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Vegan wedding

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Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

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welshycake · 05/05/2024 15:59

WearyAuldWumman · 05/05/2024 15:18

wave I love both of those. I can no longer eat them. The consequences are painful.

ETA I've been following this and then trying to add things back in. Turns out my tummy doesn't like onions, betroot, mushrooms...
https://www.gloshospitals.nhs.uk/media/documents/FODMAP_dietsheet_for_website.pdf

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Ok fair enough

AntisocialPotNoodle · 05/05/2024 15:57

Is this the wedding cake? How can a menu look tiny 😐

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BreakfastAtMimis · 05/05/2024 15:53

StormingNorman · 05/05/2024 15:21

Dominos to the car park or hotel!

This. It's the only way!

Ticktapticktap · 05/05/2024 15:52

I'm vegan, I know lots of vegans -and I don't know a single one who would care if you brought your own babybels.

Bearing in mind we sit in restaurants surrounded by meat and dairy, and walk through supermarkets. It's totally fine. Just don't bring a roasted hog's head in a tupperware tub - anything else is fine

Soigneur · 05/05/2024 15:52

NoTouch · 05/05/2024 15:10

A snack that goes against the belief system of your host is just twattish.

Having a "belief system" that you inflict on others, making them uncomfortable, is twattish.

Seriously? Would you feel equally “uncomfortable” at a Jewish or Muslim wedding? How is that different to a Hindu vegan wedding?

Pin0cchio · 05/05/2024 15:49

I thought the current thinking was that humans back in prehistory were scavengers eating anything they could find, and a lot of that could be plants, supplemented by birds' eggs, honey, insects, dead animals, and very occasionally fish or raw meat after a successful hunt.

Have you read this on a pro vegan website? 🤔

LaMarschallin · 05/05/2024 15:48

Why is the whole thing vegan?
I'd assumed it was religious/cultural but presumably not if the groom's now not vegan.
A relative is vegan but offered omnivorous and vegan/vegetarian food at their wedding.

Having said that, it seems a bit excessive to "smuggle in" food.
Is the menu really tiny, or is it just that you don't like much of the food?
Like others, I'd be interested to be given an idea of what's on offer.

Grapewrath · 05/05/2024 15:46

Honestly you wouldn’t be an arse hole but you’d be embarrassing. Grow up.

Pin0cchio · 05/05/2024 15:45

Its only relatively recently that our diet isn't one with minimal meat and dairy.

This is fundamentally untrue.

Meat has been an important component of the human diet.... always. There are hypotheses that a diet containing highly nutritious meat enabled us to develop larger brains. There are many parts of the world where we simply would not survive without consuming animal products.

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 05/05/2024 15:44

If Babybell is your snack of choice, I'm nor sure you are beat judge of decent food, vegan or otherwise 🤔

Decent food is decent food and inedible stuff is inedible- it's not the meat or lack of that is the problem- it's the chef.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 15:43

Sorry that should say before they learnt how to make a fire then cooked their meat. Giving my baba a bottle. Can't trye properly one handed 😅

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 05/05/2024 15:43

Before humans learnt how to create fire and use to cook food they used to eat raw meat

Not every day, surely. I thought the current thinking was that humans back in prehistory were scavengers eating anything they could find, and a lot of that could be plants, supplemented by birds' eggs, honey, insects, dead animals, and very occasionally fish or raw meat after a successful hunt.

Sharptonguedwoman · 05/05/2024 15:41

BobbyBiscuits · 05/05/2024 14:12

You can't do without animal products for a few hours? If the size of the portions is a worry then eat a big meal before, and bring crisps, nuts, fruit in your bag to snack on. I guess you could eat baby bell but I'd be hiding in the toilets to do so, which would somewhat spoil the experience, lol.

This is a bit righteous tbh. I'd take the Babybel. Can't be doing with imposing rules on people.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 15:40

spookehtooth · 05/05/2024 15:14

These kinds of posts always confuse me! Every time I tried organizing meals at vegan restaurants it was bloody omnivores showing up 😂None of the fellow vegans in the social group could make them in the end, the very folk who I thought would like them most. Then I meet folk who insist they simply cannot go a meal, not even a day with no animals-based consumption.

Its totally irrational. Our history, and therefore our biology is much more tightly bound up with plants. Its only relatively recently that our diet isn't one with minimal meat and dairy. Lack of fridges for one, and also lack of drugs to allow animals to be farmed in such large numbers, tightly packed into smaller spaces than they need to live healthily. Maybe if we were evolved from cats or some other obligate carnivores ... but we're not!

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Not true. Before humans learnt how to create fire and use to cook food they used to eat raw meat

notprincehamlet · 05/05/2024 15:40

Could you wear the babybels as earrings? Hidden in plain sight. Maybe fashion a brooch out of a pasty? And a marmalade sandwich under your hat?

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 05/05/2024 15:39

Presumably too late to change the catering, though. Are you going to post the menu, OP? I love poring over a menu.

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Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 15:34

NoTouch · 05/05/2024 15:10

A snack that goes against the belief system of your host is just twattish.

Having a "belief system" that you inflict on others, making them uncomfortable, is twattish.

Especially as the groom has now decided to no longer be vegan.

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WearyAuldWumman · 05/05/2024 15:33

SillyLemonZebra · 05/05/2024 15:24

Oh God it’s horrible isn’t it. 🙈♥️

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Yup.

If you're out, you're trying to avoid onions...but then most things are cooked with onions...and I'm supposed to miss out garlic, which I love.

Go to a buffet and look for rice...but then you have difficulty in finding plain rice.

I took a couple of friends out for afternoon tea as a thank you. It was confirmed that I could get gluten free.

My pals got quiche and sausage rolls alongside their sandwiches. I got two miniature sandwiches, a pile of oatcakes (which I like) and hummas... (I kept thinking "What? Not even a scraping of paté?")

I confess to lacking in sophistication. I ate it, not knowing that the ingredients were on the forbidden list.

BIossomtoes · 05/05/2024 15:33

There was an astounding amount of really delicious food at the vegan wedding I went to.

moonlitmaze · 05/05/2024 15:32

Take one of those little bags of assorted mini cheeses some supermarkets sell and some crackers.

Zippedydoodahday · 05/05/2024 15:31

They want a vegan wedding. If you don't want to go to a vegan wedding don't go. But don't go and abuse their hospitality.

HopeOneOfThosePeopleIsAMonkeyBecauseThisIsBanana · 05/05/2024 15:29

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Fanchester · 05/05/2024 15:29

Halzie · 05/05/2024 14:27

I think we are living in crazy times where people would get their back up so much about a babybel at a wedding.

I don't think it's the babybel in itself that's an issue- it's the idea of deliberately taking something that the hosts would be upset about. Just seems so spiteful and petty. Why not take a banana or some nuts- it's hardly difficult.

ItsADoggieDogWorld · 05/05/2024 15:29

Just because it's a vegan wedding, doesn't mean it's the law you can only eat vegan food that day. People on this thread are bonkers. Take whatever you want to eat. It always amazes me how vegans and vegetarians are mostly catered for as guests but they generally cannot extend that same courtesy to others.