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To message neighbour?

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Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:34

I've lived where I have for the past 2 years and recently a guy has moved into a flat underneath me.He seems single and the other day,passed me his phone number in the hallway.At first,I was a bit shocked and didn't think to do anything,however,we both appear single,why do I feel like this is a mistake ready to happen? He seems lovely,is fit and very polite,is it just too close for comfort if things go wrong?

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:08

Neither of us have any partner to answer to and it's just scratching a need,is that wrong?

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:06

If we both know the score to start with and know when to keep our distance,does it have to be such a wrong thing to do? We are both single with kids and only meeting up when it's appropriate so is it wrong?

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ZipZapZoom · 10/05/2024 22:03

I can't believe you went through with it. You have to know this is stupid and going to end poorly.

TastelessMiserySand · 10/05/2024 22:02

Good for you OP! Enjoy!

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:00

But what's the worst that could happen?

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 21:59

He is probably 10 years younger than me and it's the ego boost I maybe need right now

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StormingNorman · 10/05/2024 21:58

Don’t shit on your own doorstep. This could get very complicated.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 21:53

So basically,I did message him and made it clear that we both only wanted a very casual hook up based thing.I have my son with me all the time and he has his daughter on a 50/50 split.Slept with him a couple of times last week with plans to meet with him again on Monday.Probably unwise but at the minute,it might suit us both.

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Shiningout · 05/05/2024 16:41

Tbh I don't think it's usual behaviour for a bloke to just pass his number to a neighbour hinting about wanting a shag, just sounds a bit shady to me. I wouldn't, there's plenty of blokes Out there looking for a casual set up, you don't know the guy and he could turn into a right arse if it all goes tits up

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Possomoppossum · 05/05/2024 16:36

Maybe I just need to give my head a wobble and keep my distance.

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ThreeWheelsGood · 05/05/2024 06:53

You do know you don't have to sleep with everyone who gives you their phone number?

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 05/05/2024 06:48

EEwww no way, this is where you live and should be your safe space, too close for comfort. Just keep it to hi and bye.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 05/05/2024 00:41

Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:45

No,he passed me his number and made it obvious to call him when I was bored and fancied a bit.Is it wrong,am I overthrowing the potential problems?

Classy guy.

Can't imagine why he might be single?

Helplessandheartbroke · 05/05/2024 00:33

He gave you his number incase you fancied a bit? I would run a mile but it's your choice. Just make sure you use protection if you do!

determinedtomakethiswork · 04/05/2024 23:41

He passed you his phone number in case you fancied a bit one night? Did you see that as a compliment?

Kingoftheroad · 04/05/2024 23:10

Youre assuming that this nice, polite man only wants a FWB relationship.

If you really don’t want a relationship just be honest and let him know nicely.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 04/05/2024 22:58

No way. He’s probably a normal guy but imagine he turns out to be a creep or aggressive or abusive or have stalker tendencies etc. It would be awful to know he was so close if things turned bad and there would be no easy way to avoid him.

Ginkypig · 04/05/2024 20:38

I haven’t read past the first post

my gut reaction is dont shit where you eat!

it might be totally fine but if things go wrong or he turns out to be a weirdo this is your neighbour and you’re stuck putting up with whatever comes of it unless you can just up sticks and move easily.

im friendly with my neighbours, I might have a chat in the street with them or if they need to borrow a whatever fine or I have a couple of disabled or elderly who I have offered to occasionally pick up milk or bread etc if their shopping delivery isn’t correct or if there’s snow and they can’t get out etc.

but I am not friends with my neighbours, I don’t go to theirs or they don’t come to mine.

there’s plenty of opportunities out there for a women’s needs to be met without a neighbour fulfilling them.

ArchaeoSpy · 04/05/2024 20:27

thats the pickle if its on your doorstep and it goes wrong

AtrociousCircumstance · 04/05/2024 20:20

God, NO!

cakecoffeecakecoffee · 04/05/2024 20:19

Definitely no!

he could turn out to be a nutter. Or it could be really awkward.

EmoIsntDead · 04/05/2024 20:18

It’s never a good idea to shit where you eat

Dacadactyl · 04/05/2024 20:17

He sounds bloody awful.

I wouldn't care how fit he was, his attitude is gross.

If you value your peace of mind, don't get involved with this absolute chancer.

The cheek of him!

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 20:16

No, no, no.

Scousefab · 04/05/2024 20:14

Yep I wouldn’t go there - you will be making a huge mistake! Wait to be wined and dined! Xx