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To judge people that get items for free then sell on

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Youaretoosweetforme · 04/05/2024 16:49

On Vinted etc

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Dacadactyl · 04/05/2024 17:55

I couldn't care less what people do with all the stuff I put on Olio etc.

It annoys me a lot more that people give away stuff for free "to help those less fortunate" just so that they can feel good about themselves for "helping the poor".

If im giving it away, it's cos I can't be bothered to sell it. Richard Branson himself could turn up to collect my old hoover and I'd still give it to him.

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Same. I hate those fb pages where you have to prove you’re completely on your arse. I’ve seen ones where admin have genuinely gone round people’s houses and looked in their cupboards before accepting their requests for food parcels. As for the reselling, it depends on why you’ve given an item away. If you’ve seen a post where someone’s put ‘I’m in desperate need of a cot for my baby, my little boy is still sleeping in a Moses basket which he’s outgrown and I can’t afford one, could someone please help me’. So you give them an old cot Out of pity that you were maybe thinking of selling, and then find out they’ve taken and sold it. THATS out of order. If you’ve stuck something up for free because you can’t be arsed to sell it though, you can’t blame people for being less lazy than you and making money out of it themselves

Itloggedmeoutagain · 08/05/2024 12:46

Charliebrow · 04/05/2024 17:58

To this people who don’t care what people do with items they’ve given away, why haven’t you just donated the item to charity?

Because if i give it away on a free site the people taking it don't have to pay anything.
If i give it to a charity shop the people who want it have to pay for it. E.g. sofa in a charity shop £50. Sofa on a free site £0.
If that means they sell it on and buy something for their kids what difference does it make?

Bushmillsbabe · 08/05/2024 12:34

PotatoPudding · 04/05/2024 18:51

If getting money for it gets them and their kids something they couldn’t have otherwise afforded, I don’t mind. It’s miserable being skint and unable to treat your kids.

Absolutely, if someone is doing this because they are desperate, then thats fine, it's still going to someone in need, just not quite in the way I thought it would.
But if someone is pretty much running a business on other people stuff then I think that's a bit cheeky.

PurpleJustice · 04/05/2024 18:59

When I give things away, it's because I don't want them taking up space in my house anymore, not because I'm trying to save the world.

Selling usually takes longer and is more effort. If someone else wants to collect something and put the work in to sell it, good for them! It makes no difference to me.

Peeeas · 04/05/2024 18:59

But I'm also in the camp of not really bothered what they do - I wasn't going to get round to selling it and my main motivation is keeping things out of landfill.

Peeeas · 04/05/2024 18:57

Charliebrow · 04/05/2024 17:58

To this people who don’t care what people do with items they’ve given away, why haven’t you just donated the item to charity?

Sometimes it's not stuff charity shops will take, e.g. tried to take perfectly good surplus pan set in and they made clear they'd just chuck it. Snapped up on Freecycle v quickly!

WouldURatherWinkieOrFinger · 04/05/2024 18:57

influencers do this all the time with items they’ve been gifted. Leaves a bad taste in the mouth

PrimitivePerson · 04/05/2024 18:53

Itloggedmeoutagain · 04/05/2024 18:44

If i give it away i don't care what they do

More to the point, you don't have any control over it.

Tophelleborine · 04/05/2024 18:51

And I think it's totally fine to say "please pass this on to someone else when you're done with it" - I've been given hand me downs with that stipulation. But even if it wasn't said, it's still the right thing to do if you were given something for free.

PotatoPudding · 04/05/2024 18:51

If getting money for it gets them and their kids something they couldn’t have otherwise afforded, I don’t mind. It’s miserable being skint and unable to treat your kids.

Tophelleborine · 04/05/2024 18:50

Totally agree with pp saying this is part of the social contract and "paying it forward". I don't give hand me downs to SIL anymore, because I was sick of seeing them on Facebook marketplace - often things she'd specifically asked if she could have when we were done with them.

ArchaeoSpy · 04/05/2024 18:46

i understand the moral side, but then its part and parcel of being part of a capitalist system

Itloggedmeoutagain · 04/05/2024 18:44

If i give it away i don't care what they do

moonlitmaze · 04/05/2024 18:43

If I give something away for free it means I no longer want or need it, so I don't really care what happens to it afterwards.

MysweetAudrina · 04/05/2024 18:40

No, my choice to give something away for free. Anything that happens after that point is of absolutely no concern to me and none of my business. If there are terms and conditions attached then they should be clearly communicated and agreed in writing.

Grotbagg · 04/05/2024 18:37

I was a bit miffed when I gave away a wheel chair in vgc and saw it for sale a couple of weeks later. I said when I passed it over that it should be given away to someone after she had finished with it

Youaretoosweetforme · 04/05/2024 18:11

I get all the points but I just feel it could go to someone who actually is in need rather then someone’s who’s going straight to a selling site.

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qwertyqwertyqwertyqwerty · 04/05/2024 17:59

I feel there are more serious crimes and abuse to worry about, this seems minor to me. I would judge if there was active lying involved, but otherwise I don't feel that concerned.

There have always been people who sell things.

I guess if there is tax evasion I don't agree with that (iirc there is a limit to how much you can sell?)

Charliebrow · 04/05/2024 17:58

To this people who don’t care what people do with items they’ve given away, why haven’t you just donated the item to charity?

Timee · 04/05/2024 17:57

I would be upset. It's all about paying it forward.
I often put things on our tiny village FB page free, from plants to furniture. I like the idea that someone I know can use it. I was a bit miffed when someone came to collect a sofa and said she lived 20 miles away but her friend had seen it. However it wouldn't stop me doing it again.

Dacadactyl · 04/05/2024 17:55

I couldn't care less what people do with all the stuff I put on Olio etc.

It annoys me a lot more that people give away stuff for free "to help those less fortunate" just so that they can feel good about themselves for "helping the poor".

If im giving it away, it's cos I can't be bothered to sell it. Richard Branson himself could turn up to collect my old hoover and I'd still give it to him.

FuckTheClubUp · 04/05/2024 17:53

I don’t really care enough to judge someone who does that

Pickingmyselfup · 04/05/2024 17:51

It doesn't bother me, if I sell something for cheap or give something away then that's my choice. If someone wants to try sell them on again for a higher price they can knock themselves out.

LBFseBrom · 04/05/2024 17:47

It wouldn't bother me, I doubt I would know anyway.