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Hes Bent as a nine bob note

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Pleasehelpmefindagoodusername · 05/05/2024 09:05

I have a relative who says this every time a gay or camp person comes on the TV. It's annoying. Aibu to be fed up of it?

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Nottherealslimshady · 05/05/2024 09:15

I don't even think he's using it right. It's bent as in dodgy not bent as in gay.
If someone tried to pay you with a 9 pound note it would obviously be counterfeit. That's where the analogy comes from. He's not legit.

tiredinoratia · 05/05/2024 09:15

I always thought it was meant as someone's behaviour was dishonest. I'm from the SEast in case it's regional.

In terns of challenging his bigotry, here is support to go right ahead and tell it to him straight (pun intended).

It's tough my IL are racist. They dial it down in front of me but not because they think it's wrong....

AsYouMightBe · 05/05/2024 09:14

VickyEadieofThigh · 05/05/2024 09:14

I'm in my 60s and can confirm that I used to hear it used for either a person perceived to be gay OR a person believed to be a criminal.

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Which says a lot about perceptions of gayness…

Each time, say ‘And is that a problem for you?’

VickyEadieofThigh · 05/05/2024 09:14

Goldfinchtriad · 05/05/2024 09:09

Yes you are definitely not being unreasonable to be fed up of people being homophobic around you. However, I always thought that saying meant someone was dodgy/criminal which means I’ve understood it wrong my whole life!

I'm in my 60s and can confirm that I used to hear it used for either a person perceived to be gay OR a person believed to be a criminal.

BathshebaEverdene1 · 05/05/2024 09:13

I thought it meant " bent" as in " bent copper" not gay.
So he may have it wrong anyway.
Sometimes we fall into speech patterns and keep saying the same things over and over without even realising. .
Say " yes you keep saying that and it doesn't even mean gay , if that's what you mean. And who even cares"

Monkeytapper · 05/05/2024 09:11

@Goldfinchtriad I thought same as you

Goldfinchtriad · 05/05/2024 09:09

Yes you are definitely not being unreasonable to be fed up of people being homophobic around you. However, I always thought that saying meant someone was dodgy/criminal which means I’ve understood it wrong my whole life!

PonyPatter44 · 05/05/2024 09:07

It was a common saying years ago, but of course you're not unreasonable to be tired of hearing it. Have you ever asked them not to say it?

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