To find small children slightly repulsive

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Crikey

In theory, I see where you're coming from. There's a lot of dribble and snot and sticky hands. However I don't mind any of this with the toddlers that I know and love. In fact, despite having misphonia and feeling murderous hatred towards noisy eaters, I sit and beam at my DD whilst she chomps her food like a deranged badger and feel only love and pride

*edited to add, she's 12 months. Maybe the repulsion will set in if she's still a noisy eater when she's grown

Everyone with misophonia is different in the sounds they can / can’t tolerate.

My main ones are repetitive sounds, loud breathing or making whistling sounds when breathing, my cat washing himself and buzzing sounds that come from lights and electrical things. People eating doesn’t cause me too many issues unless I’m having a really bad day.

Human bodies and development can be both amazing and pretty grim. Waste products are generally unpleasant smelling and looking. Human development at both ends of the age spectrum can also be pretty gross, but can’t be helped. It’s all part of being a human being. You feel how you feel. I don’t find children, older people and those with additional needs that make control over bodily functions ‘slightly unpleasant’. I doubt anyone finds changing nappies, wiping up a toddler who has made lunchtime into an immersive experience, or constantly wiping away saliva from someone with a poor swallow reflex, a particular pleasant experience.

That made me giggle! 😂

I was given my friends baby to hold an all she did was fart like a squaddie. Parents were delighted and thought it was cute. Great- can you take it back please, it’s like cuddling a hand-grenade with the pin out. I am not enjoying this.

We moved in with my Gps when I was 16 because my Granddad was dying. He wanted to be cared for at home and so I did my fair share of looking after an old man who couldn't eat properly, was doubly incontinent, couldn't move and who would drool and needed washing amongst many other undignified things required to make him happy and comfortable.

Not once did I look at the man who had played a part as i grew up and watched me gulp down milk and dribble and shit in my pants, think he was 'repulsive'. I thought he was a beautiful specimen of an old poorly man and it was a privilege to look after him, as he had done me, when he needed me to. We did the same for my Nanna and I'll do the same for my DPs. Because it is simple beautiful humanity! I hope you get the same and they don't find you repulsive!

I mean…..yeah…..kids are generally a bit minging…..but they’re kids aren’t they? It’s the adults around them that should be teaching them how not to be minging so it’s your and your own kids fault for not teaching your grand daughter how to eat nicely.

It’s much worse when kids become adults and are still minging because then there isn’t even a reason for being so gross.

Who diagnosed you? It sounds unlikely if it wouldn't bother you.

Misophonia is a disorder in which certain sounds trigger emotional or physiological responses that some might perceive as unreasonable given the circumstance. Those who have misophonia might describe it as when a sound “drives you crazy.” Their reactions can range from anger and annoyance to panic and the need to flee.

You are not unreasonable, but sadly your post will conjure up the sanctimonious crowds who judge you for literally anything.

Laughing at the usual 'misophonia' being trotted out immediately.

It's perfectly possible to hate loud chewing, gulping and gasping without having this disorder.

You sound vile yourself!

Snotty faces and dirty fingers then touching things unnecessarily makes my skin crawl. Was staying in a hotel and there was a child that was clearly unwell repeatedly going up to the breakfast buffet picking things. Don’t know why the parents didn’t insist it stayed sat down and fetched the food themselves. No one wants to eat the food after that. Many parents seem immune to recognising how disgusting their kids can be.

I have misophonia but a four year old’s lack of table manners wouldn’t bother me. YABU

Just give me the pillow before then!

Ah, I think the OP is getting a hard time here. The concept of having to look after children is quite repulsive by its very nature, when you think about what it actually involves. Wiping other people's bums and snot and cleaning up sick and poo explosions and putting out your hand so someone can spit something half-chewed from their mouth into it (especially when it's something like a snail!) ... it's all pretty revolting. We can only stomach it because mother nature dictates we can overlook how grim it is when it's our own child!

Yeah my youngest is gross. He’s just kind of snotty and dirty 🤣 I love him though. I’m sure he won’t be like this when he’s older…

When you’re old you’ll be fed, moist and wiped all over again 😂

A 4 Yr old should be quite capable of eating nicely and drinking properly. Sorry, the parents need to step up on this. And the poster saying she won't be doing it at 25? Ha, plenty of adults eat like they are at a trough!
A stern, eat that properly to start with.

How is that relevant to how I feel?

A-bit strange you frequent a parenting forum then…

You're not wrong. When you look at it objectively, little kids are pretty grim.

Well, I do think a lot of adults eat pretty badly, you’re never too young to learn , it’s got to start somewhere

Yes you’re being unkind. That’s a toddler. She won’t be doing it at 25.

She’s not a toddler. They are no longer toddlers as soon as they turn 3.

Young children are pretty gross. They can’t help because it’s the developmental stage that they’re at but they aren’t exactly known for their good hygiene and perfect table manners.

I’ve worked in childcare and I still look at play dough without feeling ill and would advise people never to eat anything that a toddler or young child helped to make.