’d really consider the amount of time you spend there.

Service
meal
couple of drinks
Then escape!

bloodyplumbing · 05/05/2024 18:14

@LuckySantangelo35 no one needs to suck up a meal they don't like.

Would you suck a meal that contained meat?