Neighbour made me feel awkward and uncomfortable

Why the hell do you think you need to go and explain, sheer bloody madness.

I very much agree. I think he was fishing to see if he could get some paid entertainment from you. He thinks he's clocked a sex worker, probably because he wants some. The van sitting is concerning. I think he's been watching your house for a while, trying to work out if his misogynistic idea is correct.

He's a creepy bastard.

You really need to put him straight before it becomes more entrenched in his dirty little brain.

Be careful though. I smell potential predator in this interaction.

oh dear how much drama on this thread. neighbour is just a nosy sod who should mind his own business...
not sure why everyone is jumping to conclusions that he's out spreading lies and slander.

Wouldn't let this weirdo even show your bothered ignore him sad little man

When I was in 3rd year at university we had an awful neighbour. I lived in a small house with 2 female friends. The neighbour accused us of being whores and running a brothel. We had the same 3 men round each time (our boyfriends). So it would be a pretty unprofitable brothel.

@Bethabooo If a man said that to me I’d say he is out of his tiny mind.

A legitimate brothel would probably be busy morning, noon and night .

This idiot is just being pathetic.
Take not the slightest bit of notice.

He’s jumped to one hell of a conclusion. He is probably extremely nosy and judging everybody. Can you discuss with other neighbours how nosy he is and how they are friends of yours. Let him believe what he wants to believe but make sure others don’t. Hold your head high. Women are allowed male friends!

Me and DP bought a spa day voucher off WoWcher that was an amazing deal. It was afternoon tea, a full body scrub then full body massage, scalp massage and hand and feet massage and facial. The treatments lasted for two and a half hours and we then had an hour in a thermal spa (hot tub) with Prosecco and the afternoon tea.

It was £65 for both of us for the full day and everything was great so we really couldn’t believe the price.

We did notice the women working hardly spoke any English and DP noticed a lot of men coming in and out from a different entrance we used.
We could see them come in and be taken into other treatment rooms when we were sat waiting before our massage and drinking herbal tea afterwards in a relaxation room and also when we were in the hot tub.

I was telling my friend who is a beatification and works near the spa all about our good deal and she explained it was a brothel. They used WOWcher to look like a legitimate spa.
The men visiting looked totally normal like it was the most natural thing to queue to see these young girls, it wasn’t completely obvious but we should have realised sooner what was going on but we are obviously very naive!
I remember DP commenting that there were a lot of stressed business men getting a massage because a lot were wearing suits 🤦🏼‍♀️.

This was a few years ago and thankfully it was closed down, I hope the women who were working there have gone on to better things.

Just sounds like a creep trying to wind you up. Completely ignore the arsehole and try not to give it a second thought. Don’t engage with him at all.

I suspect he is a bit of a creep and can pick up on your nervousness and anxiety

Please, please don't think that SS would pay any attention to spurious claims from weird old men. They have enough to do without that!

These people generally do pick up, and on, quiet, anxious people don’t they.

Do you think your neighbour has picked up on this, and is deliberately winding you up?

He sounds really unpleasant, but realistically he can't do anything to you.

Were you worried he was going to report you to SS and they'd take your child away?

She’s probably not good with confrontation. I’m guessing the men she has friendships with and had a baby with are/were NICE men. I guess they didn’t make nasty insinuations. The whole crux of her opening post is that she’s concerned about being reported to a social worker.p, that would cause anxiety too, no?

Are you questioning the OPs words about her anxiety?

No OP - You do NOT need to explain yourself. You owe this pig of a man nothing.

He needs to be told that his behaviour is unacceptable and will not be tolerated - by you, a trusted friend, the police. It's not a conversation, it's a demand with consequences if he persists.

Of course you shouldn't have to deal with this. I very much doubt your the first woman he's behaved this way towards. Does he live alone? Wondering a more casual approach to a female partner might be an option? He won't understand subtle so dealing with him direct will necessarily have to be much firmer.

However he then started saying he didn't know what to think and started talking about brothels.

I would have shut him down right there and told him to stop being so ridiculous and backward. Next time he makes comments - or if you hear via neighbours - make sure you tell him to stop & shut up. Remind him, he's right, it is none of his f*cking business.

If it continues beyond that, get a solicitor to send a cease & desist letter.

You can write the word "fucking" on here.

Your neighbour sounds batshit.

Just ignore him. He can't do anything to you or to your child. I'm really not sure why you're anxious.

@ByUmberViewer what is the point of your comment on anxiety? Her anxiety shouldn’t stop her from confronting this man? Most of us would feel uncomfortable about confronting a man who watches us and makes comments about brothels…

ByUmberViewer - what an ignorant post! Do anxious people not have friends or any relationships at all? Best shush if you have no idea what you're talking about.

OP - most people would describe me as an extrovert, frequently the centre of attention and making everyone feel comfortable. I'm neurodivergent and an expert masker. Only those closest to me know that's not the whole picture. I don't need much sleep and use that time to ruminate and process the day while stimming - go me. I keep this to myself for fear of arseholes who tells me I can't possibly have anxiety.

Back to you OP - he senses your vulnerability and is taking pleasure in your discomfort. Absolutely do involve others, friends, police. Come down hard on him or he'll take as a sign to continue.

Also OP, people like him only pick on vulnerable people because he’s a coward. Just freeze him.

Instead of turning this inwards on yourself, and getting anxious, turn it towards him and get angry.

How dare he say that to you! The cheek of him! Can you imagine ever saying something like that to a neighbour?
So what makes him think he has the right?