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To judge people that get items for free then sell on

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Youaretoosweetforme · 04/05/2024 16:49

On Vinted etc

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CatchTheBalloon · 04/05/2024 17:03

This happened recently in my local Facebook group a lot of people said maybe she was struggle financially but then it was spotted she had sold 4 jumperoos in the space of 5 months so obviously done regularly since that isn't something a child has more than one of so was obviously given to her for free.

WhatFlavourIsIt · 04/05/2024 17:02

No, if I'm happy to give something away for free, it's because I don't want it or need it anymore. I really don't care what happens to it after it leaves me.

InSpainTheRain · 04/05/2024 17:02

I dont mind if they sell them on. I can't be bothered to do so. However I do object to the concocted story they give you when they turn up to collect the free items. 'Oh my son is a collector of 1980s memorabilia this typewriter will be the star of the collection" or.some such shite.

PurplePim · 04/05/2024 16:59

I do. In my mind passing things on for free is part of a social contract, and it's generally highly participated in in my area. Lots of people do it and it's beneficial both financially and environmentally, and encourages a sense of community.

When someone comes along and breaks that social contract it's galling, and leaves people feeling cheated. I've seen people ruled out of future free things as a consequence.

I especially judge if I've passed a item onto a friend for free because they asked for it or expressed a significant interest, and then they sell it shortly afterwards. So cheeky, and the actions of someone who's a soon-to-be ex-friend.

Similarly, when you lend someone something with explicit instructions to return it and they then sell it. Cheeky fuckers.

Precipice · 04/05/2024 16:56

Depends how they got them and at what time. If someone gives you a present you have zero use for, it's fine to sell it; there's no obligation to give it for free to someone else.

Bushmillsbabe · 04/05/2024 16:54

This hapenned to me. I belong to an 'acts of kindness' group and gave away some clothes my daughter had grown out of. Then another member alerted me to them being in vinted.
I tried to keep an open mind, thinking if someone is that desperate for money to that they would do something like this, then they must be really struggling to buy the basics for their family. Then I looked at the person Facebook profile and it was pictures of them on foreign holidays, showing off their new engagement ring etc.
It turned out that they were an admin on this group so approved posts, and either she or her partner requested things before others in real need could get them. She had over 500 items on her vinted account which she had got from those giving away their stuff to help others.

I was never going to sell them on as too lazy, but it was really frustrating that these things could have gone to people who really needed them.

Disgusting behaviour!

KikiShaLeeBopDeBopBop · 04/05/2024 16:50

I don't judge others who are struggling financially

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