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Day 20 of cycle - pull out method!! 37 and should know better!

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Crazygal2024 · 04/05/2024 12:13

Ok so I don’t take the pill for one reason and another but we would usually use protection (all be it not that it happens often) anyway we had sex last night and didn’t use anything DH went old school and pulled out in time. But being usually very cautious in my thinking we’ve never relied on this in the past because I know that although not as likely you can still get pregnant this way.

my questions is AIBU to get the morning after pill? It’s been playing on my mind. We have a little one already and no intentions of another. I’m 38 DH 40. We are happy with what we have. What should I do!!!

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DontBiteTheCat · 05/05/2024 18:59

The MAP works by delaying ovulation, if you’ve already ovulated it won’t do anything.

Jinglesomeoftheway · 05/05/2024 18:56

If it makes you feel better, I've used the pull out method for about 10 years without tracking cycles, and got pregnant three times straight away when actually trying, and never had an accident. For me, it's pretty effective

neverbeenskiing · 05/05/2024 14:56

Crazygal2024 · 05/05/2024 14:23

So rang the chemist for some advice and practically said the same as you. It won’t really be effective on the day of my cycle tha I’m on. Unlikely to be pregnant but never know 🙈 I don’t bloody know what to do!!

There's not much you can do apart from take the MAP, hope for the best and get some reliable contraception lined up.

MammaTill2Pojkar · 05/05/2024 14:39

Nottherealslimshady · 05/05/2024 12:54

I've taken it, didn't have any side effects. It was during a low fertility time but I didn't want to be pregnant and figured I'd rather waste 60 quid than go through a termination.

60 quid 🙀

Candleabra · 05/05/2024 14:28

I think you could have a coil fitted to prevent implantation (but difficult over a BH weekend)

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Crazygal2024 · 05/05/2024 14:23

So rang the chemist for some advice and practically said the same as you. It won’t really be effective on the day of my cycle tha I’m on. Unlikely to be pregnant but never know 🙈 I don’t bloody know what to do!!

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TheRoseWriter · 05/05/2024 13:35

Yeah, if the sperms has already reached the egg, the MAP can do nothing. But always best to give it a try.

TheRoseWriter · 05/05/2024 13:33

Give your local chemist a quick ring and ask them the questions so you can get all the info you need. But I've taken it before, no side effects but the piece of mind was immense. Take a deep breath and allow yourself relax

WaltzingWaters · 05/05/2024 13:27

Neveralonewithaclone · 05/05/2024 13:09

Do you mean you took the MAP but still got pregnant?

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Yes. Split condom, not in fertile time but thought I’d take the MAP anyway. Still got pregnant!

SchoolQuestionnaire · 05/05/2024 13:21

WaltzingWaters · 05/05/2024 13:02

I used it, had no side effects - except still getting pregnant!

This happened to a good friend too. She was extremely shocked that map wasn’t foolproof. The doctor wasn’t at all surprised and said it happens all the time.

Spinningroundahelix · 05/05/2024 13:14

I have a day 21 baby - just saying.

Neveralonewithaclone · 05/05/2024 13:09

WaltzingWaters · 05/05/2024 13:02

I used it, had no side effects - except still getting pregnant!

Do you mean you took the MAP but still got pregnant?

Neveralonewithaclone · 05/05/2024 13:08

Is day 17 on a 28 day cycle too late / early for MAP to be effective? I've never quite understood why ds2 (aged 24) is here 😂

Vettrianofan · 05/05/2024 13:07

Get your DH to get the snip. Saves all this hassle.

Emma543 · 05/05/2024 13:07

WaltzingWaters · 05/05/2024 13:02

I used it, had no side effects - except still getting pregnant!

So glad it isn’t just me 🤣🤣

WaltzingWaters · 05/05/2024 13:02

I used it, had no side effects - except still getting pregnant!

FarmGirl78 · 05/05/2024 12:56

What do you call a couple who use pull out method?

Mum & Dad

Nottherealslimshady · 05/05/2024 12:54

I've taken it, didn't have any side effects. It was during a low fertility time but I didn't want to be pregnant and figured I'd rather waste 60 quid than go through a termination.

Candleabra · 05/05/2024 12:51

Crazygal2024 · 05/05/2024 12:40

@Candleabra just messing my cycle up causing spotting or making endo flare up.
I had endometriosis removed back last year and only the last few months actually feeling the benefits with no spotting and no pain. I’m scared all the hormones may affect it?

Oh dear, yes I see why you’re worried. I suppose it comes down to whether you want to risk a pregnancy. You’ll get a hormone surge with that too.
If it was me (and I didn’t want a baby) then I’d take the MAP. But please sort out your contraception. Yet again, the man takes the risk (and gets the pleasure) and yet it’s you dealing with the consequences.

Noln · 05/05/2024 12:50

If you usually have short cycles then by day 20 you will have already ovulated and the egg will be dead and gone. He also pulled out and did not ejaculate inside? You are 99% not pregnant, it's just so staggeringly unlikely. MAP delays ovulation so it personally seems pointless to take to me.

If you had irregular cycles that tended to be longer, suggesting you sometimes ovulated much later, then it'd be different.

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 05/05/2024 12:46

What do you do? Take the MAP, hope you're not pregnant and then sort out a proper method of contraception.
Don't risk this again.

If you don't want any more kids at your ages, and hormonal contraception doesn't suit you, your DH could have a vasectomy. No more issues.

jeaux90 · 05/05/2024 12:42

I've taken it, didn't have any side effects. Time for your DH to get the snip. My partner did a few years ago. It was liberating.

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Crazygal2024 · 05/05/2024 12:40

@Candleabra just messing my cycle up causing spotting or making endo flare up.
I had endometriosis removed back last year and only the last few months actually feeling the benefits with no spotting and no pain. I’m scared all the hormones may affect it?

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Candleabra · 05/05/2024 12:37

Crazygal2024 · 05/05/2024 12:32

Hi all. I’ve bought it just in case. I’m still torn on what to do. Has anyone taken it before?

What are your concerns?

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Crazygal2024 · 05/05/2024 12:32

Hi all. I’ve bought it just in case. I’m still torn on what to do. Has anyone taken it before?

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