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AIBU to wish that there was an alternative site to MN?

33 replies

whyhere · 04/05/2024 08:52

So often here I just despair and walk away. Currently there are a number of threads where OPs in awful circumstances get jumped on as though they are the problem. But then I forget to cancel notifications so still get emails about various threads. If I see a subject that I have some knowledge about I get dragged back in, in case I can be helpful. Every time I regret it, because the nastiness of a small but persistent number of posters is just so depressing.

Are there any similar sites to MN, but without the dreadful unpleasantness?

OP posts:
SagePenguin · 04/05/2024 09:00

PotatoPudding · 04/05/2024 08:56

I think people get carried away by the power of anonymity. They wouldn’t make the same comments on Facebook and they certainly wouldn’t do so in person.

I have just read comments criticising a woman for doing a 10 minute car journey in her dressing gown (with clothes underneath) FFS!

I read that thread and didn't find it particularly unpleasant. Poster asked for opinions. It's a large site so there will always be some sharp comments and disagreements, but on the whole I find it an interesting and supportive place.
OP, do you know you can hide boards if you choose? If I'm feeling fragile I hide the AIBU board.

JacquesHarlow · 04/05/2024 09:00

Hey @whyhere i actually agree with many of your observations.

three thoughts:

  1. Try and get off AIBU. A lot of people mistake AIBU for Mumsnet in its entirety. It isn’t. Some of the other boards on Mumsnet are far more nuanced
  2. Ignore all the people saying “go to Netmums”. It all falls under the vibe on here where people think the proposition of “AIBU?” should act as a cover for depressed middle class women to have a vicious kick out at anyone who dares to voice problems. The same people who say AIBU has to be “robust” and people “don’t like their arses handed to them”. I call bullshit on this. Not everything has to be abusive on this forum. We can speak well to each other.
  3. Start your own forum! No, seriously, I’d happily have a look if you did, I think it could be a real tonic. Why not?
PhuckyNell · 04/05/2024 08:59

Well since you can like posts in here I think things have got worse - posters trying to outdo each other for the laughs. Which is sometimes funny but also I don't think in the general spirit.

I am on holiday at the moment and even in a year standards have changed here - for the worse. So it's a worldwide issue not just mumsnet

i may have already had three Proseccos so pinch of salt me if you like (see what I do for
likes 😂)

PotatoPudding · 04/05/2024 08:56

I think people get carried away by the power of anonymity. They wouldn’t make the same comments on Facebook and they certainly wouldn’t do so in person.

I have just read comments criticising a woman for doing a 10 minute car journey in her dressing gown (with clothes underneath) FFS!

Sharptonguedwoman · 04/05/2024 08:56

For goodness sake, just unsubscribe or whatever.

VainAbigail · 04/05/2024 08:55

Weird OP.

Try NetMums.

SagePenguin · 04/05/2024 08:55

Netmums?

chaticat · 04/05/2024 08:53

No one is making you use mumsnet

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