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Wanting to be told if my kids are somewhere

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 03:09

Hello all so long story short my daughter got sick Thursday and she missed school today because she was still under the weather. Also today my other daughter had a school trip I was to help chaperone. I asked my brother if he could watch my daughter since she couldn't go to school and he agreed and I'm thankful. But now I hear my daughter ended up leaving to go with my sister. I called constantly to check on her while on the school trip and no one told me anything. Aibu for being upset about this? Anything could have happened and I was not aware that she even left from being with my sister. My daughter is still in a booster and the whole time she was out she was not in her booster. My family knows I'm really big on my babies safety. This makes me so uncomfortable.

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MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:54

@AliceOlive

I'm just going by the OP stating that she 'called constantly'. Her words. Although she seems to be rapidly dialing that back now.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:53

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:46

The school trip was to a farm. Parks,animal petting when I took pictures of my daughter and her friends I shot my brother a text. That simple I was not on the phone every second of our trip.

What kind of animals? What kind of phone? This is critical information to the topic. 🤣

YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 04/05/2024 15:53

It doesn't sound like you're cut out for supervising on school trips, between 'constantly' being on your phone and taking photos of other people's kids, so it won't be an issue in future I imagine. I would let this one go.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:53

@SpeedwellBlue read the messages above! Or don't idc

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SpeedwellBlue · 04/05/2024 15:51

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:44

Y'all really think I had my phone out every second of this school trip. A call every other hour is not CONSTANTLY on my phone.

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You said you were calling constantly. 😁

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:51

@ZipZapZoom this the last response you'll get. Because you're being ignorant. Before every trip the TEACHERS will let the chaperones know if the kids are allowed to be in photos and it's talked about Before parents start taking pictures. And at the end of each trip ALL parents send their photos to the teachers. If it was an issue I would not have taken the photos. Good bye

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:50

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:40

@AliceOlive

What drama?

"Constant" phone calls, catastrophing outcomes, a MN thread.

That drama.

If you* don’t want to take a few phone calls or texts throughout the day, you shouldn’t watch anyone’s child and especially not a sick one.

You definitely shouldn’t go pick up kids you weren’t asked to watch.

And if you stay off mumsnet you are unlike to be troubled by any “drama” by a thread asking opinions. I don’t think her brother or sister are being forced to participate here today. But one might be here of their own volition.

*collective you

SpeedwellBlue · 04/05/2024 15:49

WASZPy · 04/05/2024 07:23

YABU if you were 'constantly' on your phone during a school trip. Did none of the teachers tell you to put it away?

I agree. You should have been watching your group of kids

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:48

@ZipZapZoom I'm aware of what I said. And every hour and half is constant 😴

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ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:47

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:46

The school trip was to a farm. Parks,animal petting when I took pictures of my daughter and her friends I shot my brother a text. That simple I was not on the phone every second of our trip.

You were taking pictures of the other children on your mobile phone???

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:46

The school trip was to a farm. Parks,animal petting when I took pictures of my daughter and her friends I shot my brother a text. That simple I was not on the phone every second of our trip.

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ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:45

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:44

Y'all really think I had my phone out every second of this school trip. A call every other hour is not CONSTANTLY on my phone.

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You were the one who used the word constantly in your first post?? Confused

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:44

You haven’t indicated if you agree or disagree that taking someone’s child away from the place they expect them to be for no reason without informing them is ok or not.

Well I'm still trying to work out why she came or how she even knew the child wasn't at school. Maybe her brother asked her to come and is now making up stories about how she just turned up? Who knows.

He clearly didn't question her turning up and taking the child or he would have queried it in one of the many calls or messages?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:44

Hankunamatata · 04/05/2024 15:41

Yabu for constantly being on your phone.

If you don't trust a person to have your child and ring you if needed then you shouldn't have left dc.

Y'all really think I had my phone out every second of this school trip. A call every other hour is not CONSTANTLY on my phone.

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Hankunamatata · 04/05/2024 15:41

Yabu for constantly being on your phone.

If you don't trust a person to have your child and ring you if needed then you shouldn't have left dc.

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:41

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:38

Why would it be a wind up? This isn't the you have to agree with the OP forum she's asking if she's being unreasonable and people are allowed to think she is?

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You haven’t indicated if you agree or disagree that taking someone’s child away from the place they expect them to be for no reason without informing them is ok or not.

Care to weigh in on the topic? Or shall we discuss what type of trip she was chaperoning and if we think it was a good choice for the school to make or if there are better places they could have taken the class that day?

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:40

@ZipZapZoom I did exactly what was required of me. And all babies went home safely to their parents. Good day

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MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:40

@AliceOlive

What drama?

"Constant" phone calls, catastrophing outcomes, a MN thread.

That drama.

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kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:39

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:36

@AliceOlive

Well now he didn’t babysit, did he? Because he let someone else take her child

Yes their other sibling 🤷‍♀️. And if I was either sibling I wouldn't babysit again due to the drama.

Good thing you're not. Me being concerned for my child's safety is not too much drama🤷🏼‍♀️

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AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:38

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:33

I went because I paid for me and my daughter. I went because I sent in my background check. I can't send someone to replace me bc a background check through the school is needed before heading to the trip.

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It really shouldn’t be a big deal. It’s just weird that your sister came and took her and he didn’t bother to tell you. Disrespectful. Indicative of people who don’t have much sense.

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:38

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:37

Is this a wind up?

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Why would it be a wind up? This isn't the you have to agree with the OP forum she's asking if she's being unreasonable and people are allowed to think she is?

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:37

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:36

So tell the school you can't go? If you're spending the whole trip on your phone then you're not doing what is required of you or supervising the children. I'm still not sure how your sister even knew she wasn't at school though or why your brother just let her take his niece when you hadn't said she was getting her or he'd confirmed it with you?

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Is this a wind up?

AliceOlive · 04/05/2024 15:36

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:36

@AliceOlive

Well now he didn’t babysit, did he? Because he let someone else take her child

Yes their other sibling 🤷‍♀️. And if I was either sibling I wouldn't babysit again due to the drama.

What drama?

ZipZapZoom · 04/05/2024 15:36

kimberlyy · 04/05/2024 15:33

I went because I paid for me and my daughter. I went because I sent in my background check. I can't send someone to replace me bc a background check through the school is needed before heading to the trip.

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So tell the school you can't go? If you're spending the whole trip on your phone then you're not doing what is required of you or supervising the children. I'm still not sure how your sister even knew she wasn't at school though or why your brother just let her take his niece when you hadn't said she was getting her or he'd confirmed it with you?

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 04/05/2024 15:36

@AliceOlive

Well now he didn’t babysit, did he? Because he let someone else take her child

Yes their other sibling 🤷‍♀️. And if I was either sibling I wouldn't babysit again due to the drama.

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