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To message neighbour?

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Possomoppossum · 04/05/2024 19:34

I've lived where I have for the past 2 years and recently a guy has moved into a flat underneath me.He seems single and the other day,passed me his phone number in the hallway.At first,I was a bit shocked and didn't think to do anything,however,we both appear single,why do I feel like this is a mistake ready to happen? He seems lovely,is fit and very polite,is it just too close for comfort if things go wrong?

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LovelyBitOfSquirrrel · 10/05/2024 23:19

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:36

Just wanted to keep details vague but if u see now,its not so weird to dissappear upstairs for 20 mins?

But he moved into the flat below you…

BettyWont · 10/05/2024 23:09

misszebra · 10/05/2024 22:42

people are jealous OP. good for you, and so what what anyone else thinks. if he's fit, nice and convenient why not

'People are jealous' is such a lazy, unthought out reply.

You have no idea how much sex anyone on this thread is having, or with who, or how often.

BettyWont · 10/05/2024 23:05

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:24

Not being awful but if he wasn't available and younger,I wouldn't even bother.Its not me punching,it's him.

So why do you need an ego boost?

And if he's not all that anyway, how is it even an ego boost at all?

He's walking around giving his number out to strangers in the hope of a shag, knowing if he keeps casting his line he'll get a bite.

misszebra · 10/05/2024 22:42

people are jealous OP. good for you, and so what what anyone else thinks. if he's fit, nice and convenient why not

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:36

Just wanted to keep details vague but if u see now,its not so weird to dissappear upstairs for 20 mins?

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ConsistentlyInconsistant · 10/05/2024 22:36

Well actually being 14 is a bit different I think. Still a sensitive age though but definitely an age where a single parent can have a bit of a life (and obviously leave them alone). Still wouldn't shit on my own doorstep though, had the opportunity myself as a single parent, didn't go there and very glad I didn't as my crush didn't last long, and we're neighbours for several years.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:33

Personally I am finding it hard to see where I am the ahole?

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ZipZapZoom · 10/05/2024 22:33

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:32

OK,my son is really 14,I just wanted to gauge opinion

Why would you lie about your son's age? That's really weird.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:32

OK,my son is really 14,I just wanted to gauge opinion

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StormingNorman · 10/05/2024 22:31

Just don’t get attached!

ConsistentlyInconsistant · 10/05/2024 22:31

But you have your son 24/7 so you're leaving him alone to go and shag this guy then? Yep, that's much better.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:29

I have never brought him into my owhome,just his when he is alone.I would never seek to upset my son or our dynamic.

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newwings · 10/05/2024 22:27

Don't shit on your own doorstep. At least wait a good while to make sure he isn't a serial killer 🤣

ConsistentlyInconsistant · 10/05/2024 22:27

Are you shagging him with your son in the next room? Honestly you don't know this guy and you're bringing him into your son's home. I think that's highly irresponsible.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:24

Not being awful but if he wasn't available and younger,I wouldn't even bother.Its not me punching,it's him.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:20

I couldn't care less what he does when I'm not with him,with all due respect he may be younger but I'm a lot better looking

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BakedTattie · 10/05/2024 22:19

ThreeWheelsGood · 05/05/2024 06:53

You do know you don't have to sleep with everyone who gives you their phone number?

She can if she wants to

BakedTattie · 10/05/2024 22:18

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 10/05/2024 22:16

Are you happy for him to give his phone number to other women that he fancies a bit with ?

Isn't he worried that you could turn into mad stalker ?
Suggest you watch "Baby Reindeer" together and see if he blanches .....

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What an unbelievably massive leap to assume 😂😂

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 10/05/2024 22:16

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:00

But what's the worst that could happen?

Are you happy for him to give his phone number to other women that he fancies a bit with ?

Isn't he worried that you could turn into mad stalker ?
Suggest you watch "Baby Reindeer" together and see if he blanches .....

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyHusband · 10/05/2024 22:16

Don't shit on your own doorstep.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:15

I have my boy with me 24/7,he doesn't need to know if I disappear anywhre@BettyWont plus it's on my doorstep?

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ZipZapZoom · 10/05/2024 22:15

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:06

If we both know the score to start with and know when to keep our distance,does it have to be such a wrong thing to do? We are both single with kids and only meeting up when it's appropriate so is it wrong?

What happens when it's no longer all good, you decide maybe you no longer want this set up or you find someone you actually want to date and he potentially turns nasty meaning your home is now somewhere you worry about being because you will bump into him and 10 year old could end up caught in the middle.

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Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:13

Tbh I was with my last partner for 20 years and never strayed.Things have gone pear shaped,I'm with my boy at all times and this seems like a harmless situation?

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BettyWont · 10/05/2024 22:12

Possomoppossum · 10/05/2024 22:08

Neither of us have any partner to answer to and it's just scratching a need,is that wrong?

If that's all it is, why not scratch it somewhere else?

slaggybumbum · 10/05/2024 22:10

Is this what life is like these days?

Do these liaisons involve the full menu of sexual activities?

I would be the first to agree, I’ve led a very secluded life and FWB have come along far too late for me.