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Wanting to be told if my kids are somewhere

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 03:09

Hello all so long story short my daughter got sick Thursday and she missed school today because she was still under the weather. Also today my other daughter had a school trip I was to help chaperone. I asked my brother if he could watch my daughter since she couldn't go to school and he agreed and I'm thankful. But now I hear my daughter ended up leaving to go with my sister. I called constantly to check on her while on the school trip and no one told me anything. Aibu for being upset about this? Anything could have happened and I was not aware that she even left from being with my sister. My daughter is still in a booster and the whole time she was out she was not in her booster. My family knows I'm really big on my babies safety. This makes me so uncomfortable.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:34

@AliceOlive thanks for understanding what I'm saying! ❤️

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:33

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:27

Also why even go on the trip if you would spend the whole time on the phone, why not send your brother in your place and stay home with the unwell child?

I went because I paid for me and my daughter. I went because I sent in my background check. I can't send someone to replace me bc a background check through the school is needed before heading to the trip.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:32

@Sirzy yes I can! End of discussion if the teacher had a problem she would have said so. I was not playing on my phone. I was checking on my child. Good day

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:32

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:23

If you were my sister I wouldn't agree to babysit again. Too much drama.

Well now he didn’t babysit, did he? Because he let someone else take her child.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:31

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:26

So your sister lied to your brother and just came and took your child? How did she even know she wasn't at school? Why wouldn't your brother say no or check with you and why did she need to drive her? Honestly there's so much important information missing?

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No, we have ample info.

Her brother agreed to keep her child, then let someone else take off with her with no car seat instead. Then failed to even relay the info to the OP.

Nothing else is important here. Not where the OP was at the time, what she was wearing or what she ate for lunch.

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:27

Also why even go on the trip if you would spend the whole time on the phone, why not send your brother in your place and stay home with the unwell child?

Sirzy · 04/05/2024 15:26

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:07

I'm an adult I can step away to call my child.

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No you shouldn’t. Not if you’re supposed to be supervising children on the trip.

phones shouldn’t be out other than in emergencies.

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:26

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:18

@AliceOlive
Yes and no she doesn't have children. My brother said he thought I knew, but I didn't.

So your sister lied to your brother and just came and took your child? How did she even know she wasn't at school? Why wouldn't your brother say no or check with you and why did she need to drive her? Honestly there's so much important information missing?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:24

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:23

If you were my sister I wouldn't agree to babysit again. Too much drama.

Awesome!

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:23

@AliceOlive yes we spoke and explained to him how that made me uncomfortable. He understood because he has a son. I just wish I had a heads up before. That's all

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MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:23

If you were my sister I wouldn't agree to babysit again. Too much drama.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:20

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:18

@AliceOlive
Yes and no she doesn't have children. My brother said he thought I knew, but I didn't.

Did you let him know it bothered you? It was on him to keep you informed. Does he have kids?

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:18

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:14

Your responses are making you sound even more unreasonable to be honest.

Maybe they didn't tell you because you would have obviously overreacted. Your child was safe, with people she presumably knows and nothing bad happened so why the need to catastrophise?

Is it not illegal in UK to drive a child without a proper car seat? Because it’s hugely illegal in US as well as very unsafe.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:18

@AliceOlive
Yes and no she doesn't have children. My brother said he thought I knew, but I didn't.

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:17

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:16

Correct, we kept in touch so I could check on how she was feeling all day. But not a call or text when my sister took her. She will usually do things like this. To be clear my only issue is that no one notified me.

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So she took her for no reason and didn’t tell you.

She sounds like a control freak. Does she have kids?

Is your brother afraid of her?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:16

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:14

Your responses are making you sound even more unreasonable to be honest.

Maybe they didn't tell you because you would have obviously overreacted. Your child was safe, with people she presumably knows and nothing bad happened so why the need to catastrophise?

Thanks for your response zipzap.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:16

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:13

So he kept in touch but never told you that your sister came and took your DD away in the car without a car seat?

It’s completely unreasonable on all fronts. She shouldn’t have been taken out of his care without you knowing.

Who does this? Is your sister always this disrespectful to you and others?

Correct, we kept in touch so I could check on how she was feeling all day. But not a call or text when my sister took her. She will usually do things like this. To be clear my only issue is that no one notified me.

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ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:14

Your responses are making you sound even more unreasonable to be honest.

Maybe they didn't tell you because you would have obviously overreacted. Your child was safe, with people she presumably knows and nothing bad happened so why the need to catastrophise?

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:13

So he kept in touch but never told you that your sister came and took your DD away in the car without a car seat?

It’s completely unreasonable on all fronts. She shouldn’t have been taken out of his care without you knowing.

Who does this? Is your sister always this disrespectful to you and others?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:12

@BoohooWoohoo no they don't live together. My sister lives with her boyfriend my brother lives with my mother.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:10

bloodyplumbing · 04/05/2024 07:16

When you say anything could've happened, like what?

Why do you not want your daughter in your sisters care?

Everyone is concerned about their children's safety.

A car accident
Her car could have broke down
Anything

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BoohooWoohoo · 04/05/2024 15:08

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:06

He didn't call her for help and my brother does not have a vehicle.

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Do your siblings live together then ?

Usually I would only transport a sick child to get medical attention or if I was taking them to my house. Why did your sister take dd in the car ?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:07

WASZPy · 04/05/2024 07:23

YABU if you were 'constantly' on your phone during a school trip. Did none of the teachers tell you to put it away?

I'm an adult I can step away to call my child.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:06

BoohooWoohoo · 04/05/2024 07:23

Why did your brother call his sister for help ? Maybe you should have left her car seat just in case?

He didn't call her for help and my brother does not have a vehicle.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:05

Savoyafternoon · 04/05/2024 08:05

How old is she?

6

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