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To message neighbour?

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Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:34

I've lived where I have for the past 2 years and recently a guy has moved into a flat underneath me.He seems single and the other day,passed me his phone number in the hallway.At first,I was a bit shocked and didn't think to do anything,however,we both appear single,why do I feel like this is a mistake ready to happen? He seems lovely,is fit and very polite,is it just too close for comfort if things go wrong?

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Bogeyes · 04/05/2024 20:09

Don't crap on your own doorstep

Abigaillovesholidays · 04/05/2024 20:01

This is such a tricky one! A couple of years ago, I started socalising with the guy who lived in the flat below mine. It developed in a friends with benefits thing which suited both of us at the time. For various reasons we would never have been in a realtionship and I was open with him about wanting to start a family etc. He was totally fine with our situation ending but then when I began dating my partner and he came round I found it so awkward! I was worried about meeting in the hallway etc I was worried that my partner would think badly if he knew or wouldn't want to come round. So my advice would be think about what you are looking for in the future. If you aren't likely to be starting a realtionship then go for it!

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 19:56

Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:50

Yh but I have a 10 year old and don't want a relationship so in theory,a fwb thing could work.Im just worried about how close to home it is if things go wrong.

If you're after a FWB situation then definitely not on your own doorstep. You could get that pretty much anywhere else without all the potential pitfalls.

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Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:54

My sensible head says to leave things alone but he's hot and is it a really stupid thing to start doing?

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ShrubRose · 04/05/2024 19:51

Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:50

Yh but I have a 10 year old and don't want a relationship so in theory,a fwb thing could work.Im just worried about how close to home it is if things go wrong.

If FWB is all you want, I would look elsewhere. Anything for a quiet life.

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Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:50

Yh but I have a 10 year old and don't want a relationship so in theory,a fwb thing could work.Im just worried about how close to home it is if things go wrong.

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Jeschara · 04/05/2024 19:50

No neither would I.

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 19:48

I wouldn't. It's likely to be very uncomfortable if it doesn't work out.

He also doesn't sound like much of a catch. Sounds like he's looking for a FWB situation if he told you to call him if you're bored and fancied a bit.

ShrubRose · 04/05/2024 19:46

Oh, I didn't see the part about being bored and fancying a bit.

Yes, call him if there's a leak in the tap!

😂

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Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:46

Overthinking

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Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:45

No,he passed me his number and made it obvious to call him when I was bored and fancied a bit.Is it wrong,am I overthrowing the potential problems?

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ByUmberViewer · 04/05/2024 19:45

Wait for him to ask you out

Zombella · 04/05/2024 19:43

Are you sure it's not just so you can message him in case you have a leak in your flat or something? Or did he make it clear it was in case you fancied a date?